How to guide emotions with wisdom?

There is a saying in Su Wengu's naive theory in Neijing that "nourishing the mind without getting sick", which is also an important principle of nourishing the mind. The so-called "mental defense" mainly refers to people's ability to exercise, control and adjust their conscious thinking activities and psychological state, so as to keep it in harmony with the body and the environment without disorder. "Inside" refers to the outside, "keeping" refers to persistence and maintenance, and "keeping the heart" emphasizes the important role of internal environment-mental stability on human health, that is, "being safe from illness", that is, keeping the spirit inside. How can people get sick? So, how to "keep the spirit inside"? When talking about how people get old, Huangdi Neijing clearly pointed out: "From time to time, we should obey the gods, speed up their hearts, and disobey their orders. Without restraint, we will fail at half a hundred." "Half-hundred years old" here refers to aging before getting old, and the key reason for aging lies in "always protecting God". The meaning of the emperor, control, control. Sometimes you are kind and sometimes you obey God, which shows that you are not good at controlling your spirit. In order to covet temporary happiness, it is harmful to physical and mental health and promotes premature aging.

Spiritual dissipation, which can not be maintained internally, leads to aging, because "spirit is also blood", which means that qi and blood are the material basis of God. Excessive spiritual dissipation will make qi and blood lose, which will lead to aging. Facts have proved that a person who often cries and laughs too much will not live long. People with moral cultivation must always control their own spirit and deal with all kinds of things calmly and objectively. For any major changes and complex problems encountered in daily life, we should maintain a stable psychological state and a philosophical attitude towards life, and conform to the laws of things to solve problems. As pointed out in Shou's Theory of Nourishing the Mind: "There are some things that you haven't met before, and you can't worry too much when you meet them. If you can't stay, let it come." We should let nature take its course, let nature take its course, be angry and afraid, be happy and worried, and do things well. This is also a way to nourish the heart. " This is the best explanation for the specific application of "mental internal defense", and its central meaning is to ask people to take a peaceful attitude towards the external environment. Ann, adapt to the stimulation of various things outside; Harmony, the response to external things should be natural, and don't worry about all kinds of trivial things. This is especially important for the elderly, so it is better to be "inseparable".

The second is "competing with each other." This is also an important health motto in Huangdi Neijing, which means that people have different social status, but don't admire each other and be satisfied with their own standards. Competition refers to social status. High refers to nobles and rulers; Next, for the broad masses and the people. But in real life, it is very difficult to really compete with each other. Since ancient times, many people have killed each other and even lost their heads for the sake of high officials and rich salaries. What about health care? Some people are not only jealous of people who are taller than themselves, but even feel uncomfortable when others are taller than themselves in talent, morality, reputation, achievement and appearance. This kind of person can often produce a kind of "nameless fire", which makes him depressed and irritable. Modern research shows that when jealousy burns, a series of changes will occur in the body, such as the increase of sympathetic nerve excitability, the increase of blood pressure and the decrease of serotonin activity level, which will cause immune dysfunction, brain dysfunction and decreased disease resistance. In the history of ancient and modern China and foreign countries, there are many examples of tragedies caused by jealousy. Zhou Yu in Romance of the Three Kingdoms was brilliant, depressed because he was jealous of Zhuge Liang, who was more resourceful than him, and finally vomited blood and died. During the Warring States Period, Pang Juan's jealousy swelled viciously, and he did something to poison his classmate Sun Bin. Wang Lun in Water Margin is also very jealous. When Lin Chong, Chao Gai and others just went to Liangshan, he knew that these heroes were better at fighting than himself and refused to take them in. Lin chong couldn't help it any longer. He denounced Wang Lun in public and said, "Is this water margin yours? You jealous thief! You don't have much talent, and you can't be a cottage owner! "

There are no "great talents", only "jealous talents", which can be said to be the common feature of all jealous people and a self-centered morbid psychology. Generally speaking, the strong don't envy the weak, but not all the strong. Jealousy often occurs between two people of similar level. For example, Party A and Party B have a good relationship and similar working ability. Suddenly one day, Party A's performance surpassed Party B's, so it was valued by the leaders and admired by everyone. If Party B can't treat it correctly, it will lead to jealousy. This, in turn, reflects the strong exclusiveness of jealousy, which always occurs between two people with close relationship and equal status. For a person who has nothing to do with himself, even if he is better than himself in everything, he will not be jealous, especially in modern society, which is highly competitive. The fundamental way to eliminate jealousy is to establish a correct world outlook, strengthen ideological cultivation, turn envious feelings into chasing actions, and control them benign. It's better to "compete with each other" and "be content."

When you find that you may be out of control, you should know that it is not that you don't want to control it, but that you may not be able to control it. For example, on a sad night, your persistent sadness can't be resolved. You should send a short message to someone you trust or like. In fact, you don't want to get anything from each other, just to vent some emotions of yourself. ...

How do emotions arise? In the face of complicated real life, people will constantly encounter natural disasters, wars, work setbacks, career development, interpersonal communication, family and work balance, economy, emotion, illness and other events. They all exist objectively, and everyone can't escape. Because everyone's personality characteristics, growth environment, education level and life experience are different, the perception, experience and explanation of these events will be different, and the corresponding behaviors will naturally be different. For example, after seeing what happened in Wenchuan earthquake from the media, we will be very sad, and many people will even burst into tears, and soon express our sympathy and compassion by donating money and materials and volunteering in the disaster area. Even so, we can't feel the overwhelming pressure brought by this incident like the local victims. Therefore, emotion is the result of individual's interpretation and evaluation of environmental events according to their own needs. Only the events that you perceive, are related to your personal life and cause your perception will produce emotions and pressure in your own interpretation. So everyone feels different pressure in the face of the same incident.

What effects does emotion have on people's physical and mental health? Generally speaking, after explaining the perceived events, it will produce positive and positive emotional experiences and behaviors that meet their psychological needs; If you don't meet your psychological needs, you will have negative emotional experiences and behaviors. Excessive excitement and negative emotions will make people's psychological activities out of balance, and can cause a series of physiological changes in the body, leading to psychological obstacles, thus endangering people's physical and mental health. It is believed that stress and personal physical quality play a role in the occurrence of diseases at the same time. When people's mood is highly tense, the sympathetic nerve controls the adrenal gland to secrete adrenaline and paraadrenaline. These hormones promote metabolism and release stored energy, so breathing and heartbeat are accelerated, blood pressure and body temperature are elevated, and cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases are prone to occur. Individuals with family history of hypertension, diabetes, etc. If you can't reasonably adjust the stress caused by emotions, you will have a higher incidence rate than the general population. The study also found that when dealing with stress, the organs with the most sensitive response, the highest activity intensity and frequency are most likely to get sick. For example, long-term depression of sadness and crying can cause respiratory diseases; When people are anxious and angry, the secretion of gastric juice increases, the acidity and pepsin of the stomach increase, and the gastric mucosa is congested, which is easy to form ulcers. At present, the recognized "Social Readjustment Scale" for measuring stress also proves that people who encounter negative life events are prone to colds, tuberculosis, leukemia and allergic diseases due to the decline of overall immune function. Besides, not only major life events make us feel bad and lead to psychological imbalance, but also messy life trivia makes us fidgety, just as people say, "You can avoid elephants, but you can't avoid flies", which is miserable. If not resolved in time, these negative emotions will accumulate over time and may lead to mental disorders and depression. In ancient China, there was also a saying that "happiness hurts the liver, anger hurts the lung, fear hurts the kidney, and thinking hurts the stomach". It can be seen that if you want to live a long and healthy life, you must learn to adjust your emotions and maintain a state of psychological balance.