How to refuse a girl's kindness without hurting her self-esteem?

A direct refusal or a tactful refusal. A direct refusal to her face may hurt her self-esteem. No matter how strong a girl is, she will hurt her self-esteem. Maybe you're going to cry again, so if you don't want to hurt the other person's self-esteem, I suggest you just refuse!

Since you can't refuse directly to your face, you'd better be tactful. You can politely refuse in person, as long as you show your attitude and don't mix ambiguous feelings in it! But if you are a person with poor verbal skills who is afraid of saying the wrong thing, I suggest you don't refuse her face to face.

You can refuse her by chatting software, sending messages or short messages. In this case, as long as the words are not too rude, the girl's self-esteem will not be hurt. If it really doesn't work, you can find someone to refuse her. Find a girl's good friend or best friend and let them persuade her to give up for herself.

Although it may feel a little evasive, it is a good idea to let her friends persuade her. You can still think about it.

If you think there is only one way to make her give up, you can ask her friends to help persuade you, and you can also send her a message to show your thoughts and attitude. Using these two methods at the same time should make girls give up.

But in any case, it is not particularly easy to refuse others without hurting her self-esteem. Carelessness will still hurt people's self-esteem, so before refusing, you should seriously consider the above methods and then decide that it will be better.