What should we do about youth?

I admire director Zhao Baogang very much. Every TV series can attract a lot of attention, trigger a round of debate, and create a slogan-like quotation. "Struggle" is heroic enough, and then there is "Who is in charge of my youth", which is really exciting and passionate. We might as well follow the idea of ????the TV series to borrow flowers and offer them to Buddha, and tell everyone about "making decisions for youth".

There is no doubt that you have to make your own decisions about your youth. But how do you make the decision without treating yourself badly? People who are young and careless like to be free and do not want adults to control them. They just want to do what they want to do. Well, no one is stopping you. However, have you ever thought about what you would do if you failed to make the decision? Who cleans up your mess?

Look at the three sisters in "Who is in Charge of My Youth", two of them are people who clearly know what they want. The eldest sister, Zhao Qingchu, has an awesome name, "Zhao Qingchu", she knows exactly what job she wants, what kind of man she wants, what kind of life she wants, and she also knows how to achieve the above goals. She is sensible enough, strong enough, and seems to be able to take charge of her own youth. The third child, Li Pili, is really a "bolt". He lied to his parents that he was studying in Cambridge, but in fact he secretly went to learn cooking and sneaked back to China to open a restaurant. Later, Li Pili's restaurant was not running well, and what was even worse was that the "fake study abroad" incident came to light. After being criticized wildly by her parents, her strong female mother came to "wipe her butt" and teach her how to run a business and how to take care of business. This was only one step forward. One step on the road to success. It can barely be regarded as making the decision for youth. Only the second child, Qian Xiao, is the most confused. He doesn't know what he wants to do. He wanders around Beijing in a daze dreaming of "getting rich." He also accidentally falls in love with a poor boy, and both of them suffer from poverty together. When it comes to love, Qian Xiaomian's family members are against it, but she insists on making the decision on her own. Later, her boyfriend went to jail. She had no academic qualifications and no ability, so she had to rely on the help of her "brother-in-law-to-be" to find a job in the company, starting bit by bit as a secretary. Although she was considered a "little white-collar worker" later on, without the help of her sister and brother-in-law, her youth would have been completely ruined.

After watching it for a long time, I didn’t feel as heroic as “I decide my youth”. Instead, I thought about it following the name of the TV series: Who decides my youth? Am I in charge? Although these three sisters have chosen different paths, they still have family members and experts behind them to help and guide them. If it were someone else, what would this "master" do? You see, there are so many girls and boys who are living precariously in Beijing and Shanghai in order to "make their own decisions". They are independent, but they are very embarrassed. Spending a few years in your twenties is nothing, but when you are thirty, are you still living like a duckweed? When will you be the boss?

If you want to take charge of your own youth, you must learn to plan. Not only must you set goals, but you must also know the ways to achieve them. Don't be like the silly sister Lin in Grand View Garden. She thinks she has no father or mother, no one can make decisions for her, and she can't make the decision herself. Zijuan, who was close to her, persuaded her to ask the old lady to make the decision. This was a reliable suggestion, but Sister Lin did not dare and was embarrassed, so she could only place all her hopes on Baoyu. Isn't this a foolish dream? Baoyu can't even be his own master, so how can he care about her? Therefore, you have to make your own decisions, do your own work, dare to take responsibility, and learn how to take this "master" to the end. There is never a "savior". Everyone in the TV series has a noble gang. If we have no family background and no background, we have to help ourselves. We are our best background.

To make decisions for yourself means to make plans for yourself, whether it is normal life or life, you must plan. What you need to do in your twenties cannot be put off until your thirties, because your thirties still have the tasks and responsibilities of your thirties. How important planning is to a woman is difficult for us to realize when we are young. When you have a lot of youth, what career to choose and what life to live don't seem to be issues worth thinking about. However, the older you get, the more you realize how important it is to choose a career and how to manage your life.

Being too busy with work and having no time to fall in love, being too busy with love and forgetting to make money are all caused by poor planning and failure to grasp the balance between work and life. In fact, planning is not too difficult. Someone has already set this trajectory for us. The famous American singer Sophie Tucker advises girls: From birth to 18 years old, a woman needs a good family; from 18 to 35 years old, she needs good looks; from 35 to 55 years old, she needs a good personality; after 55 years old, she needs a lot of money .

Among these, except for "good families" which we cannot control, everything else is achievable. Don't always use "I have no background" or "my parents can't help me" as excuses. After all, people with backgrounds are in the minority. Most of the so-called "noble people" are those you have to get to know in your later work and life. This is also part of the planning. Do you think that those people who rely on the support of noble people really meet "by chance"? How many people go to great lengths to visit celebrities, try every possible means, and make connections, just to change their destiny and make it move in the direction they want.

So, smart women should make plans for themselves as early as possible, and women who live one day at a time will regret it sooner or later. Even if you don’t want to be a strong woman, even if it’s just to prevent yourself from being eliminated by the survival of the fittest society, it is necessary to plan your life well.