Do you think what you think is the same as what others think?

A person dares to run a red light to cross the road, and the traffic coordinator is very excited to shout: Light! Wait for the light! Wait for the light!

The funny thing about this joke is that a simple sentence makes your mind ring back a familiar melody. Two unrelated elements are connected because of the rhythm of the sentence, so we will smile when we feel the subtlety of this connection.

but the cleverness of this joke is also based on the widespread knowledge of intel advertising music. If this piece of music was not so deeply rooted in people's hearts, the joke would not have caused this ingenious connection.

the negative example is: you are listening to a song with headphones or humming a ditty in your head, and your hands are beating on the table. At this time, you feel that you are stepping on the rhythm perfectly, but it is almost impossible to ask someone next to you to guess the song you are listening to according to your beat.

This is the so-called "curse of knowledge": when a person knows something, he can't imagine that he doesn't know it.

Therefore, when you introduce or explain something to others in daily life, you will naturally filter out the background, knowledge, experience and other basic factors that you have understood before, but for those who don't know about it, you can't accurately understand your expression in the face of you.

This is also the theoretical basis of games such as "You draw and guess" and "Do actions and guess words".

Moreover, this curse is also common in daily work and life, and this is the root of many jobs that are not in place.

Let's tell a joke:

When not talking about doing homework, the mother is kind and filial, hugging and hugging. When it comes to doing homework, chickens fly and dogs jump, crying, making passers-by laugh, raising the blood pressure of the elderly and keeping neighbors awake! One second, it's inseparable, and the next, we go our separate ways.

This joke about spitting to help children with their homework has aroused a lot of people's buzz. Some parents said that 1-4=? I can't believe I haven't learned such a simple topic for half an hour! I'm going crazy, even wondering if my children have mental problems!

This is actually a typical curse of knowledge. Simple addition and subtraction in adults' eyes naturally have different meanings for children when they first come into contact with them. If a university professor teaches parents a calculus problem now, their parents' state must be the same as the above plot.

There are many slogans in many places: Resolutely win the three major battles; Around the five major industries, create two characteristics ...

If these slogans are not from the industry or local people, they are simply unintelligible, which actually reflects that the target of these propaganda is not the masses, but the inspection of superiors.

For example, in the field of poverty alleviation that really needs to mobilize the masses, there are also many places that write everywhere: Resolutely implement the Five Groups to help the masses get rid of poverty.

For those people who need help, these words have nothing to do with them. Most of the time, it's not that he doesn't want to know the policy, but that he can't see what you are talking about.

Chen Xingjia, the former secretary of Badong County, wrote, "It is up to the government to get rid of poverty and become rich, and we must make efforts ourselves!" It's easy to understand.

In hospitals, it is often seen that rural elderly people are constrained to ask the staff how to find a doctor (they don't even know the thing of "registration"), and the staff impatiently say: first register in the outpatient hall, then get a medical card, and then wait in the digestive department on the third floor.

this sentence is clear and easy to understand for hospital staff and people with a certain culture, but at that time, these two rural aunts only looked more confused after hearing it.

There is another example in the hospital. In order to show care for the special people, a sign of "green channel" is posted on the registration window, but these people who need special care have no idea what this is or how to enjoy this "green channel".

the most effective way to overcome the "curse of knowledge" is to put yourself in other's shoes.

when you put yourself in the other person's environment and understand his cognitive level, real needs and behavior habits, you can find the most effective way of communication.

If parents understand that children are not clear about the concepts of numbers and addition and subtraction pairs, they will know to explain them from the understanding of concepts.

If the hospital staff knows that the aunt doesn't understand "waiting for treatment" means "waiting there", she should change her expression.

If the department staff truly understand the needs of the masses, they can also turn the metaphysical abstract concepts into trivial but real parents' shortcomings and win more understanding and support.

and this kind of empathy, the most important thing is that you really want to do something for others, not a job, formalism.