How to ask others for help

Question 1: How can I ask others to write a letter of recommendation for me? Maybe the content of this article doesn't apply to everyone, but my own personal experience and experience in the past few weeks. I hope it will be helpful to friends who are preparing or interested in applying for studying abroad. Inevitably, there are some improper expressions, so please correct them by experienced students. The most important part of the study abroad documents includes PS (Personal Statement) Personal Statement and RL (Letter of Recommendation) Letter of Recommendation, whether applying to a British or American-Australian university. PS is of course written by yourself, and RL generally needs to be issued by a university professor. Being able to win a sincere and detailed recommendation letter for yourself will undoubtedly add points to your application. I asked for letters of recommendation from three teachers who taught me this semester, namely, practical students' campus TV, economic English and German-English translation. The final result is to get two letters, one of which meets the application requirements and makes me very satisfied. Let's take the recommendation letter from the German-English translation teacher as an example to talk about the process from making a request to obtaining a recommendation letter step by step. Then I will also summarize the reasons why the other two attempts were unsuccessful. Step 1: I think it's best to ask in person, so that I can get the most direct answer from the teacher. If there is no chance, you can send an email. The advantage of the latter is that you can think carefully, organize the language well, and avoid the tension and embarrassment of face-to-face with the professor; The downside is that you may not get a reply for a long time. My translation teacher is a person who can reply to emails in time, so I used the second method. E-mail title: Is it too straightforward to commemorate [your name]? No, don't be shy to "point out" your purpose in the title. At this time, "straight to the point" is actually a wise move. This principle should continue to be adhered to in the text. Text: My initial idea is: 1. First, thank the teacher for the time spent in class, which shows that he has gained a lot; 2. Then write that you want to apply for a postgraduate program in a university; Finally, I hope the professor can write a letter of recommendation to himself. Then I suddenly realized that this was a completely wrong order. Some people joke that westerners should read letters from the east from the bottom up, otherwise they will be completely at a loss, because the real purpose of letters often appears at the end. This is not unreasonable. Orientals attach importance to implication, while westerners prefer directness, which is the difference of thinking habits between East and West. Therefore, respecting the habits of westerners, the final writing order is just the opposite, reversed to 3.2. 1. The font can be Arial, 5th. This is my first email to the teacher: Dear Dr. [surname or full name], please explain the purpose of this letter. My name is Fan Yi, and I attended your course "Translation I" (Group J). I am writing to ask if you would like to write a thank-you letter for me. Explain why I want to continue my studies in translation. After returning to China, I intend to apply for a master's degree in translation in Britain. Therefore, it would be very helpful if I could receive your recommendation letter to support my application. I really appreciate it. Here, I also send my own articles and my more detailed resume ...>& gt.

Question 2: How to politely ask others for help in English? ....

You would be so kind ......

Is it possible that I can let you ........

can you ......

Question 3: It is difficult for me to ask others for help. How can I post it online? It is impossible for everyone to know, but to let most people know, you can try to hype it, such as dealing with the problem yourself and clicking on it yourself. Anyway, it's not good enough Only one person can solve your problem. There is no need for everyone to know.

Question 4: How to skillfully refuse other people's requests? To maintain friendship, we must abide by the following rules: don't do anything shameful, even if someone asks. -Cicero

In daily interpersonal communication, it is appropriate to help others enthusiastically and be responsive to their difficulties. But you must do what you can, and you must learn to refuse what you can't do. If speaking directly won't disappoint and embarrass the person seeking help, and an answer that meets the expectation of the other party is easily accepted by the other party, even if it is rejected, then the following methods can be adopted.

Please tell someone.

Cleverly use a third party to convey what you can't refuse in person. This method is generally used when others want you, but you can't refuse it in person, or you say it's inappropriate. At this time, you can use a third party as an intermediary to convey your refusal skillfully. For example, a friend of yours invited you to his birthday party, and you said yes, but there happened to be someone you didn't want to meet at the party. You wanted to refuse to attend the party, but you were worried about making your friend unhappy. Then you can find a friend like you, bring a gift to your birthday friend and apologize for not being able to attend the party.

Point the way.

When you feel powerless or unwilling to accept a friend's request, you can solve the problem in another way. For example, a friend of yours doesn't do well in math, and I hope to get your help during the exam. You know this is incorrect behavior, but if you refuse directly, it is likely to hurt the other person's self-esteem. You can say: If I help you this time, the teacher may doubt your grades. Why don't I outline some review points for you before the exam Then the other person will think you still care about him, and you won't be angry. After Lili became the director of the personnel department of a bank, she became busy. Many people came to her for help, which made her very headache. One day, another man came to Lili's house. The person who came here this time happened to be her old classmate. My son graduated from college for a year and his work has been unsatisfactory. He wanted to change his job, so he came to his old friend to do something. The old classmate said straight to the point. What is his major? The old classmate handed Lily her son's information. After reading the information, Lili knows that she can't help, because not only her major is wrong, but also her child's foreign language level is not good, which obviously doesn't meet the requirements of the bank. But Li Li also knows that she can't refuse directly, otherwise she will lose face to her old classmates. Unfortunately, we have no plans to recruit people recently, but don't worry, I know a friend who seems to be recruiting people there. After that, Li Li copied a friend's contact information and gave it to her old classmates. Although it didn't work out, my old classmates are still very grateful to Lili.

Make another choice

When your friend asks you to do something, but you don't like it, refusing it directly may hurt the other person and make the other person feel that you don't respect him. For example, on weekends, your friend wants you to go shopping with her, but you don't want to go to crowded places. It's better to suggest to her: it's a beautiful day today. Let's go for a walk in the suburbs and get some fresh air. By doing so, you not only subtly refuse each other, but also won't make them feel that you are rejecting him.

change the subject

When a friend asks you to do something you don't want to do, you can subtly let the other person know that if you are not interested in his suggestion, he will quit. For example, you are playing with a friend this weekend. He wants you to go out with him next weekend, but you have other plans. Why not just say: it's very late today, and playing too hard on weekends will affect my work. I should go back to rest. In this way, you will give the other person a hint that you won't go out with him again on weekends, and the other person will understand the meaning of refusal in your words. Xiao Nan met a man at a blind date. At first, they got along well, but soon, Xiao Nan found that they were incompatible with each other and planned to find some excuses to cut off contact with each other. How about going fishing in the suburbs next weekend? When leaving, the man invited Xiao Nan again. We must work all the time next week, and so must the weekend.

Question 5: What should I say if I ask someone for help? To put it bluntly, if others can help you, they will certainly help you. Let's talk about the topic you used to talk about before, and then directly say that we want to ask you for help. In that case, I wish you success. I think this method is quite good. If you want others to be nice to you, be nice to others first.

Question 6: How to ask others for help?

Question 7: What should I say if someone else is busy and asks him for help? First of all, see if your own affairs are urgent.

If you are not in a hurry, just wait for others to finish the work.

Very urgent and important words

Then tell each other sincerely.

I have something very urgent.

I hope you can help me.

I would be grateful for that,

Please take the time to help me.

Question 8: What language should I use to express my sincere heart and ask others for help? You don't have to consider any language. I believe that as long as you are sincere, the other party will feel it. Wish you success!

Question 9: How to ask others for help politely? How to ask for help

There is nothing impossible in the world, only people who can't do it. A man who can handle affairs can easily control the situation of life in a complex environment, make the impossible possible and finally achieve his goal. The key is to see what methods, skills and means you use.

People who can do things can do all kinds of things perfectly if they do things smoothly; People who can do things always have a smooth life and can make great achievements. People can't be idle when they are alive. Big things, small things, happy things, sad things and troubles ... these "right and wrong" are not transferred by our will. We must face them and solve them. And if you want to solve some difficult things, you must also learn to ask for help. So, how to ask for help?

First, pass the psychological barrier.

Since we can't go to Dont Ask For Help, we might as well ask for help with confidence. Asking for help must be natural and unrestrained. Asking for help doesn't have to be bluffing and full of empty talk, but it doesn't have to be dejected, begging for mercy and being laughed at.

Second, choose the best route and method.

Now the professional division of labor is clear, looking for people everywhere may not be able to do things well. You must find out the situation and find someone who can help you.

Third, be patient.

Asking for help from others doesn't necessarily mean that everything goes with the flow. It may be reluctance, indifference, or even refusal. You must not feel that you have lost face and been insulted, thus losing patience.

Fourth, understand others.

Some people who ask for help always think that the person who asks for help must be miraculous and can do everything with a stroke of a pen. Actually, this is not the case. Everyone has his own difficulties. If you can share and understand these difficulties, you won't find it too difficult to ask for help.

Fifth, don't ask too much of others.

Don't chase others for help, be sure to ask others to do something, or you will feel insufficient. In other words, ask people to be satisfied, do as much as others can, and don't force others to do difficult things. For example, asking for help should start with the simplest. If you set too high a goal and embarrass others, you'd better ask for the second best; If you can't do it next, ask again. You should cherish others, even if they just lift a finger.

Yesterday, when some of our friends were chatting, they accidentally talked about asking for help. Some said, "I don't like asking for help"; Some people say, "Dont Ask For Help can't handle affairs in today's society". I agree with the latter statement.

We have too much helplessness in real life, so you have to ask for help. If you are an unemployed youth, hope to find a satisfactory job; If you are a clerk, I hope you can rise to the top; If you are a patient, I hope the doctor can treat yourself carefully; If you are in urgent need, I hope to borrow some money ... these big and small hopes constitute life. Life will force you to ask for help from others, and whether you can get help from others depends largely on whether you have the skills and strategies to ask for help.

Some people frown at the mention of asking for help and are even ashamed to sue others. They have a certain prejudice against asking for help, thinking that they must be grovelling and condescending. In fact, asking for help from others must be based on self-esteem, self-respect and self-love, and be modest and fair. In my opinion, in order to get help from others successfully, we must follow two basic principles. First, be sincere and polite. As the saying goes, sincerity is the premise of success and is polite to people. Second. Avoid taboos. Everyone has scruples about certain words and behaviors because of their different personalities and life experiences, so don't offend them. "The Art of War" said: "Know yourself and know yourself, and you will be invincible." This sentence also applies to the skills of asking for help. When we want something from someone, we might as well do some reconnaissance on that person's hobbies, temperament, knowledge and experience, and then go there calmly, and we will get unexpected results.

We sincerely want other people's things, but not necessarily others can meet our requirements. When we are rejected, don't pursue the reasons too much. Indeed, being rejected is very uncomfortable. Everyone wants to know the reason, but if you are obsessed with each other, you must ask the original reason, which will often destroy the feelings of both sides. Don't be too persistent when asking for help. Now that the other party has refused, there must be a reason. If you insist on your own requirements too much, you will not only embarrass the other party, but also put yourself in a passive position. There are many unpleasant things in life, so why bother about trifles ... >>