If you could do it all over again, would you choose to run away on the wedding day?

After dinner, Qipa said that there was a debate topic: On the wedding day, I found that I didn't love each other so much. Should I run away from marriage?

The opposing party, Huan Jun, thinks that it is better to take a long-term view and let each other be separated with dignity than to choose such a "social death" way of escaping from marriage. Zheng Fang Xiong Hao thinks that if he finds that he doesn't love, he should stop in time and bravely choose his own happiness. For all onlookers, this is a noisy wedding banquet, but for those who don't love, all this is an abyss. Therefore, even if he "escapes from marriage" at the wedding scene, it doesn't matter.

so, what do you think of running away from marriage?

in my opinion, don't run away.

My friend Tingting, whose predecessor ran away from the wedding. They have been in love for 3 years. At the beginning of 22, their parents had already discussed that the wedding would not be held until the end of the year because of the epidemic. Set the date for the weekend before the winter solstice. The two took wedding photos, went to the civil affairs bureau to register for marriage, ordered banquets, bought wedding candy, and accompanied them. In fact, they are already husband and wife, except for a ceremony to inform relatives and friends. I don't really know her that well, except that we went to the banquet that day, and the guests arrived as scheduled. The bride was a little nervous at the door, but she didn't see the groom.

Just like TV series, we came to the banquet, the wedding ceremony was delayed, and the guests were stoned and stoned. Are whispering, all kinds of guesses. Later, I saw the parents and brides of both sides on the stage and said a few words. Probably, the banquet will not be held today. I'm sorry, everyone, please go back first, and then I'll give you some money one by one. With that, the bride's mother cried. It was inconvenient for everyone to ask more questions, so they dispersed.

later, about two months. When I went back to my hometown, I met Tingting and talked about it. I waited for a long time that day, and finally he sent me a short message. He said that he went to pursue his freedom, that he found that he didn't love me so much, that he didn't want to delay me, and that he didn't want to settle for his life. So, I left.

Tingting said, "Actually, he left when he wanted to leave, and broke up when he broke up. I didn't mean that I couldn't leave him, but I couldn't figure out why I didn't say it earlier or later, but I just said it at that time."

I thought about it and didn't know what to say. After a few polite words of comfort, I walked away.

On the wedding day, I find that I don't love each other so much. Do you want to run away from marriage?

Maybe you have hesitated many times before the wedding, but you have a lot of worries about running away. Are you taking care of the overall situation or following your heart? On the wedding day, you finally made up your mind to leave. But I still advise you to respect each other. Even if you don't love and don't make a decision, you can end your unwanted life. After all, you have loved each other. Do you just leave this pile of mess for each other and their parents to clean up, and then leave freely and smartly?

Your courage to face yourself is commendable, but when we face other people's lives, even if we don't care anymore, we don't need to leave an indelible shadow on them. Life is not a TV series, and not all endings are happy. If you find that you don't love and have the courage to leave, then it will be good to get together and leave. Everyone will appease their parents and leave again.

not running away now is not to let you live like this from now on, but to have a good ending to the end of this relationship.

Because after all, how many people can know what true love is when they are young? Love is the product of short-term preservation, and eventually it has to go to family. Choosing marriage is nothing more than living together. Young couples are always with each other. If they can be with each other from youth to old age, it is also a kind of deep love. But it wasn't because of love that I survived those days.

even if you don't love, you don't need to leave a shadow on the other person's emotional path.