Give you freedom. You are not independent. You are still a slave.

Hu Shi said: "You should strive for independence, not freedom. Give you freedom, you are still a slave without independence. "

I was shocked at first sight, as if I were talking about myself. Look carefully, but I can't figure it out.

Dig out the source-this is what he emphasized in his speech at 1946 Peking University. He asked the students at the scene why the slogan posted on campus was "free thinking, free learning" instead of "independent thinking". Because Peking University has always been open and free, the school can certainly give you freedom, but you have to fight for independence on your own.

Further explanation is that freedom is for external constraints, and independence is your own business.

Independence is difficult, so not many people in China have this quality.

Hu Shi went on to say: China people have two problems. The first is to rely on the sky, be an emperor, and sacrifice to God every year; Be an official, seek rain in drought, seek sunshine in waterlogging; Be a businessman, worship the god of wealth and Guan Di; Scholars worship Confucius and Kuixing. Second, relying on people, the emperor only hopes that foreigners will not come; Being an official requires the above to be done well, and don't arrest him; The people only rely on the emperor and the government, and the matter of national subjugation and extinction has nothing to do with themselves, but is done by their own heroes.

This was Hu Shi's reason at that time, but now it seems that many of them are unreasonable. In the era of scientific information, most people can get a better life without worshipping heaven and earth and praying in various ways. You can get into a good university through hard work; If you work hard, you can get by and live; After working for some years, you can get a raise and appreciate, buy a house and get married, and everything can be done step by step.

But in this way, are you really independent?

Compulsory education, the teacher said that your grades are your future. What were you thinking?

When filling in the volunteers, parents said that their children should be closer to home, so that they can take care of each other. How did you choose later?

When you were in college, many teachers were too lazy to teach you how to live in college. How did you get there?

When you get old, your parents say it's time for you to get married. What did you say?/Sorry?

After work, everyone follows the working environment to behave and do things. How did you handle it?

It is not difficult to answer questions orally, but it is not easy to answer them with actions, which can reflect your personality. Hu Shi also said, "Independence is not blind obedience, deception, dependence on portals, and dependence on others."

The purpose of education is to cultivate such an independent personality and the ability to judge right and wrong, but no matter the school society, there is no such training environment, and it can only be erected step by step by itself.

When I first entered the workplace, I was like a deer, lost in the chaotic environment of the workplace. When I read The Possibility of Your Life by a classical teacher, I found that it was full of answers to my workplace questions and similar to my values. So I plunged into his company-the new elite. At the first regular meeting, I took a group photo with the classical teacher and made a circle of friends. At that time, my dream came true.

Fortunately, I came into contact with Chai Jing before, and I realized that "independence" is a woman's most fundamental personality. So after two months in the company, I told myself to get rid of the blind worship of classical teachers, and I would get carried away and ignore myself.

Now, when we are doing projects with classical teachers, we can discuss the meaning of communication freely and equally with a little independent personality. After two years of struggle, my little talent is like a toddler who just learned to walk.

But still have to practice, but how to practice? In fact, there is a small skill of detection-three-second meditation. When you do something, stop for three seconds before you act. This method can be applied in many aspects, such as quitting smoking. When you want to smoke when you quit smoking, ask yourself three questions: Why do you want to smoke? Does smoking really feel good? What is the real feeling of smoking? Someone did this and quit.

This is to cultivate one's own cognition and view of the world through awareness and form one's own set of standards for being a man and doing things.

One of my favorite clips in The Shawshank Redemption is that Andy closed the office door despite the warden's objection and played a piece of music for himself and the whole prison-The Wedding of Figaro.

Angry and threatening faces crowded outside, smashing doors with various tools, while Andy slowly leaned back in his chair, closed his eyes and enjoyed quietly, and the sun shone on his prison uniform. This moment is really beautiful. This caged bird, with an independent personality, is doomed to be caged.

Zhang Yiman in "Donkey's Water" also shines with such brilliance. "I want you by my side, I want you to dress for me. This night the wind blows, which makes my heart itch. My love, I am in a foreign land, looking at the moon. "

Love also needs to be independent and not dependent on each other.

All along, my ideal love is two children who can walk through life hand in hand.

Walking means having an independent personality. I don't need to help you walk all the time. But children are not adults, because in front of each other, they are all children, who will cry willfully, be naughty, bully each other from time to time, have small temper conflicts, and be generous and tolerant.

In love, we are independent of each other, but we can blend with each other. In other words, you can live without you, and it will be more beautiful with you. Although a little cruel, but it will be a lot happier, because this is the beauty of equality under independent personality.

In fact, this topic is difficult to write, but when I still have some knowledge, I try to write first. Also give yourself an explanation.

Someone asked a famous person, what impressed you so deeply? He answered-asking questions and talking to himself.

It is not easy to cultivate an independent personality. You should be aware of this before trying to find the answer. This process of seeking is to grow up and form an independent personality.