How to Face Parents' Language Violence

First, don't try to change them. I don't deny my parents' training and dedication to me, and I understand how hard they have worked. When I feel that life is very easy, I know that they helped me stop the storm of life. However, this is not the reason why they ignore my personality independence. Growing up, I never got an apology from them. It took me a long time to build up my self-confidence, and every time I was ridiculed by them as worthless, I would cry quietly. However, I understand that they cannot be changed. From their tense relationship, I know that they are not excellent people, and they also have shortcomings. They are used to arrogance and won't listen, especially for the younger generation like you. It is basically impossible to change into an adult. The so-called heart-to-heart communication for so many years has finally turned into their unilateral preaching, and I can't pray for more. Second, don't pay too much attention to their comments. Think about it, if someone you never know suddenly jumps out and imposes false charges or shortcomings on you, will you be extremely depressed? I'm afraid most people are grunting. But parents are different. Living under one roof for so long, it is impossible to say that they don't care. To my surprise, they seem to get morbid satisfaction from belittling me. When children grow up, their skills become stronger and stronger, which corresponds to their parents' aging and weakness. This sharp contrast makes them fall into a panic that they can no longer firmly control you. This heartfelt panic, if not satisfactory, will turn into verbal violence. If you can understand this, learn to understand and respect, don't be too violent, maybe they will have a little restraint. If not, don't care about their language. Those are all blurted out when the mind is not clear, and may not be intentional.