How to write a proposal of parent-teacher conference?

The head teacher should improve the skills of holding parent-teacher meetings to make the work more targeted, artistic and effective.

First, parents should have a clear theme.

Parents should have a clear theme and avoid scratching their beards and eyebrows. From group to study, from entertainment to work, everything seems to be covered, and parents don't hear anything. Generally speaking, the number of parent-teacher meetings in a semester is less than that in grades, and grades are less than classes. Due to the subdivision of school goals, all parents attend fewer class parent-teacher conferences than some parents are called to attend. In other words, it is better to hold parent-teacher conferences with more specific objectives than to hold parent-teacher conferences with the nature of briefing the whole class, such as: parent-teacher conferences for student cadres (to guide students to study correctly and social work to further improve their comprehensive quality), parent-teacher conferences for students with learning difficulties (to guide students to improve their learning methods and improve their psychological quality, and not to be afraid of difficulties), parent-teacher conferences for students with obvious progress trends (to encourage enthusiasm, guide learning methods, pay attention to ability training, and get out of the sea of questions), and those with poor discipline, if the theme is clear, Therefore, if the parent-teacher conference has a clear theme, the effect will be more obvious.

Second, the investigation and research work before the meeting

In order to establish the theme, we need to do some research work before the meeting, which can be roughly divided into two aspects.

On the one hand, it is a survey of students. It is necessary to fully understand students' ideological trends, daily performance and achievements in various subjects, and formulate different countermeasures for different categories. For example, if a classmate gets good grades in Chinese and poor grades in math, parents can be asked to cooperate with the school to improve students' math learning methods and spend more time improving their grades. Chinese only seeks to ensure that the original standard will not fall behind. Another example is that a classmate's academic performance has improved, but he doesn't care enough about the collective. Parents are required to cooperate with the school to strengthen the ideal education and moral sentiment education for the student, so that it can develop in an all-round way.

On the other hand, it is a survey of parents' situation. It is necessary to study the characteristics of students' families and put forward different countermeasures to make school education and family education perfectly combined.

Third, screen targets and concentrate on solving major contradictions.

After the investigation, make specific arrangements according to the specific conditions of grades and classes. For example, it is necessary to commend students with good grades and let parents of students with poor grades cooperate with parents to urge their children to learn; It is also necessary to introduce the advanced deeds of students in the class, urge parents to pay more attention to the cultivation of children's daily moral standards, analyze the reasons for students' learning difficulties, and strive for parents' cooperation and correction ... All these should have a comprehensive plan, find out the problems that need to be solved at present through screening, and be the theme of this parent-teacher meeting. The remaining problems will be solved one by one after this parent-teacher meeting has achieved certain expected results. In this way, every parent-teacher meeting can achieve a series of effects, which is of great benefit to the joint efforts of schools and families to improve the quality of students in an all-round way.

Fourth, pay attention to conversation skills and strive for harmony.

Teachers must pay attention to conversation skills at parent-teacher meetings, and avoid blunt language and attitude. When answering parents' questions, be patient, seek truth from facts, don't exaggerate or hide. It is necessary to fully affirm the advantages of students, and the tone should be soothing and cordial, so that parents can feel the teacher's concern for their children and don't "complain" about the shortcomings and mistakes of students. Instead, we should seriously point out the consequences, actively help parents analyze the causes of students' mistakes, and put forward corrective measures and opinions, so that parents can feel that the school treats all students equally and even cares more about underachievers, so that parents can rest assured and are willing to cooperate with the school to do a good job.

Fifth, deliberately create an atmosphere and pay attention to emotional effects.

The head teacher should also deliberately create a harmonious atmosphere, pay attention to the role of emotion, make parents feel grand and cordial, and let them naturally have a spiritual relationship with the school. For example, if the environment is neatly arranged, parents can also put some bonsai flowers in appropriate places and post some sensational slogans, instead of letting parents have a mentality of being punished by a bad girl. In my opinion, only when parents and schools are in harmony can the two forces come together to form a joint force and play a more effective educational role.

How to have a parent-teacher conference? Sitting in the child's seat in class and listening to the story told by the child's teacher-every parent has the experience of holding a parent-teacher meeting for his child. But now, parents have a special feeling for parent-teacher conferences:

I look forward to holding a parent-teacher meeting to understand the performance of children in school and the educational content of the school; I'm afraid of holding parent-teacher conferences. I'm afraid that my children can't lag behind others. I'm afraid that parents of students who have been having "problems" will regard parent-teacher conferences as a psychological burden. It should be said that this is a very common "parent-teacher mentality". Today, when the only child almost dominates the whole country and our children are wholeheartedly concerned, the parent-teacher conference has also become a problem, a problem widely discussed by the public and a subject that needs to be studied. So-parent-teacher conference, how to open it?

Recently, I read a report about the parent-teacher conference reform in Beijing Yu Ying School, which was quite touching and I dare not enjoy it alone. I want to communicate with the teachers:

Children's troubles at school have become the talk of teachers' "complaints" at parent-teacher meetings; Parents were humiliated by "education" at the parent-teacher conference. If they are angry, they will be angry with the children.

It's all parents' fault.

Here's what you can imagine:

Dad came home from the parent-teacher conference, unhappy, and got into his room and closed the door without saying a word. His mother asked him to eat several times, but he didn't answer. This scene makes the child's heart even more hairy. I don't know what will explode next. The air at home seems to be cold all night. Nervous, nervous, uneasy and scared, the children are eagerly waiting for the scene that will definitely appear after the parent-teacher conference. ...

There are also happy ones. Some parents pretend to be full of children after the parent-teacher conference. Seeing children is scolded, reprimanded, and even scolded like a storm. Even if children study well and behave well, it is inevitable to listen to their parents' nagging: "They got 100 in this exam. How did you get 98?" The teacher said that you have been a little slack recently, so you should work harder! ""XX became a class cadre, you should work hard! "

No wonder students often "lose" or "forget" the teacher's parents' notice, or make up lies like "Dad is on a business trip, but Mom can't take a vacation". Next, the absent parents were invited to the school, and the complaints of the class teacher and the impassioned "gang up and attack" of the class teacher came face to face. Many parents who are usually prominent, like pupils who have made mistakes, cover their faces while listening to lessons in their children's teacher's office, suppressing their growing anger. Outside the office at this time, it is possible to avoid the frightened children who are eavesdropping. There is no doubt that tonight's "blizzard" can't escape.

In this regard, Li Jing, a young teacher from Beijing Yu Ying School, has a deep memory. At that time, she had just graduated from college and was full of youth. There is a student in her class who is always making trouble and bullying her classmates. She invited her parents several times, but the children always made excuses not to let them come, even the phone number left for the teacher was fake. Later, "the opportunity finally came": in the final exam, he became the last few in his grade. The teacher asked his classmates who lived near his home to invite his mother to have a parent-teacher meeting. At the meeting, the teacher talked about the shortcomings of the students, "Seeing the mother's face became a little gloomy", and complaining also made other parents obviously unhappy. The next morning, I saw the student come to school with a scar on his face. He looked at the teacher with hatred, which he always hated. Later, I learned that my parents divorced when the child was very young, and the family relied on his mother to do odd jobs. He has lived in a loveless environment since he was a child. Teacher Li Jing painfully recalled that the student didn't take the right path in the end and dropped out of school after graduating from junior high school. "I have always felt guilty about him."

Those parents who follow the rules to attend the parent-teacher conference are just loyal listeners of the teacher: the head teacher, the protagonist of the parent-teacher conference, will inevitably talk about the requirements of study, management, grades, parental guidance, etc., and the head teacher will say it after the head teacher has finished speaking. To put it bluntly, in addition to requirements, it is a task and even a complaint. Parents worship their teachers as gods, and they take notes devoutly, because that will be their "program of action" to guide their children in the future. Almost every program of the parent-teacher conference is done in this way, and it is still being done.

So, what are the students' attitudes towards parent-teacher conferences? A questionnaire survey was conducted among 328 students of different grades in Yu Ying. The results show that 36.3% students feel nervous and stressed when they hear about the parent-teacher conference. 1 1.3% of students are unwilling to let their parents attend parent-teacher conferences. Moreover, the answer sheet tells us that after the parent-teacher conference, 1 1% students have a tense relationship with their teachers, 20. 1% students have a tense relationship with their parents, and 30.5% students will be severely criticized and restricted from activities after the parent-teacher conference. Some students expressed their hope to "hold as few meetings as possible" and "it is best never to hold parent-teacher conferences".

Change your mind, change your way of thinking, and use some clever methods. There is a new world ahead-

Multi-expression of parent-teacher conference

The parent-teacher conference will still be held, and the key is how to hold it.

""Dear parents: Hello! Your child has been in primary school for half a semester. Is there any change? Have they adapted to the life of primary school students? You are welcome to come to school this Friday to see the children's performance, talk to teachers and other parents about your confusion, your educational experience and your experience. "

"Hello, parents: The final exam has just ended. You must be very concerned about your children's grades and their study and life at school. When children grow up, they will certainly behave differently at home, and you may also have some questions that you want to communicate with others. Please take time out of your busy schedule and come to school this Wednesday to attend the symposium I organized for you and your children. I hope that you will bring valuable teaching experience and share it with you. "

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This is a new notice of several parents' meeting, with a little warmth and consideration. They are no longer the orders given to parents by schools and teachers with a straight face. The teacher should tell the parents about the parents' meeting through this notice before the meeting, so that they can come prepared.

The most important thing in the new parent-teacher conference is the change of the teacher's role-from a "parent" who used to be thirsty but often sang "one-man show" in vain to a teacher, parents or singing with students; During the meeting, parents no longer sit on the podium under the teacher's podium, but sit next to each other in circles. Students are no longer excluded from parent-teacher conferences and become "absentees" forever. Some parents will let students participate, while others will let students discuss and decide the content.

Parent-teacher conference has been transformed, and a new model of parent-teacher conference has surfaced in teachers' discussion:

Communication: theoretical discussion, case analysis or experience exchange on educational issues;

Dialogue and discussion: have a dialogue with parents, teachers and students, teachers and parents on one or two outstanding issues;

Exhibition: Show children's homework, works, award certificates or students' live performances, so that parents can understand their children in the class background;

Expert report: Ask experts to give a report on a certain stage or a sexual problem after students enter school and answer questions on the spot to improve the quality of parents' education;

Friendship: teachers, parents and students get together and use cheerful forms such as performances to create a harmonious atmosphere and enhance feelings and understanding;

Sightseeing: Students, parents and teachers go sightseeing together, find problems in activities and promote communication.

Let's go into the scene and watch some parent-teacher conferences:

The parents' meeting begins with a game called "Walking for the Blind": parents are blindfolded and students who are not their own children help them through a bumpy and tortuous journey. In the process of walking, you can't communicate with words, you can only use gestures to hint. After this interesting and vivid game created an atmosphere for the parents' meeting, the teacher kindly expressed the original intention of designing such a game: please ask parents to experience the feeling of being helped to walk in the dark, and let the students experience the difficulty of helping-this is a parents' meeting for some students with learning difficulties. "These children are like walking in the dark now, and they need the help of their loved ones. Children and parents should be considerate of each other. " This is the theme of this parent-teacher conference. Then, the teacher took 15 minutes to invite parents and children to have a heart-to-heart talk. After that, several students came forward to talk about their usual problems in study and life, and parents also reviewed their improper educational methods in the past. At the end of the parent-teacher conference, the teacher asked each parent to write a letter to their children to encourage them to build confidence. For such a parent-teacher conference, parents feel relaxed and lively, with a serious theme and a new and good form; Students reported that after the meeting, they had a deeper understanding of learning than before, and had some awareness, hoping to open more in the future.

There is a problem of cheating in exams in the class, and parents need to cooperate with education. Teacher Zhao of Beijing School didn't criticize students or find parents as before, but quietly asked each student to keep a small goldfish and bring it to the parent-teacher meeting a week later. Facing the fish tank on the table, Teacher Zhao said, "We are going to hold a goldfish competition today. But it's not bigger than whose fish, whose fish looks good, and we have to compare whose fish is really raised by ourselves. " In a startled look, the teacher led to an honest topic for parents and students to discuss together. Teacher Zhao wants to use this special discussion to solve the problem more peacefully and actively: not only to help students improve their understanding of honesty, but also to make parents realize that "score" is not the most important. They should first care about the shaping of children's personality, guide children to learn to be human and learn to do things with teachers. In their speeches after the discussion, parents repeatedly expressed their demands and hopes for their children's morality and reflected on their neglect in the education process. At the end of the summary, the teacher asked: "Just now, the students exchanged ideas with their parents. I believe you must have made a promise to your parents for the second half of the semester, and you must have made it seriously and responsibly … "Finally, all parents and students shared the words" Honesty is golden ". A parent-teacher meeting that might have been full of gunpowder reminded and educated parents and students in this form.

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Parent-teacher conference has changed its face: it is no longer the civilized language "swearing-in meeting" of cold-faced teachers and the "training meeting" of parents, but the tenderness and affection evaluated by experts run through it; Softening criticism and well-intentioned reminders make parents and students more grateful and respectful to teachers, and also make all parties in such a triangular relationship more respectful, understanding and communicating.

The definition of parent-teacher conference is "a way for schools to contact their parents". The purpose of holding parent-teacher conferences is to promote mutual understanding and support between parents and teachers, so that schools and families "put forward the same requirements for their children and always proceed from the same principles".

The new parent-teacher conference model is approaching this goal. The new form comes from and depends on the new concept that parents should be teachers' partners. Under the new concept, parents' meeting can be a bridge between hearts.

Respect, equality and cooperation are reflected in the whole process of the parent-teacher conference: before the parent-teacher conference, teachers have consulted parents (sometimes including students) about the content and methods of the conference, and carefully designed invitations explain the theme of the conference; In the meeting, teachers consciously give parents and even students time and space to become the protagonists of parent-teacher conferences. In this way, parents will have the opportunity to understand their children's overall situation, change their attention to their children, listen to other parents' teaching experience and confusion, have the opportunity to communicate face to face with their children, participate in students' education, and evaluate class education.

Let's listen to the experience of parents. A parent said: "This kind of direct face-to-face communication between teachers, parents and students is really novel and rich, which has helped me understand my children more comprehensively and set up a new concept of educating them." Another parent said: "I used to think I knew everything about children, so I neglected to know more about them." If you don't understand, how can you understand? So we can't understand some weird behaviors of children, and children can't understand the good intentions of parents. Now I am shocked and happy to hear what the children wrote to their parents. It is shocking that there are so many grievances and complaints hidden in children's hearts, but they don't know that we care about and love children most; I'm glad the child said what he wanted to say. The speeches of several parents are very enlightening to us. Children grow up day by day. The best way to care for children is to make friends with them and create a relaxed and harmonious space for them. "

Let's listen to the children's voices again:

"In the past, every time I heard the news of a parent-teacher conference, I always thought of' finished playing' and' dead', as if the end of the world was coming. However, after the interactive parent-teacher conference, we not only didn't finish, but also made progress. I always feel that my parents have nothing to do all day. Through this parent-teacher meeting, we know the parents' distress. At the same time, parents also learned about our distress as students. Such parent-teacher conferences are successful. "

"In the past, after parents came to the school for a meeting, a reprimand widened the distance between us, and it was even harder to communicate again. This time it's as simple as chatting. Teachers, parents and classmates speak freely, not only about learning, but also about life, as well as educational methods and learning experiences. "

"At this parent-teacher meeting, what I saw most was the knowing smile of parents and myself. That all-inclusive smile made me understand that parents are actually our friends. After the parent-teacher conference, my parents' concern for me increased. For example, our classmates used to talk on the phone for a long time, and my mother will talk for a long time. Now she just reminds me gently, and I realize it myself. Much better in educating me. If I stop worrying, I will beat and scold, but I will ask and criticize in good faith, which makes me feel relaxed and happier than before. "

"The dialogue at the parent-teacher conference has brought dozens of small families together into a big family here."

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At the parent-teacher conference, the students saw how the teacher sincerely appreciated his progress, how to skillfully guide parents to accept their own shortcomings, and saw that the teacher really held the parent-teacher conference for his healthy growth, and felt that a heart bridge was unblocked.

Teachers can also find the new feeling of the head teacher's work after changing the previous "report of results" method. A young teacher in Yu Ying School told her story: When she was a head teacher, her parents often complained to her that the relationship between the teacher and her parents was tense. Through the new model of parent-teacher conference again and again, parents have seen her care for students, enthusiasm for work, and better understanding, and parents have given strong support to her work. Her class has become an excellent class group; There is also a teacher who has not transferred to another school for a long time. He is afraid that he can't teach the class well, and he is under great pressure. At work, he often adopts a strict attitude and strict training, which makes the relationship between teachers and students tense. The new parent-teacher conference helped her improve her relationship with parents and students. With the cooperation of parents, the student work in this class has achieved gratifying results.

How to hold the parent-teacher conference? After listening to the introduction just now, everyone must be very inspired. The topic for everyone today is: Please design a new parent-teacher conference according to the actual situation of the class.