What should I do in the face of my ex's stalking?

In a sexual relationship, whether you are a man or a woman, you may be entangled by the opposite sex (of course, the same sex is also possible). Maybe it's your suitor, maybe it's your ex, maybe it's your divorced partner, or it's the object of a breakup or divorce.

Common forms of tracking are:

Slight: WeChat, short message text bombing, constantly sending small compositions, voice matrix;

Ordinary: WeChat voice call, video, telephone bombing, people who can make more than 300 calls a day;

Serious: harassing you in reality, blocking you at your home, looking for you at your work unit or school, waiting for you to appear anywhere you may appear, constantly tracking you and monitoring you;

Terrible: threatening death, either threatening you with suicide or threatening you with your own personal safety, forcing you to be together.

Some visitors will be very entangled in the face of each other's persistent entanglement and don't know what to do. Because on the one hand, I will find pestering and beating very annoying; On the other hand, I think the reason why ta pesters me to get close to myself is that she loves me very much?

Maybe as a stalker, I think I will pester each other because I really love each other. But this is just an excuse to believe that you will be stubborn and hurt each other in the name of love.

To love someone is to give them what they want, such as freedom, space, happiness, pleasure, happiness, respect and so on. At the same time, you can only give when the other party wants it, and you can't force the other party to accept it when the other party doesn't want it. Because even if you give what the other person wants, if you ask for it, the other person will feel pressured.

Therefore, stalking is not a kind of love. If you have to say love, it is not love for you, but a manifestation of love for T A. Because t a can't accept the result that we can't be together, we have to force you to listen to ta, so obviously it's not for you, just for ta himself, so the reason why ta insists on hitting you is not the performance of loving you, but the performance of ta's selfishness. Even if the other person really loves you and needs you, at least you can be sure that the other person doesn't know how to love someone.

So, what should I do in the face of others' persistent entanglement?

1. I still have a good impression on the other party, and the other party's stalking is only slight.

In this case, you can try to guide the other person to get along with you correctly.

For example, you can express: XX, I saw that you contacted me many times recently and sent me many ideas. I've read them all. It is understandable that you want to be with me now, but from my point of view, I really need some time and space to adjust my mood and life now. If we can all calm down first, then maybe we can get along well. Otherwise, if you keep contacting me, it will make me want to run away from you more.

After the expression, if the other person is still rational, he may adjust the way he wants to be with you, give you the space and respect you want, and then slowly adjust the other person to make him know how to love you better. After you express it, the other party will still be persistent regardless.

Then you may want to think it over. Do you really want to leave room for each other? The other person may not love you, regardless of your feelings, and don't care about your feelings. If we get back together in the future, it is estimated that it will be difficult for a long time.