Positive Psychology: Three Good Things in 21 Days (Punch-in Record)

Clock in on the 6th day of 2021-10-13

1. I cried because I thought I was misunderstood by my best friend. Later, she came to apologize and found out that she was joking. It was so dark. My mood instantly became clearer, and my relationship felt better.

2. When the two children were eating in the morning, the elder sister helped the younger sister to get the tableware. When they went to school, the elder sister reminded her to wear a mask, and the younger sister reminded her to wear sunscreen... Looking at the two girls helping each other, I felt happy. , having fun secretly.

3. I ate half a bowl of super spicy Korean turkey noodles in the morning. I was so satisfied that I couldn’t cope with the pleasure that junk food would bring. Just pay attention to your food intake and you won’t feel guilty.

4. After listening to Feng Mao’s warm-up before class, I am looking forward to it.

Check in on the 7th day of 2021-10-14

1. When I was listening to a book yesterday, Teacher Wu Zhihong talked about "The Invisible Soul", and I thought about how busy I am every day Natao rarely concentrates on "hearing" or "seeing" the child. When the eldest asked for a hug this morning, I hugged her hard and kissed her, and I felt her face suddenly overflowing with happiness.

2. I discussed asset planning with my husband before going to bed, and made some new decisions about the future of our little family together. We were full of expectations at once, and we had begun to imagine a wonderful new life, and we could feel The kind of heart that wants to live a good life together.

3. In the morning, my best friend left me a message to remind me that someone at the gym had lost their wallet and cell phone. She asked me to pay attention to it. I can feel her kindness because she understands my carelessness.

4. A mother in the second class class sent a text message asking for help. Both of her children had vomiting and diarrhea for several days, could not eat, and cried every half hour. It felt distressing to hear that. But I can only reply to a text message of condolences, praying that the children will get well soon! The pain is in the baby's body, the pain is in the mother's heart, there are no national boundaries.

Check in on the 8th day of 2021-10-15

1. Interpersonal connection with my husband - forgiveness: Late at night when I was looking forward to and excited, my husband said a casual word It was "drained". I was very irritable at the time, so I told my husband that his words made me very hurt, as if I had fallen from heaven to hell. My husband immediately apologized to me and hugged me. Although he was still very angry, he did not fight with him as usual. I happened to hear a saying from teacher Wu Zhihong today: Men can tolerate women’s emotions, and women can tolerate their children’s emotions. The relationship between husband and wife is the anchor of the family. This also explains why I, who used to be angry with my husband, easily get angry with my children.

2. Interpersonal connection with oneself - self-control: I was about to go out in the morning. When I saw my eldest daughter wearing a winter sports school uniform jacket over a formal summer skirt school uniform, I immediately ordered her to hurry up. When I went to change my job, she complained that she was being "managed too much." I told her seriously that first of all, her dress did not comply with the school regulations. Secondly, our makeup was out of respect for others. If I didn't tell you that this outfit was inappropriate, who would tell you? Let others laugh at you behind your back? The eldest daughter quickly changed her clothes and told me that her real purpose was to test me and see my reaction. This reason just added fuel to the fire, so I just ignored her. After sending the child off, I kept having an inner conversation with myself on the way, why am I so anxious about my child dressing randomly? I thought of a girl in college who wore short-sleeved shirts in the cold winter and many people laughed at her privately, saying she was mentally abnormal. Deep down in my heart, I was worried that my eldest daughter would be ridiculed and labeled by others, but my love for children is often expressed in incorrect ways. way to express it. I also want to know what is the underlying purpose or reason behind my eldest daughter’s sudden test on me? We can only wait until she is out of school before communicating.

3. The interpersonal connection with the children - love: The moment the two children get off the bus, I will say to them: "I wish you a happy day, I love you." There is a thousand words of love in my heart , expressed in a timely manner. Looking at their backs, in addition to relief and reluctance, I also felt a sense of joy and freedom.

Check in on the 9th day of 2021-10-16

1. I had a wonderful breakfast with the children in the morning. They all ordered what they liked, enjoyed the delicious food, and enjoyed the family time. ;

2. I brought the children to the Golden City for a birthday party and had fun all day long. I challenged the children to their limits and became youthful;

3. Children They always thanked me for taking them to play, which touched their grateful hearts.

Check in on the 10th day of 2021-10-17

1. My husband and I coached Coach Liu today. I gained a lot and gave my husband and I a new goal. and the direction of efforts, and makes life full of motivation;

2. Weekend programs for the whole family: watch the fourth season of "This is Street Dance" together and cheer for your favorite dancers;

3. Fengmao warm-up class, meet familiar creators and new friends, a very safe and warm group. He was also chosen as a teammate by the little sister in his heart right away, and he is still secretly enjoying it.

Check in on the 11th day of 2021-10-18

1. Read "Meeting the Unknown Self" in the morning. There is a passage about the parent-child relationship, "No matter how much you love him, it is unnecessary Worry is the worst gift, why not give him blessings? "It gave me a little enlightenment about the parent-child relationship. I sometimes feel anxious and worried about my children's studies. Sure enough, these emotions give children negative energy and are not beneficial to them.

2. At noon, I had a quiet and pleasant Korean meal with two friends, chatting about the current situation, talking about the children, and feeling at peace.

3. I was reading in the master bedroom in the afternoon. After being immersed in it for a long time, I suddenly realized that the children had been silent for a long time. I quickly yelled. My sister responded that they had packed their luggage for tomorrow’s trip and were reading. , it’s really gratifying.

4. This week it’s my turn to make breakfast. I habitually stay in bed with my sister in the morning. My husband took the initiative to make breakfast for us and packed a lunchbox. Thank you.

Check in on the 12th day of 2021-10-19

1. Pack your luggage before traveling. I saw that my husband had packed his own things and was playing with his mobile phone. I want to pack my own. , I also wanted to check the children’s luggage and other supplies, so I called out. He immediately put down his mobile phone to help, packed the clothes neatly, and saw that my husband was actively doing housework.

2. On the way, my sister took the initiative to take a friend’s car, and my sister followed my husband and me. The three of us chatted about everything, and it was very comfortable.

3. This trip was in a hotel in Kruger National Park. The service was excellent and the room was very African. I had a hearty lunch when I arrived hungry. It couldn’t be better!

Check in on the 13th day of 2021-10-20

1. Today’s Safari saw the four big beasts, many birds, and many interesting stories in the animal world. I learned and I took the time to record it!

2. I spent more than an hour exercising before lunch. In the breeze, looking at the natural environment, it seemed that I was one, so happy!

3. The children were laughing and playing around, and I took a nap in the dark, so cool!

Check in on the 14th day of 2021-10-21

1. Before going to Safari in the morning, I hoped to see rhinos and buffaloes. Unexpectedly, I saw rhinos after watching buffaloes. , that feeling of "all your wishes come true" is so good!

2. Because my husband has an important meeting tomorrow, he returned to Johannesburg a day early. He quickly adjusted to his unhappiness, because we’d better accept and surrender to “God’s business” and “other people’s business”. .

3. After breakfast, rest for an hour, jump rope 5500 times, and then do abdominal exercises and stretching. This time I didn’t choose to exercise while watching a movie, I just felt my body.

4. After practicing, we took a hot bath, had a rich lunch, and slept for a while with two little cotton-padded jackets in our arms. The three mothers were reluctant to leave tomorrow.

Check in on the 15th day of 2021-10-22

1. After packing up and going home after the last Safari, my sister kept crying and was reluctant to leave. I especially understood her feelings and allowed her to Immersed in the sadness of being reluctant to leave, not impatient;

2. Chatting with friends on the road, talking about old friends who used to be in South Africa, the magical chain of friends, feeling warm in my heart, and missing them;< /p>

3. The children kept chatting all the way. It felt so good to have friends!

Check in on the 16th day of 2021-10-23

1. On the night when I came back from vacation, I chatted with my husband over tea, about work, and about vacation. I liked this spirit very much. Deep communication at all levels;

2. I rarely slept in in the morning, and I vaguely felt my child getting up and going into the master bedroom, but then tiptoed out without disturbing me, which was very heart-warming, and I gave her a big hug as a reward;< /p>

3. After playing wildly, the child was very serious about his homework. I also previewed tomorrow’s Fengmao class to find my own driving force. It seemed very abstract at first, but it became much clearer after learning.

Check in on the 17th day of 2021-10-24

1. When I can’t run, I jump rope at home. It becomes more and more smooth, and the frequency of rope breakage decreases. Practice makes perfect.

2. My husband takes the children to swim, and I can attend classes with peace of mind and feel satisfied.

3. My sister started taking Chinese classes and her performance in class was very positive. I was very happy for her.

4. Walking with the baby in the community, the breeze is gentle, the eyes are full of green, I feel like I am in a big oxygen bar, full of energy.

Check in on the 18th day of 2021-10-25

1. In the morning, a young male colleague targeted my colleagues in the company group because of his misunderstanding of documents. I comforted my young female colleague in private and explained further to my male colleague. I was grateful that I could be calm and calm in the face of trouble.

2. The children will not start school until tomorrow, so I can only take them to the office. At noon, the whole family will go to boxing class together. I am grateful that they can do their homework or draw in the office without affecting my meetings and work.

3. I steamed buns for the children and asked my husband to help with the dough. Unexpectedly, he turned out to be dead noodles. I am grateful that I was not angry and the whole family enjoyed the still delicious texture. dead bread.

Check in on the 19th day of 2021-10-26

1. It was my turn to make breakfast today. I took 40 minutes to make a relatively hearty breakfast without any rush, and the whole family finished it. After that, I sent my children to school on time, which gave me a great sense of accomplishment.

2. My husband was on a business trip, and I took a boxing class alone. I was sweating profusely. Because I didn’t practice so hard during the week of vacation, I kept stopping to take a break, but I still gritted my teeth and persevered. I was very happy.

3. My sister took the initiative to do her homework when she got home, copied the wrong questions from the question book, and corrected the data herself to practice more. I praised her greatly when I saw it. I was pleased that she was also happy.

4. There was a power outage this afternoon. I was very happy that we didn’t have to make lunch. We had KFC and occasionally enjoyed fast food. It was so exciting.

Check in on the 20th day of 2021-10-27

1. I read Mary’s book "Cold Violence" today. In addition to mental abuse in families and marriages, it turns out that in the workplace Yes! I have suffered it myself! I am grateful that I responded correctly and became stronger because of it. I looked away and suddenly felt relieved.

2. The children had a temporary play date, doing homework together, riding bikes together, and prepared a simple dinner for them.

3. Today is my anniversary with my husband. He was away on a business trip, but he sent me a big red envelope of 1314 and promised to come back to make up for it. I am still happy.

Check in on the 21st day of 2021-10-28

1. I briefly chatted with the new female colleague for a while, and I was happy to see her adapt to South African work life so quickly;

2. I ignored the children's daily "quarrels" on the way to school, and finally comforted them separately. After going to the supermarket, the two of them reconciled;

3. This The electricity is limited in the afternoons on weekdays, and lunches are ready-made from the supermarket. They are nutritious and healthy, and I am happy that I don’t have to cook;

4. The eldest daughter takes the initiative to do her homework, which is gratifying;

5. Mr. During the business trip, he took the initiative to call him to greet me, which saved me from worrying about making serial calls that could kill him, which was a relief.