What does the rural proverb "I would rather persuade gambling than whoring, men are not three, women are not four" mean? What's the point?

What does the rural proverb "It is better to persuade gambling than whoring, three men and four women" mean? Is there anything special? I think this question is very big and needs to be explained one by one. Seriously speaking, it will be too long and affect everyone's reading. So I just briefly explain the previous "I would rather advise gambling than prostitution", and focus on the following "men are not three, women are not four"! These are all very particular.

What is "gambling is better than whoring"? Literally, everyone should understand that this is about the lifestyle between men. Gambling is a big pit. Ten bets and nine losses. When a friend is deeply involved in gambling, he should be advised not to get deeper and deeper. In ancient times, men were superior to women, women were in charge, and men were outside. Men are too free outside, and men and women have enjoyed it since ancient times. This is only temporary happiness, and nothing bad will happen. Gamblers may lose everything, some even lose everything, and their wives and daughters lose to others. Therefore, as friends and relatives, we should strongly advise each other to quit gambling. As for whoring, it's a man's communication outside. If we don't persuade him, everyone knows that it is only a temporary happiness, insincere, and will not affect the family. Therefore, there is a saying that "gambling is better than whoring". Of course, that was in ancient times, but times are different now. It is no longer the time when men are superior to women. Equality between men and women. Now friends are whoring, so we should persuade them.

"Men are not three, women are not four", which is meaningful! What is "no three men"? That is to say, when men run around, there are three things they don't do: they don't do illegal things, they don't do bad things, and they don't do filial piety. In ancient times, there was no saying that whoring was illegal, but some said that it was not illegal to serve the country, to be unfilial to parents and to cheat friends. Be honest and do things in a down-to-earth manner. This is an ancient man's life and work rule, which must be kept in mind. Of course, although the times are different now, not breaking the law, not being filial and not cheating are still the universal principles of being a man.

What is "women are not four"? This should start with "three obedience and four virtues". In ancient times, men and women were unequal, and women needed to abide by the principle of "three obedience and four virtues". Which three obey? Not married from the father, married from the husband, and the husband died from the child; What are the four virtues? Female virtue, female speech, female appearance, female merit! "Three Obediences" means that unmarried women should listen to their parents at home, married women should listen to their husbands, and husbands should listen to their children when they are dead, so they can't cross the line. As for the "four virtues", female virtue refers to women's moral cultivation, female words refer to women's propriety, female appearance refers to women's dress, and female merit refers to the way women manage their families. This leads to the "four noes", that is, don't be unfaithful to your husband, don't say hurtful things, don't wear light clothes, and don't do things that ruin your home.

From the above analysis, it is not difficult to see how unequal men and women were in ancient times. In a word, "the man is in charge, and the woman is in charge" means that women are fixed at home and cannot show their faces outside and participate in outdoor activities. As for men, they wander around out of control and can do whatever they want. As long as they don't do anything illegal, unfilial and shameless, they don't even have to take care of their homes. They are good men. What is rare is that times are different now, men and women are equal, ancient bad habits have been corrected, and new three obedience and four virtues have emerged, which both men and women should abide by. Which new three follow the four virtues? Someone summed it up: from the world, from love, from myself; Wen de, Yan de, have both ability and political integrity, cultivate one's morality. Have you read today's new edition of "Three Obediences and Four Virtues"?

Rural proverbs, summed up by the previous generation through their own wisdom and life experience, have certain truth and philosophy, and have certain guiding significance to life and life. Below, I will make a concrete analysis of the meaning and subtle methods of the rural proverb "I would rather persuade gambling than whoring, men are not three, women are not four", giving people inspiration.

1, would rather persuade gambling.

Gambling has caused many cases of family breakdown. In the past, there were many cases in which women sold their children to pay their debts because of gambling. As a good friend, you can persuade gambling deeply and talk about the harm of gambling with emotion. If a friend realizes his mistake and saves a family by not gambling, he will be very grateful to you.

2. It is not recommended to go whoring.

This is a way to teach you to be a man and do things. Sometimes whoring is just something that two people know, and no one wants the third person to know. Although prostitution is less harmful to families than gambling, it will still lead to family discord and cause a lot of trouble. But at this time, you can't persuade. As soon as you persuade, the persuaded person will know that you have his privacy, not only will he not appreciate you, but he will also hate you and be wary of you everywhere. This is a thankless thing. If we go whoring together, how can we persuade him? Therefore, it is better not to persuade him to go whoring.

3, male is not three.

Men are not three, not three, not four, between men and women, but men mature after the age of 30 and have a heavy responsibility to support their families. Looking back on how happy they were before and where the road ahead is, they all need to shoulder their responsibilities, help the old and take care of the young, and should not celebrate their birthdays at this time, because they will not all be happy, but will feel heavy.

4. Women are not four.

Now, a woman has forty-one flowers, but in ancient times, a woman became tofu residue at the age of forty. In ancient times, a woman's biggest task was to educate her husband and children. 40 years old is a watershed for a woman. After the age of 40, her complexion declined, her family burden was heavy and her family was rigid. This is life. It's heavy to celebrate your 40th birthday.

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The words "gambling is better than whoring", "men are not three" and "women are not four" are few words, but they contain profound life truths. The man is 30 years old and the woman is 40 years old, but the birthday is not over. After this hurdle, their lives will get better and better. Tell us, can you say something? Whether some things can be done or not takes a year to learn to speak, but it takes a lifetime to learn to do things, so as to do things well and speak well.

As we all know, gambling does great harm to the harmony and happiness of a family. Those who are light are addicted to gambling circles, unable to extricate themselves, tired of playing with things, healthy, and seriously consume property savings. In the worst case, the family breaks up and the wife is separated.

In a small town, a family runs a wholesale department. The couple have a son. The couple were busy with business and neglected their children. Last year, they 16 years old and fell in love with gambling. Every time a child steals money from home to gamble, the gambling gets bigger and bigger, and the couple painstakingly persuade it to be invalid. In June of 438+09, in June of 1965, he had a dispute with his father because of gambling, and stabbed his father to death with a knife. My mother found the police, but she didn't run out of town. She was surrounded by police and rushed to the roof opposite the station. After more than three hours of stalemate, she was finally captured. Everyone said that doting and gambling hurt their whole family. So when you see gambling, you can stop it in time.

Prostitution and gambling are illegal, and prostitution is also harmful to society and family. You saw it. Why didn't you persuade them? This tells us a truth about being a man. Prostitution is as private as cheating. If you see or hear, you should persuade others. Whether it works or not, people think you know his secret, and others will be more or less wary of you. There is an old saying in the countryside, which means that some things can be done, but it cannot be said that it is best not to do harmful things.

Men are not three, women are not four, not the behavior between men and women, but the fact that men don't celebrate their 30th birthdays. From ancient times to the present, men are all 30 years old, and most of the 30-year-old men have just got married. It can be said that life is the most difficult time, and the family's food, clothing, housing and lifestyle are beginning to weigh on themselves. I can't be happy even on my birthday. So men don't have to celebrate their birthdays when they are 30.

When a woman is forty years old, the best years of her youth have begun to fade, and the love of beauty is a woman's lifelong pursuit. Although she has used all kinds of skin care products, she still can't resist the passage of time, and wrinkles and flaws can't be completely covered. At this time, even though she is happy on the surface, there is actually more anguish and pain in her heart. So women don't celebrate their birthdays when they are forty.

"It is better to persuade gambling than to persuade whoring", which means that whoring is less harmful than gambling. Gambling will hurt you, your wife and children may be separated, and whoring costs a little money at most. This means that we would rather advise others not to gamble than to go whoring.

"Men are not three, women are not four" mainly refers to the two age groups of men and women.

Men stand at thirty, and women are old at forty. Men are basically qualitative after 30 years old. If he doesn't succeed, he will lead an ordinary life. However, women are in an accelerated aging period after 40 years old, and 40 years old is the dividing point between women's old and not old.

The above contents are personal experiences. Welcome to discuss them below!

The mere mention of the word gambling is repugnant. Many people in rural areas dream of getting rich by gambling, not working hard, and sitting in the village gambling all day. Some people won a little money and continued to gamble. In the end, they owe more and more money, their families are financially tight, and their wives and children are separated. This kind of example is very common in rural areas, because gambling is bottomless. As long as you are infected, you will be unable to extricate yourself, lose your mind, and eventually lose more than you gain, and lose a happy family. People who often gamble will be despised and laughed at by people around them in the countryside.

Prostitution is also an unwelcome crime. In our traditional culture, husband and wife should be happy and loyal to each other. If someone goes whoring, it is against marriage and betraying his wife. It will be punished by law, and it will also lead to family destruction and family destruction. In my opinion, both of these behaviors are disgusting. Do not touch them.

It is said that when a man is 30 years old, his life pressure is the greatest. His career and family need to be balanced. The waywardness and ignorance of the twenties have faded, and the pressure of life has followed. Coupled with great social competition and unsatisfactory work, he often faces collapse. So 30 years old is a low-key period, usually not a birthday.

At the age of forty, a woman's face is gradually aging, losing her simplicity and loveliness. It is also a very difficult time to have old people and children in the world and to do housework. Therefore, it is not unusual for a woman to celebrate her 40th birthday.

First, I'd rather advise gambling than whoring. This sentence is not difficult to understand literally. This was summed up by the ancients to commemorate the Year, meaning that they would rather persuade others to gamble than go whoring. In fact, the original intention of this sentence is to advise everyone not to do immoral things. The ancients thought gambling was not a bad thing, it was no big deal, but whoring was a heinous problem. This sentence is actually wrong. Whether it is a small bet or a big bet, it is the worst habit. Once you are addicted to gambling, you may lose everything and your wife and children will be separated. Ordinary people will not persuade others to participate in gambling; Moreover, whoring is not only a bad habit, but also involves moral issues, which is an immoral behavior. Neither of these behaviors is worth advocating, and both should be flogged.

Second, men are not three and women are not four. This problem can be explained in many ways. The most reliable explanation is that a person should be able to achieve great things by the age of 30, which means "standing at the age of 30". If after the age of 30, he achieves nothing, or knows nothing, this man basically has no great promise. Women don't mean that women can't be over forty if they want to do something. Women are different from men. Generally, their youth is very short, and the best age is spent on family chores, such as starting a family and raising children. When they were forty years old, they realized that their lives were coming to an end. Therefore, women must cherish the golden years before the age of forty and do what they want. Another explanation is that once a woman is over forty, she should generally consider the stability of her family. She must be cautious even if there is an emotional crisis. Generally speaking, she should not file for divorce unless she has to, otherwise it will be difficult to find a suitable man to start a family. Of course, with the rapid development of society, traditional ideas have been completely broken. Women also have the right to speak and do things by themselves, and have their own freedom. Women can completely control their own destiny.

Third, doing things honestly is fundamental. Any bad behavior habits are not worth promoting. In the rapidly developing modern society, people are under great pressure and technology is advancing by leaps and bounds. We should be proud of living in this beautiful era, and honesty and pragmatism are the fundamental, which is the most basic truth.

The above ideas may not be correct. I hope interested friends can discuss and express their views. However, in real life, there are still some people who cannot afford to earn some money. They come to eat, drink, go whoring and gamble on everything. Those who oppose Buddhism are the best in the world, and all family morals are put aside. Only when all their property is lost will they know that they have embarked on a disgraceful road. At this time, it is too late to regret. As the saying goes, the ideal is full and the reality is very skinny. Facing the cruel reality, we need to keep a clear head at all times, do what we should do and say what we should say. It is most important to be an upright person, otherwise it is not worth making more money.

"It is better to persuade gambling than to persuade whoring", which means that whoring is less harmful than gambling. Gambling will hurt you, your wife and children may be separated, and whoring costs a little money at most. This means that we would rather advise others not to gamble than to go whoring. Doesn't mean not to persuade. After all, tearing down a temple is better than ruining a marriage.

After 30, men are basically qualitative, but of course they are not absolute. After all, there are many people who are late bloomers. A woman over 40 years old represents a period of accelerated aging, and 40 years old is the dividing point between women's old and not old.

Thank you for your attention. Let me give you a different explanation.

I just turned over my friends' answers to this question, and everyone expressed basically the same meaning. However, I think everyone seems to have forgotten a very important thing, that is, most rural proverbs are branded with historical marks, which only reflect the moral norms of that period, and many of them are no longer applicable. For example, the topic to be discussed now is "It is better to persuade gambling than to persuade whoring. Men are not three women are not four. "

We know that whoring and gambling are both bad habits in life, which will lead to the destruction and death of families. So why only advise gambling and not prostitution? Because it is a product confined to a specific society.

Gambling is a great evil of human beings and has been strictly prohibited since ancient times. It was stipulated in the Spring and Autumn Period and the Warring States Period. "The sergeants gambling, fined three coins. Prince gambles, Moss gets 30. When Zhu Yuanzhang was in the Ming Dynasty, he punished gambling more severely. Anyone who takes part in gambling will have his hands cut off. It should be said that the punishment for gambling in history is very serious, so it is a crime whenever there is gambling, and it is naturally correct to persuade gambling.

Why not persuade whoring?

This is because China has experienced a long patriarchal status since ancient times, and it was not until the establishment of New China that women really had an equal status. In the past, emperors could have three palaces and six courtyards, and men could have three wives and four concubines. Prostitution is legal, and even the court has set up a brothel, which is justified and legalized. Even the emperor can't help going out for whoring. Song Huizong is the bloodiest one, and there are many concubines at home. He also sent someone to dig a dog lane to prostitute Li Shishi, a famous prostitute in Beijing.

As for "no three men and no four women", it was actually the life experience at that time. Its next sentence is "fifty deficiency, six fullness", saying that when a man stands at thirty, he should try to prevent ease and enjoyment. A woman is forty years old, and her youth is gone. She should keep a low profile and take good care of her husband and children. Look, it's still the concept that men are superior to women. People are weak when they live to 50, and they should be satisfied when they live to 60. Does it have obvious historical characteristics? People are still young in their fifties and sixties. Gambling and whoring should be discouraged and never tolerated.

Therefore, some proverbs are stained with the dust of history and are really not practical in today's society. Don't put your hopes on the literal words, or you should criticize the inheritance, my friends. Are you right?

We all know that the elderly in rural areas are under great pressure, and they all have their own pressures, whether on holidays or in daily life, so I will talk about the meaning of the sentence "Men are not three, women are not four, it is better to persuade gambling than to persuade whoring" and see what our ancestors are saying.

It sounds rude to say "no, no, no, no, no" in the second half, but it actually means that men will not have birthdays at the age of 30 and women will not have birthdays at the age of 40. Combined with the phrase "standing at thirty" in Confucius' Analects of Confucius, it means that men will get married at thirty, and women will approach menopause at forty. In the eyes of the ancients, thirty men and forty women are a turning point, and they also want to make their future smoother, so it is a psychological comfort for everyone not to remind themselves of their birthdays!

Look at the first half of the sentence, which means that it is better to persuade others to gamble than to persuade others to go whoring. Why? Isn't gambling more serious in people's eyes? Gambling is addictive, and if it is serious, it will lead to the disintegration of the family. Therefore, we should persuade them to quit gambling, so that we are doing good deeds, not for some benefits. But whoring is different. Those people think it's shameful. If you persuade people not to go whoring, it means that you will be embarrassed to know their privacy, and you may make it impossible for each other to continue to be friends.

Every proverb is the crystallization of China traditional culture, which can always warn future generations of some truth, guide our life direction, and make it easier for us to avoid detours. What do you think of this proverb differently? Welcome to leave a message in the comment area for discussion.