Aunt can go to the men's room, why can't grandpa go to the women's room?

By my side, I often hear many male friends say:

"How can the aunt who cleans in the company just go in and out of the men's room? ! "

"Many times, I have seen my aunt looking in the mirror in the men's room!"

"This is sexual harassment, isn't it? Are we men proud? "

"Aunt can go into the men's room, why can't uncle go into the women's room? This is the sexism of premature fruit! ! ! "

I believe many people are troubled by this problem. Today, we will take a deep look at this problem. Why does aunt go to the men's room and uncle can't go to the women's room? Doesn't aunt constitute sexual harassment?

The default aunt does not constitute the sex subject.

The first reason is that we will acquiesce that aunts do not constitute sexual subjects.

In our common sense, we often think that women are reserved and reserved about sex, especially for older aunts, who seem to have no sexual desire.

Without sexual awareness, nature will not become the subject of sex.

Physiologically speaking, the peak of female fertility is generally at the age of 25. By the age of 45, the possibility of childbearing is greatly reduced, and sexual desire will also be reduced.

This is almost the age of cleaning the aunt, so we will also think that there is no possibility of sexual harassment for the aunt.

This is also the reason why general companies only recruit aunts for cleaning staff and seldom see uncles.

Some people will say, but I just think my aunt's appearance in the men's room offends me. This is a kind of sexual harassment; Some people will say that aunt can go to the men's room, but grandpa can't go to the women's room. This is sexism.

In fact, in essence, this is not a discrimination against aunts!

Because we discriminate against aunts who have no sexual consciousness, we don't regard them as women with sexual desire, but treat them as objects without subjective behavior and think that they are always in a passive position in sex.

Uncle will arouse women's awareness of being violated.

The second reason is that grandpa's entering the men's room will arouse women's awareness of being violated. From the perspective of psychoanalysis, this is a subconscious mechanism at work.

There is a certain biological basis behind this. Compared with women, men's fertility is lifelong, unlike girls who basically stop after menstruation disappears.

At the same time, physically, women are relatively weak, while men are strong and aggressive.

Therefore, in the private space of the ladies' room, if the uncle appears, it will psychologically arouse women's awareness of being violated.

Our laws are also designed for this consideration. For example, in civil law, only the harassment and violation of women by men can constitute sexual harassment and sexual assault.

There is no legal basis for women's harassment and aggression against men, or there is no remedy in this regard.

All the reasons here show that men are aggressive to women, so they will awaken women's subconscious consciousness of being violated, so grandpa can't go into the ladies' room.

The patriarchal culture is deeply rooted.

Aunt can go to the men's room, and uncle can't go to the women's room. There is another more essential reason, that is, the patriarchal culture is deeply rooted.

The patriarchal culture has existed in China for thousands of years, although we always consciously eliminate the dross of this culture.

But it is undeniable that this culture still plays a role in today's life, and the topic we are discussing today is also the result of this cultural influence.

In the patriarchal culture, we expect men to look masculine and women to have feminine beauty.

This culture rationalizes men's aggression and castrates women's sexual desire and aggression.

Therefore; As an aunt without aggression and sexual desire; She can go into the men's room. Aggressive grandfather can't go into the ladies' room.

However, from a sociological point of view, behind this culture, it is also an oppression of men. Because men also have a weak side and need privacy; Some women also have strong sexual desire and aggression.

People whose land is in the middle gray area are always victims of discrimination.

The above is what we mainly share today.

We know that Auntie can enter the men's room because we acquiesce that Auntie is not the subject of sexual behavior, but the object. Grandpa can't go into the ladies' room because he will awaken women's subconscious mind.

From a deeper level, in fact, this is because of the deep-rooted influence of patriarchal culture on us, and we will form such consciousness and concept.

Finally, I want you to share why my aunt can go to the men's room and why my grandfather can't go to the women's room. Please leave a message again and write down your answer.