How to deal with parents' urging marriage

In the face of parents urging marriage, I mainly adopt the following five coping methods:

1, put facts and make sense. For example, I have a sister at home who has been dating, but she hasn't taken off her bill. Blind date has not been successful for so many years. This process will also make them realize that it is not so easy to find someone.

2. Take people around you who have a bad married life as negative materials. Cousins who marry early and have children early are younger when they get married, with immature outlook on life and poor economic conditions. So I am not very happy after marriage. Let them know that marrying the wrong person is more terrible than not marrying.

3. Correct attitude and active blind date. Usually in communication with parents, we must not avoid and reject the matter of finding a partner, let alone ignore their demands. That means you've been actively looking for someone. In fact, parents are not so pedantic, and they can gain understanding and support through active communication.

4. Try to make money and improve the economic level. There is not a parent in the world who doesn't want their children to live well. Parents urge marriage, but they still feel that it is easier to get together and support each other when there are more people. If you can solve the livelihood problem when you are single, you can also buy big things like a house and a car. Seeing that you have the ability to live independently, they will feel much more at ease in finding someone. After I encouraged my sister to buy a house the year before last, my parents are indifferent to her finding someone.

5. Focus on your own life and don't live in the eyes of others. Often rural parents have a deep-rooted heart of comparison and feel that their peers have grandchildren. People around you will feel humiliated when they ask about the unmarried children. I always tell them not to live in other people's eyes and comments. Although this concept is difficult for them to accept at the moment, it can be properly guided to break away from others' eyes and evaluations by saying it several times.

For a long time, I disdained to communicate with my parents, and even felt that I was not on the same channel as their thoughts. It was not until I broke up when I was old that I had more contact and communication with my parents. I just found out that my mother's thoughts are very avant-garde and open-minded. When we are lying in the same bed, we can have a good talk before going to bed, just like the night talk in the university dormitory.

Most importantly, as long as we are willing to express it, she really understands and sympathizes with our young people's self-righteous ideas. Therefore, urging marriage can also be weakened through communication. I hope that in the future, we will choose to marry someone because of suitability and love, rather than settling for the second best because of urging marriage.