Mother-in-law's immoral performance (there is an unreliable mother-in-law at home)

Wen | Love in the north and south of the city is time. We often think that marriage is no different from love except to give each other a guarantee of love. It is true that after Deng stepped into marriage, you discovered that marriage not only provided a guarantee for love, but also a family that accompanied him all his life.

Among them, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult. Don't be naive to think that having a good husband is easy to mess with. You know, this relationship is not equal.

Some mothers-in-law are actually not bad, but some are unreliable. What is unreliable? Unreliable means that you can never count on her to help you. Because, an unreliable person, even if his ability is strong, it is difficult to achieve something.

So, what are the performances of unreliable mother-in-law?

1. No honesty: Cheng Yi: People who touch people with sincerity will respond with sincerity.

If a person doesn't even have the minimum integrity, how can he stand on the world? If he stays with such people for a long time, it is often us who suffer. They often agree happily, but they soon forget it. It was clearly said what time to pick up the children, but it happened that after a few points, the teacher called and found that the old man had long forgotten to pick up the children.

2. Blind conceit Usually conceited people have one thing in common, that is, they are narrow-minded. They always go their own way, don't listen to other people's opinions and don't know how to reflect on themselves. Give people an aggressive and strong feeling.

With such a mother-in-law, there is often a sense of oppression. They will not respect your ideas, let alone think of you. Being with them for a long time will not only affect your mood, but also make you more depressed.

Unrealistic life is the most taboo for ambitious, unrealistic and down-to-earth people. In life, you will meet many such mothers-in-law. In their eyes, if they are better than others, their grandchildren should have what they want, and their grandchildren should go to school whatever other people's children go to. They will never consider whether you have this condition.

In communication, you will always get angry because of their ideas, making one head two big.

So, what should the daughter-in-law do when she meets these unreliable mother-in-law? Beckham gives you four tricks, which are easy to handle.

Biro Ballauff: Unreliable people seem to have sworn enemies with the word reliable.

1. Sit together calmly and talk it over. Many daughters-in-law think she is a mistress. What reason can she say that she is a mother-in-law? So, watching my mother-in-law's unreliable behavior, I suppressed my resentment and accumulated more and more. Finally, the diaphragm between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law stood up like a wall.

In fact, if every mother-in-law is a mother, she would also like to see her children happy. If you can put a straight attitude and talk to her calmly, Beckham believes that no mother-in-law will embarrass you, or that you don't respect your elders. Even if you say something, they will be unhappy at that time, but if you think it over, they may tell you openly and listen to your opinions more.

And communication is not a big problem for a family. It's normal for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to sit together and chat. However, if chatting can't solve it, try another way.

2. find a husband to adjust. If you feel that you can't talk to your mother-in-law, or you have difficulty communicating, ask your husband for help. Your husband is the closest thing to you. He knows your thoughts, your character and temper. You ask the question, and he can find the root of the disease. If you can't say it, as a mother, he can easily say it to himself.

After all, it is his mother. He knows better than you that even if a mother is angry with her son, she will get better soon afterwards.

Through her husband's message, her mother-in-law's attitude will naturally ease and not be too tough. Mother-in-law knows what you think, so naturally she won't guess what you think by her own thoughts. However, husband adjustment is also a technical job. Don't let your mother-in-law mistakenly think that you are complaining about your fault with her son, which will only worsen our relationship.

Ask my father-in-law to help him get along with his mother-in-law for decades. Her mother-in-law knows her better than her husband, and her mother-in-law often complains with her father-in-law. Tell your father-in-law what you think. I believe most father-in-law are easier to get along with than mother-in-law.

You tell him that after weighing, he will tell his mother-in-law that his father-in-law has lived for most of his life and is mature in speaking and doing things. He knows how to tell his mother-in-law.

Therefore, at home, when you really can't handle your mother-in-law, you might as well start with your father-in-law. Usually, there is no friction between your father-in-law and your daughter-in-law. Old people want to have a home and everything. Say something to your daughter-in-law, and she will definitely take it seriously.

4. Capture her real mother-in-law As a woman, no matter how old she is, there is a little woman who loves beauty, treasure and shopping in her heart. As long as you find out her preferences and follow her, she is a stone and will be captured by your bombing one day.

Besides shopping, usually cook her a meal, help her do some housework, and be diligent, and she will naturally like you. If two people have a good relationship, they will naturally say everything, and she will pay special attention to your affairs.

Many mother-in-law are unreliable, sometimes because she doesn't care at all, but you have captured her heart, how can you not take your own affairs seriously?

5. Divorce is the worst way. Beckham suggested that you should not leave until you have to. After all, it is not easy to form a marriage. If you have a bad relationship with your mother-in-law, try to live separately. After all, how desperate you are about your marriage, will you choose the road of divorce?

Don't forget, your marriage, except your mother-in-law and your husband, was divorced rashly. What do you want your husband to do? What do you think of your marriage?

Some things take a step back. However, Beckham does not advocate compromise, because there are indeed savage mother-in-law in life, and they are provoking husband and wife every day. If you meet another timid husband, get a divorce.

So Beckham wants to say that marriage is not easy, feasible and cherished. Although the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not the whole of marriage. If you can't change it, try to adapt. If you can't adapt, prepare for the worst.