If you don't return my messages, consider him dead.

Recently, I found that people in my circle of friends generally got a disease, including me. Many times, when you see the news, you automatically reply in your mind, which leads to accidental arc to people. The other party asked me why I didn't reply. I opened the dialog box with a puzzled face and found that I didn't reply.

Tell a story. Once upon a time, a man saw the information, subconsciously wanted to recall it, and even thought about the wording. I just happened to be delayed by what I was doing, so I thought I would come back late, and then when he finished, he had forgotten.

When he remembered it, maybe a few hours or even a few days later, the best reply time passed and it was shelved. Many times, for a long time, and finally he died.

When I say death here, I don't mean physical and mental death, but I have no place in this social group. Cang Kejia said, "Some people are alive, but they are dead".

Suppose you have a friend who always doesn't like to reply to your messages. As soon as he said it, he made an excuse to say,' I'm too busy, in fact, he replied in his heart'. After a long time, are you still willing to chat with him and make friends with him?

How long can friendship last for a person who always forgets to reply to his friends' messages? And how can a person without friends have a sense of existence in society? There is no connection, no group, and no one can cooperate with him, so it is no different from death.

I have a best friend who is slow to heat. It took her a long time and great courage to open her heart and accept me, and then showed her most enthusiastic side. She loves to tell me everything, and I am her most intimate person. Of course, this was before we met.

The reason why we became strangers is embarrassing, because I don't like to reply to her messages.

Because it is far away, she will tell me what she did every day, met the sun and went out to eat with Jing. Someone added her and she didn't know what to talk about. She will also tell me that she has gone to find a job, made plans for her future life, cheered me up and shared her love view with me.

I always don't answer her, partly because I answered her with my brain and then forgot, and partly because I always feel that I am good with her. If I don't answer her, nothing will happen and our relationship for 78 years will not be affected. I didn't reply to her at first, and then I sent it again. QQ WeChat Weibo message was sent again. Later, she stopped sending it. You look at people in a strange way. You have nothing to be afraid of. You always hurt the people closest to you and most worthy of cherishing. I didn't realize it until she commented on it several times in my circle of friends and deleted it. It's over. I went back to our chat interface, and the last chat showed six months ago.

Only when I told someone about her by chance did I know that she was moving. She started selling crystals, and she had new friends, but I knew nothing about it. While wandering around, a group of people went downstairs to her house, called her and got through, and then she hung up on me. I was confused at that time, and my heart was a little tender. I feel ants crawling around my chest. Later, I stood under the tree and slowly took a few fuzzy shadows.

Maybe I am a person who likes the new and hates the old, and I am a little fearless. I didn't show up when she needed me most. I hugged her when she was bursting with negative energy and told her there was still me. So for someone who doesn't return her messages, I'm dead in her heart.

I still regret what I did. I still owe her an apology, but I can't get out of that step. It's no use.

So first of all, I want everyone to understand that it is very rare to have a friend who sends you messages on his own initiative. Some people may feel that they are too busy to chat with others and talk nonsense.

What you said may really be irrelevant. The topic may be as small as having a litter of puppies at home, or passing by the park and finding flowers in bloom.

Are important.

No one would say that to someone who doesn't care. Some people say that I am not cute at all, but when I meet someone I care about, I am not only cute, but also cute to death.

Nowadays, the social rhythm is so fast that everyone has his own goals and rhythm. Besides caring about you, I can't think of a better reason for a person to take the initiative to talk to you about trivial things. In the face of such a person who even wants to share "clouds in the sky are like cotton candy" with you and doesn't appreciate each other's words, life is inevitably a little sad.

The "Buddhist" culture that was blown out some time ago is generally in the state of "whatever, whatever, it doesn't matter". Buddhists generally don't make too many friends, they don't get too close, they can have it or not, they look down on everything and don't seek to win or lose. It is said that everyone grows into an independent individual, and no one can live without anyone. We are destined to be friends, don't force you and me to the end. I won't hold you back, and neither will you. If I make you unhappy, you can go.

I mean, bullshit.

Say "I'm ready to spend my life with you, and I'm ready for you to leave at any time." This is the best emotional view, affectionate and not entangled. " It's all bullshit

Responding to other people's information in time is the most basic goodwill. Interpersonal relationship is sublimated from constant communication, but you even missed the opportunity of communication. You lost not only a friend, but also communication skills.

Maybe you are really busy and can't have a long talk with your friends, but remember to make it clear why, get together with him when you have time, and don't ignore any friends who deserve your nostalgia.

I'm more and more afraid of my friend leaving. They never seem to learn to say goodbye. They have disappeared from my life.

I used to feel that there was not much less than one, and there was not much more than one. Leaving shows that we have unresolved differences. Let's go. We'll have new friends. But later, I felt more and more that clothes were not as good as new ones and people were not as good as old ones. I still like old friends, understand each other's temperament and weaknesses, and get along naturally and casually. A little talk about impulsive regret and youth, as if time stayed forever a few years ago.

So even if new friends can chat again, don't ignore those old friends who will send you messages on their own initiative, and don't let yourself die in their circles again and again.

Of course, this is a general statement. I'm not saying that everyone will blacklist you if you don't reply to him.

A friend, an old friend of 1978, knows the other party's attributes too well and doesn't care much about whether the other party's information can be returned, because when something really happens, a phone call will come regardless.

On New Year's Day, he called me and I said, "You are so stingy. Now you just come to chat with me. Why did you go to Christmas and not give me a red envelope! " He was very helpless: "Elder sister, go and see for yourself. You haven't heard from me since 65438+February 22nd ... "

When I saw it, I was embarrassed at that time. I swear I will reply to the message in time. He laughed it off and shrugged his shoulders.

Indeed, there will be such people, but the more such friends need to be cherished, right? Besides, don't try this easily, because you won't die if you don't die.

It is not easy to make friends, but do it and cherish it.