The husband's family doesn't want to add a name to buy a house, and the girl buys it herself. AA after marriage, go Dutch on the mortgage! Is this the right thing to do?

As the old saying goes, money can buy a house, but it can't buy a home. Theoretically, it is. However, the house is a hurdle that can never be avoided in marriage. Money can solve it smoothly. If there is no money, there will be many contradictions. Some couples are forced to break up because of the problem of marriage room when talking about marriage. Some people will say that years of feelings are not worth a suite? That is the reality. A house can be a straw to crush a relationship.

I have seen many such examples. Couples with good feelings break up when it comes to marriage. There are various reasons, which may be that we can't afford a wedding room, or that the bride price has not reached an understanding, and then it is because of the interference of two old people. I always feel that it is a pity that a beautiful relationship breaks up because of these external conditions. Unexpectedly, this kind of thing actually spread to his head, which is really dog blood.

I have been with my boyfriend for three years, and my relationship is getting more and more stable. Our work has also settled down, and marriage is also on the agenda. It is still a very old-fashioned topic. Of course, if you want to get married, you must prepare a wedding room. I didn't think this was a problem before. I am the only child in my family, and the conditions are not bad. My father is a public official, and my mother is engaged in education and has her own training institution.

Boyfriend's parents are both employees. Although the family is not rich, it is good to have a pension after retirement. I think it is difficult for their family to buy a house in full, and the mortgage is still no problem. At first, the parents meant that the two families would collect the full amount together, and each family would write our name, which was the most appropriate. Is it unfair that one party pays for the decoration and the other party buys furniture and appliances? Really can't. There is no problem for the two families to make a down payment. We will repay the loan after marriage. Young people always have to struggle by themselves. Of course, this is just our own idea.

As a result, my boyfriend's family disagreed. My boyfriend explained to me that his parents are old ideas in the countryside and always think that buying a house is a matter for the man's family. Let me not worry about it. Their family will get the house ready. My parents were a little surprised. It turns out that their family strength is ok!

In this way, we bought our favorite house in a few days. After all, buying a house is a good thing. My parents and I thought their family could buy it in full, so we didn't have to worry about anything. I didn't expect to buy it by mortgage. Because I was not asked to go when I went through the formalities, I definitely didn't add my name. I am so worried at the thought of paying off the loan of 15 together after marriage.

My boyfriend who bought a house came to discuss with me and asked me if I could bear part of the renovation costs. People didn't say that our family paid for the decoration, just said that we bought a house and were going to get married next. Maybe there is not enough money at home. I have an impulse to blame my mother. If you couldn't afford a house, you would have said so. What's the big deal?

I was very angry and asked him that the house had nothing to do with me. Why should I pay for the decoration? Why should I repay the loan with you? When my boyfriend saw me unhappy, he immediately coaxed me. He said, don't be angry. This money should be lent to you. Can't I pay you back later? I'll pay the mortgage, and use my salary and the money you earn to subsidize my family. Can't we just live a good life?

Listen, what fallacy is this? He pays the mortgage and I support the family. In case of divorce, he can still have a house. What about me? I had a few words with him and was told to be narrow-minded. Hehe, your family made a long-term plan and called me stingy. What is this?

As far as my boyfriend's salary is concerned, it's almost the same as mine, and there are still three melons and two dates left after paying the mortgage. I shudder at the thought of this, and I have no idea. I had a quarrel with him and went straight home. When my parents saw that I was unhappy, they knew that I had quarreled with him. I told them about it and my mother was very angry.

My dad is quite calm. He said, well, isn't he mortgage to buy a house? I'll buy you one, too, and then we'll get a loan. You can tell him that after marriage, all expenses will be AA system, and everyone will pay their own mortgage, and they will not interfere with each other. In fact, when things get here, everyone with a discerning eye understands that my boyfriend's family is simply calculating me. If I still get married foolishly, I will definitely suffer.

Then I told my boyfriend that I just wanted to test his attitude. I told him: to be fair, my parents bought me a suite. Why don't we live on AA system after marriage? Then go Dutch and let's not interfere with each other financially, ok? My boyfriend paused, and when he reacted, he began to criticize me for being too calculating, saying that I was calculating him.

I laughed when I heard him say that. Who's plotting who? You can do this, but not in our house. What is your double standard? If you think it over, take advantage of our family. Who is stupid these days?

In the face of this man's accusation, I have no nostalgia for him, and I am completely dead. At this point, the three-year relationship is over.

Men, take it easy. Don't beat your wishful thinking so loudly. Be careful that you are the last one to get hit in the face.