The hostess doesn't return text messages or WeChat.

This situation is actually very common for many reasons. For example, she wants to cut off contact with you completely. You hurt her, so she doesn't want to talk to you now; Too much information about you bored her, and so on. Whatever the reason, you should change the way you get along with her now, so that she can have a better impression of you.

Everyone is used to blaming themselves for their mistakes and constantly apologizing+promising. Maybe you think that this will let the other party see their sincerity, but I don't know that this will not only eliminate the other party's negative emotions, but also deepen her negative impression of you invisibly, thinking that you are such a person, thus strengthening the other party's determination to break up.

So although apologizing is sometimes necessary, don't just apologize, but learn to transfer the contradictions and conflicts between you to external objective factors, so that the other party thinks that you didn't make mistakes on purpose, thus breaking the stereotype of you. For example, you can attribute it to the influence of family background, the damage caused by her previous feelings, etc., so that she can feel the same for you and feel that you didn't mean it before, nor is it irreversible.

We can say this (share four examples for your reference):

Example 1: I've been thinking a lot these days. When we were together, I did a lot of things that I thought were good for you, but made you feel uncomfortable. I always limit your freedom, and I don't know how to put myself in others' shoes ... (summarize my recent reflections, problems in my feelings, apologize briefly, and show my attitude)

Ex. 2: Maybe it has something to do with my growing experience as a child. My parents are always busy with work and seldom accompany me, which leads to my lack of love and fear of losing, so when I like someone, I can't help but want to hold on tight. I didn't expect this to bring you so much trouble. Now that I think about it, you are also very tortured. If I were you, I wouldn't stand it. (Transfer the contradiction of breaking up with the family of origin)

Ex. 3: I am also learning the knowledge of intimate relationship recently, and slowly adjust myself to get rid of the influence of the past. (Express your change)

I don't want to pester you when I contact you this time You don't have to worry (show your attitude and lower your predecessor's vigilance).

Ex. 4: My original intention from beginning to end is to hope that you can be happy, but I used the wrong method in the past. Now I feel that although I broke up, I can still be friends without deep hatred.

Speaking of which, I thought of my ex-boyfriend. After breaking up with him, he has been pestering me with text messages and phone calls. Originally, I just deleted his contact information, but his behavior really disgusted me. So in the end, I didn't want to read his content at all. I thought it was a trouble for me, so I blacked him out and finally changed my mobile phone number! So I suggest you don't call her again, it will really make people feel annoyed!

Don't start pestering and questioning just because the other party didn't give you an ideal response, because what you have to do now is to match your words with your deeds. Your behavior should be mature and rational, accept the fact of breaking up, face the problem and solve it, instead of saying mature words and starting to put pressure in disguise because you can't get a response, exposing your sense of demand crazily!

Therefore, when you sincerely finish writing this passage, you should still allow the other party the right not to reply to you. If you haven't completely dispelled your worries and are not sure whether you have really changed, not replying to you now doesn't mean that you or she didn't listen to your words. She also dare not promise to be your friend. Do you think she will forgive you for getting carried away?

Respect the other person's decision and let her see your attitude and sincerity. After a while, don't send another 800 messages a day, so your previous "sincere" words will be covered up and invalid.