Should buses wait for disabled people?

Every year’s college entrance examination essay questions attract much attention from netizens. This year's material composition question in Chongqing not only tested the writing skills of more than 225,000 Chongqing candidates, but also became a spiritual torture for people from all walks of life. For a time, there was a lot of heated discussion on the Internet.

If you were a passenger in the car, would you be willing to wait a minute for this disabled mother? Yesterday, with this question in mind, reporters conducted interviews with citizens of different ages and professions.

Wait

An extra minute of waiting means more care

"There are too many possibilities in this question. But if you really put yourself in their shoes, In reality, I will still wait, even if I have opinions in my heart." Luo Anren, a citizen born in the 1970s, is the director and vice president of marketing of a medical equipment company in Chongqing. He said that for a child to make such a request, there must be special or special circumstances, and it is convenient for others and for his own convenience, not to mention that the person on the bus is a disabled mother, which requires tolerance and understanding. "Harmonious social relations require everyone to be tolerant and generous, to be anxious about others' needs, and to think about others' needs."

Fan Wenwei, a sophomore girl majoring in journalism at Southwest University of Political Science and Law, also agreed to wait. "This topic actually talks about the impetuous psychology of us modern people, which requires us to be more patient when dealing with people and things. I think everyone in society should be more careful about the environment we live in and the people around us. , care more, so that this society will not look too indifferent."

Liu Aileen, a student from Sichuan Foreign Language School, also agreed, "Just relax for a while, smoke a cigarette, and brag, no matter where you are. What about wasting this minute? But in this car, an extra minute of waiting is an extra moment of love, and it can also bring a little warmth to others in a busy day."

" My career determines that I can't afford to lose this time, but as long as I wait too long, there is no problem." Yesterday, Xia Zongbin, who has been a brother for 15 years, said frankly that he once waited for a passenger for more than 20 minutes, but was let go. The pigeon. "In this case, it is best to ask the passenger clearly about the situation and how long the wait will be. If the passenger is disabled, I will accept it if I wait a little longer."

No waiting

Public *** services cannot delay others by themselves

“In fact, if it is not the last bus, or if you have to wait 30 minutes for a shuttle bus, even if you are disabled, you should wait with your children. Instead of letting the child run and occupy the car first, leaving a car full of people to wait for her alone." Just when many people think that we should be more tolerant, the views of netizen "Orange Tree Nest" also gained a lot of views. People support.

Jiang Yu, 35, who lives in Lijiatuo, said that if he were a passenger in the car, he would not choose to wait. First, no specific reason was given when the child got on the bus, so who would be willing to wait in thin air? Second, if this is the peak period of commuting, such waiting will trigger a butterfly effect. Many commuters may be late, and the vehicles behind them will not be able to enter the station, which will lead to traffic jams and so on. "I have personal experience. Once I walked two minutes late during rush hour, the journey changed from 40 minutes to two hours."

"Bus drivers also have system assessments. Every departure, arrival The stop time is stipulated. If the bus is late, it will affect his performance evaluation. One moment, the disabled passenger is weak, and the next moment, the driver may be weaker than her. The difference between public and private services. Right here, you can’t delay others for your own reasons, the system is the hard standard.” Netizen “Open Heart” said that he would be very moved when he saw this in the past, but not anymore. It's not the last bus, so why do people who go to work have to wait? Then everyone will be resentful.

Zhou You, who lives in Huixing, Yubei, is an office worker born in the 1980s. He also agrees with "not waiting." "It's not that I don't have fair ethics. Everyone's time is precious. How can you be sure that the people in the car are not in a hurry? Society is based on contracts first, and then favors. Unless he explains the situation clearly and asks for permission Obtain the consent of everyone or more than half of the people in the car. If you blindly emphasize caring for others and ignore public order, this is moral kidnapping.

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Reflection

What should I do if the person who finally gets on the bus is not a disabled person

The two views of “waiting” and “waiting” are controversial on the Internet. At that time, someone raised another voice: The key to the problem is, why didn’t the little boy tell the truth when he got on the bus? If he had told the truth, I believe the passengers on the bus would understand. Tolerance based on understanding is the real harmony. .

“If I were a passenger in the car, I would definitely understand the situation before making a decision. "Ms. Mao, 25, lives in Wanzhou and is a civil servant. She said that if the little boy's family has an urgent matter, he and his mother must rush to take the bus to handle it now, and then they will choose to wait patiently; but if the little boy If there is no emergency and other passengers are anxious, they will persuade him to wait for the next bus.

Lu Bin, 25, is a bank legal consultant. He said that waiting or not is actually a safeguard. A kind of public moral value, as long as this kind of maintenance does not cause major damage, it will not cause major damage to the public order in a short period of time; without waiting, let the child go down and help the mother sit down. The next bus will not cause great harm to the rights of mother and child.

Some netizens raised another hypothesis and reflected on it: "The social significance of this question is far more than this. Imagine. If we change the ending and the person who finally gets on the bus is not a disabled person, then should we wait or not? ”

Voice

There is no right or wrong answer to wait or not

Tang Jun, a sociology researcher at the Chinese Academy of Social Sciences: Regarding this essay question, in fact, all discussions now They are all based on assumptions, and these views can be understood under different assumptions. In other words, no matter how you answer this question, there is no right or wrong in waiting or not. Personally, I prefer to wait. As many netizens have said, China currently lacks harmony in interpersonal relationships. If everyone is not in a hurry, if you wait for a minute or two, you may gain a harmonious interpersonal relationship.

Put yourself in someone else’s shoes and learn to understand and tolerate

Liao Qifa, professor and doctoral supervisor at the Department of Education of Southwest University: This is a test question for people’s hearts, and it also requires us to learn to understand and tolerate. Finally, the scolding stopped. The silence also shows that there is a trace of guilt in everyone's heart. They may understand the difficulties of disabled mothers, or they may be moved by filial piety. People always wait until they are not in a hurry, then reflect on their previous words and deeds, and self-blame and regret come to their hearts. . So when encountering this situation, please slow down, think from your perspective, and let tolerance catch up.

Comments

Dong Xiaoyu, Dean of the School of Journalism and Media of Southwest University: This year’s composition material. Although it is short and the event is small, it is close to life and reality, and is both emotional and ideological. The understanding, consideration, and care shown by the passengers demonstrate the value of family affection, the preciousness of understanding, and the preciousness of care, and reflect the importance of society. Harmony and warmth permeate the positive energy of the times.

First of all, candidates must understand the deep mother-child love, deep public love, and harmonious social sentiment contained in the materials. In today's impetuous social and cultural context, composition with this material can guide people to calm down, reflect on themselves and society, and re-understand life, value, and nobility. When writing, candidates can explore the following points: the spirit of tolerance, Respect for life, moral values, and a peaceful mind. In general, it is not easy to go off topic this time, and the threshold for reviewing the topic is not high, but to write about the affection, profound meaning, and interest contained in the material, you need to observe society, think about society, and Be considerate of others, open-minded, and full of emotions. When writing, candidates can start from either an emotional or a speculative perspective. They should strive to have far-reaching ideas, unique perspectives, novel topics, clear thinking, and fluent language. "Human flavor", "emotional flavor" and "thinking flavor".

Xiong Shaohua, a Chinese researcher-level teacher at Yucai Middle School: This year's composition has maintained the characteristics of Chongqing propositions in terms of difficulty of examination questions, and the ideas have been consistent for three consecutive years: 2013 Frozen The security guards and employees of the library, the landlord picking up the broken glass in 2014, and the bus and passengers waiting for the disabled to board the bus this year are all praising the beauty of human nature and advocating social understanding, consideration and care.

It further embodies the principle of "close to life" and the spirit of "humanistic care". It can see the big from the small, deeply impacts people's inner world, stimulates students' emotional sparks, and is conducive to candidates "writing my heart with handwriting". Candidates can start by praising and advocating the positive energy of society. At the same time, they can also criticize the indifference, selfishness and "refined egoists" in society to form a contrast. If the intention is framed from these perspectives, it will be more meaningful.

This year’s college entrance examination essay questions that were popular on Weibo two years ago

Did you guess it?

The Chongqing 2015 College Entrance Examination essay question came from a popular Weibo post two years ago? It's true! Yesterday at noon, as soon as the essay questions for this year's Chongqing College Entrance Examination were released, attentive netizens immediately found this Weibo post written by netizen "Zhulin Xiaoxiao 82" two years ago. It also attracted a lot of heated discussions from netizens, who all said, " Nowadays, college entrance examination composition is becoming more and more relevant to life."

As of 17:00 yesterday, the Weibo post had received more than 23,000 retweets, more than 3,000 comments, and *** received more than 3,000 likes.

Blogger:

Chongqing examination questions pay more attention to social humanity

Yesterday, the reporter contacted the blogger and netizen "Zhulin Xiaoxiao 82" of this Weibo. She currently lives in Nanjing, Jiangsu. Her voice sounded younger on the phone.

"The scene at that time is still fresh in my memory. I did not post on Weibo to blame anyone, nor to complain about mother and son." Netizen "Zhulin Xiaoxiao82" said, on April 29, 2013, She experienced this firsthand when she got on the No. 13 bus when she went to Nanjing City to visit a good friend. After posting on Weibo, it was reported by "Jinling Evening News", "New Express" and other media, and triggered a great discussion on human nature.

"I think the Chongqing College Entrance Examination essay is getting more and more extensive, paying attention to social humanity and other details and real things in life, which is great." She said that if she writes this essay, she will Starting from the aspect of "slowing down ourselves and being tolerant of others", I hope that in this era of "speed", those of us who move fast will know how to turn around and wait for others.

Response:

Appropriate Internet access can help you understand social hot topics

Yesterday, after the composition topic was released, many netizens praised on Weibo that "Nowadays, college entrance examination compositions are becoming more and more popular." The closer it is to life”, “It seems that if you want to get high scores, you need to pay attention to hot spots frequently”, “Check Weibo more in the future”, “The person who asked the questions must like to check Weibo so much that I can see this”.

During preparation for the exam, 43-year-old Xiong Jing has been trying to keep her daughter away from the Internet as much as possible, and only occasionally allows her daughter to access the Internet when necessary for study. Yesterday, she was a little surprised to learn that this year's college entrance examination essay questions came from Weibo. "I can take a look at it later, but it shouldn't take too long."

Shi Zhijian, a senior Chinese teacher at Chongqing No. 29 Middle School, said , the school’s Chinese teaching has always encouraged students to pay more attention to social hot spots. Reading media reports and going to Weibo in their spare time are all good ways.

Let’s see how the writer, Chinese teacher, and “Shang Xiaomei” writes “wait”

Wait a minute and let the soul catch up

Watch it every time When I hear similar news, I always think of a sentence: "Wait a moment and let our souls catch up." This sentence comes from a foreign fable, which says that we often need to leave time for our hearts and souls. In the story, a group of people in a car fell silent when they saw a disabled person, which shows that they all have kind hearts. As for the initial complaints, it was just because I was in a hurry.

Chinese people are indeed in a hurry: they educate their children as soon as they are born, start learning English in kindergarten, carry heavy schoolbags in elementary school, complete high school courses to prepare for the college entrance examination in the second year of high school, and look for jobs in the second year of college. We would change jobs if we were not satisfied at all, start a business when we didn’t meet any conditions, prepare to go public as soon as we started the company...

We were really in a hurry! But is this really good?

I have a friend in Canada who is interested in a very good product that is not available in China and wants to sell it in China. He found the boss of the production company and offered him very generous terms and asked to be the general agent in China. He thought the other party would definitely agree on the spot. As a result, the Canadian boss said: "Don't be busy, let's have tea first.

"So, my friend and the Canadian boss and his wife have been communicating with each other for more than half a year, chatting about ideals and life and exchanging different beliefs. Finally, the Canadian boss said: "After more than half a year of getting to know each other, I think our values ??are similar. Your character is upright, and I am willing to let you If you become the general agent in China, I will give you better conditions in return. ”

I was shocked when I heard this story! This is a principle often reminded by our ancestors: “Those who are different in the Tao must not work together.” "This catchy principle of the Chinese people has long been forgotten because we are in a hurry, but it has been nurtured back by a commercially developed civilization. I have never considered this issue in more than 20 years of business. At this moment, I suddenly recalled the development of The influences I have experienced: dishonest parties, unscrupulous partners, the temptation to break the law for profit...I am glad that my moral bottom line and Virgo's mysophobia have given me the right choice many times.

Fundamentally speaking, after more than thirty years of rapid development, China's economic development has made a soft landing, and the thirty-year pattern has quietly changed. You don't need to be so fast to succeed, you just need to think hard; you don't need to be so anxious to be happy. , as long as you take things as they come. Products that take time can achieve high quality; marketing that takes time can gain fans; talk to potted plants, and flowers will grow lush; have enough time to meditate, and your body will be full of potential.

When new media forces friends to share their lives, when Industry 4.0 forces companies to carefully select materials and improve processes, when wearable devices control everything around us, and when big data gives us easy choices, in this era, I I believe that slow life will return to the future.

Slow work leads to careful work, thinking changes life, leaving time for family, and letting time accumulate and cultivate... These ideas of spending time will come back to us when we learn. Slow down and believe that everything makes sense, and the complaints will turn into graceful patience and social tolerance.

About the author

Luo Yu: Male, born in 1968. , the author of the novel "The Missing Shangqing Temple", is currently the Vice Chairman of the Chongqing Website Alliance, the Vice Chairman of the Website Branch of the Chongqing E-Commerce Association, and a member of the Standing Committee of the Chongqing Writers Association's Network Creation Committee.

Tolerating the truth of the world.

When you see a female tour guide scolding tourists for not buying souvenirs with rebates, do you feel angry and scream in your heart to give the tourists justice? Can you be a tour guide? When you shed tears of remorse and revealed that all the tourists were part of the "one-yuan shopping group", did you, the kind-hearted person, tilt your inner balance to the side of the fired tour guide? When you saw the domineering female teacher let the students go on a sunny day. When holding an umbrella, do you feel indignant for the innocent children and throw cold violence at the arrogant teacher? Then, if some teachers say that his behavior is even worse, and even ask students to help him wash the dishes and carry his backpack, Are you even more intolerant of suppressing students and want to expel such teachers from the education field?

However, the truth of the matter is far from what you think. Students help him clean up? The bowl is because he cooked for the students. He often helped the students with their backpacks and carried sick children to the hospital. The students regarded him as "Brother Xi" and played with him. He devoted himself to the children. There was sincere emotion between teachers and students. , "As long as teachers and students are attached to each other, there is true love in everything they do." - The famous educator Li Zhenxi said

Then you believe in true love again.

So what affects your judgment of things? Is it the true face of things, the truth that others want you to see, or the truth that you want to believe deep down in your heart? There is too much confusion in the online world. Many people are fanning the flames for different purposes, attracting attention, and kidnapping people's morality. At the same time, they are also testing the morality and rationality of netizens. The emptiness of all phenomena in this world is like a beautiful scenery displayed in front of our eyes. The flowers are becoming more and more charming. How can we clear the fog and take the lotus picked up by Kasyapa?

Ignorance leads to credulity, impulsiveness leads to complaints, and worrying about gains and losses leads to delusions of persecution. These are all weaknesses of human nature.

When everyone says that the earth is square, who can dare to say that it is round in spite of all the disapproval in the world? It is much easier and safer to go with the flow than to go against it. The belief that the law does not hold everyone accountable makes us lose the courage to think independently. When the direction of public opinion shows an undeniable trend, all we can do is applaud. As a result, the truth has missed us.

In fact, for us, what is important is not what it looks like, but why it is like this. If you are willing to learn more about the causes and consequences, you will avoid making random accusations with little knowledge and make reasonable judgments and reasonable behaviors.

Confucianism has said this thousands of years ago: self-reflection, self-restraint, caution in independence, and tolerance to others. There are only a few people who can actually do it. We start from our own standpoint and look at the world with a single view, which is like a leaf blocking the eye. Of course, it is not as good as the whole picture. The reason why we cannot see it is because our heart door is not open. If you look at things with me, everything will have my color. If you treat others with a defensive attitude, you will also feel the maliciousness coming from this world. If you treat others with a tolerant heart, the world will be much more lovely. The passengers on the bus were irritated because they had waited an extra minute, and they were tired of complaining. Ji Xianlin, the president of Peking University, guarded the freshmen's luggage for a long time in the cold wind without a word of complaint. His temperament was like the breeze blowing on his face and the lotus blooming under the moon. He lives in clarity.

Zhang Ailing once said, "Because we understand, we are compassionate." As long as you look at the world with compassion, you will find that everything has a reason and everything is reasonable.

The highest in the world is the sky, the bluest is the ocean, and the broadest is the human mind. Only when you have heaven and earth in your mind can you accept the whole world and achieve spiritual harmony and self-satisfaction. Treat others with a tolerant heart, and the world will suddenly become brighter.

About the author

Zhang Chunyi: Female, born in 1985, currently a high school Chinese teacher at Chongqing Railway Middle School. The scripts "Chinese Love Through Time" and "Colorful Youth Happy Chongqing" won first prizes in the 2010 and 2011 "Chinese Bridge" competitions. The script "Seats" won the first prize at the Chongqing Middle School Student Drama Festival.

To be kind to others is to be kind to yourself

If you handle something differently, there will always be different results. So let's take a look at what will happen if this event develops in a bad direction?

On a rainy day, the bus drove past the station and stopped. A group of people got on the car one after another at the front door, and the open umbrellas were closed, dripping wetly. The male driver closed the door and started the engine.

Suddenly a passenger shouted: "Don't panic, there's still a little kid who's not on board! There's still a little kid who's not on board!" The bus staggered, like a drunken man swaying from side to side. The male driver opened the door again and looked back, only to see a little boy wearing a denim jacket, carrying a schoolbag, and holding a plastic vegetable bag in his hand, stepping up two steps at a time. The little boy's face was covered with rain and his clothes were soaked. He said: "Uncle driver, please wait! My mother is still down there."

Half a minute passed, but the little boy's mother did not appear at the door. Some passengers were anxious. Passenger A said: "What's the matter? There's been no one for a long time. I'm almost late for work!"

Passenger B said: "How long do we have to wait? My wife is alone at home. I'm very worried. ."

B shouted: "This is a waste of everyone's time, everyone is busy!" The little boy raised his head and begged, "Just wait a little longer." At this time, many people roared. : "What are you waiting for? Go down and wait by yourself!"

The driver couldn't bear the pressure and had to say to the little boy: "Son, wait for the next bus." So the little boy got off the bus in dismay. It flew away, splashing a mist-like pool of muddy water.

Thankfully, the facts did not develop in this direction. The male driver still insisted on waiting amidst everyone's accusations and silently withstood the pressure. In the end, the little boy was not abandoned on the windy, rainy and confused road, and the boy's mother also got in the car. This ending is quite in line with our wishes, but it also reveals some information.

Why were the passengers collectively silent when the boy’s mother got on the bus? Is it because she has a disabled leg? What does this silence mean? Is it because everyone still maintains a conscience in their hearts? Is this conscience a self-blame for being impatient before?

Further assume that if passengers A, B, and C reach their twilight years, they take the bus with their grandson. He was trembling, using crutches for a long time and couldn't get into the car, and the car also left him and drove away. Will he recall the little boy and her disabled mother he met when he was young? At that time, he Do you feel a little guilty and uneasy in your heart?

To be kind to others is to be kind to yourself. Especially in this environment where the self-media over-interprets personal value, claims that everyone is an individual, and advocates the absolute freedom of personal spirituality, our ears should always echo the ancient saying of Mencius: "I am old, and I am old. The conscience of the entire society may be awakened starting from this bus.

About the author:

Lu Wei: 21 years old, from Chongqing, a junior student at Sichuan University. He once shared his 3,000-volume book collection and published an online post "My family does not have a BMW, but only has thousands of volumes of books." It attracted the attention of major websites and many media across the country. He has now published two novels and is called "90" by netizens. The book-collecting girl.” At present, it has entered the top 20 in the "Shang Xiaomei" image ambassador selection competition launched by this newspaper.