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I have often heard people say in my life: thank you for suffering, because it can make a person.

I don't quite agree with this sentence, because it is more likely to hit a person with hardships, and it is oneself who can achieve a person. In the face of hardships, we should thank ourselves for fighting back bravely.

Speaking of the story of Isabella Chow, the founder of appreciation education, it is a painful history that makes people cry. It is precisely because when suffering came, he did not feel too sorry for himself, but bravely accepted constant learning, integration and innovation, thus creating one miracle after another and unexpectedly rewriting his and his daughter's life into a touching song of life.

Isabella Chow was originally from Nanjing. 1967 just graduated from junior high school. He caught up with a special era and had to drop out of school and rush into the torrent of society.

Worked as a soldier, a sand Turner, a machine tool technician, and attended the "7.2438+0" Workers' University.

If his life is the same as that of most people of his generation, he will not experience so much pain, but live a simple and happy life.

1On June 27th, 980, Isabella Chow's world changed completely, because he had an unusual daughter, Zhou Tingting, who was deaf in both ears.

Total deafness is a forbidden area for rehabilitation all over the world, and the only way out is basically to go to a school for the deaf.

Isabella Chow deeply understands the pain of the deaf father. After the diagnosis, his daughter Tingting can only hear the sound above 100 decibel. Some parents of deaf children will collapse and even despair when they hear the diagnosis like a doctor's decision.

Isabella Chow is no exception. He held the child tightly, afraid to look into his daughter's eyes, and held the child trembling all the way home.

Isabella Chow nearly collapsed, tossing and turning in countless sleepless nights.

Life goes on. As long as there is a glimmer of hope, we will never give up easily.

He began to take his daughter to the road of treating deafness, from Nanjing to Shanghai to Beijing and then to Guangzhou. He has been to many hospitals and seen countless doctors. His daughter had tens of thousands of needles in her ear, but she couldn't cure her deafness in the end.

Many deaf children eventually become deaf because they can't hear the outside world. Isabella Chow is unwilling to accept his fate. He doesn't want his daughter to be isolated from ordinary people all her life.

Seeing the arrival of inferiority, the guests only dare to hide in the corner of the daughter; Looking at Tingting, she cried herself out, unable to express her thoughts. Isabella Chow's tears rolled like a knife.

He took his daughter stumbling through one dreary day and night after another; I have tasted despair and pain again and again.

Isabella Chow, in the same boat, burst into tears.

Any life is fragile and beautiful. At this moment, he is determined to open the door to the sound world for his daughter.

Apart from working hours, Isabella Chow devoted all his time and energy to his daughter. While treating his daughter's mute, he studied all kinds of children's education books.

He told his daughter to watch her mouth and learn pronunciation, just like the classic line in The Kite Runner: Qian Qian gives you a million times! Isabella Chow has taught her thousands of times to hear her daughter call her "Dad". In order to pronounce a "brother" and "light" correctly, Tingting studied for three years. ……

Language is the foundation of thought. In order to teach her daughter the ability of language expression, Isabella Chow invented the method of playing word games in her mother tongue. He immediately wrote everything his daughter said on the wall, floor, desk, body and hands.

They write stars when they see stars, and write trees when they see trees ... Every time they go out to play, they play all the words before going home.

In order not to put pressure on her daughter, Isabella Chow never asked her how much she knew and mastered, but the language and words had penetrated into her daughter's subconscious.

And this playful learning style has also developed Tingting's mind well.

Tingting can know more than 2000 Chinese characters at the age of six. At the age of 8, he was able to recite pi after decimal point 1000, breaking the world record at that time; Studying in an ordinary school, she not only got excellent academic performance, but also skipped two grades in a row; 13 years old, was rated as one of the top ten young pioneers in China and a self-improvement model for the disabled; 16 years old, becoming the first deaf junior college student in China; At the age of 20, he was admitted to Gallaudet University as a graduate student-the first deaf graduate student in China.

At the age of 22, together with Wu Yi, Deng Yaping and Yang Lan, she was selected as one of the first batch of "Top Ten Female Figures at Home and Abroad" and was cordially received by important state leaders. At the age of 24, he was admitted to Boston University to pursue a doctorate.

Zhou Tingting was hailed as a "child prodigy" and a "genius" when he stood at the commendation meeting in the Great Hall of the People and gave a wonderful speech in front of more than 7,000 audiences. Only Isabella Chow, the father who cried silently in the audience, knew Tingting was not a genius. Her IQ is 105, which is far from the so-called genius 130.

Perhaps the so-called genius is an ordinary person who is properly enlightened and educated!

Tingting's pronunciation was intermittent when she was a child, which was a bit strange. She couldn't hear any sound herself, so she asked her father with inferiority, "Is my voice particularly ugly?"

Hong Zhou gave her a thumbs-up to encourage her: "Your voice is like a string of pearls, great!"

When Tingting failed in math, Isabella Chow encouraged her: "Do you want to be a petrel? Great! The storm is coming, let's meet it together! "

In each of Tingting's compositions, Isabella Chow drew good sentences in red ink and asked her to read them to the whole family, who applauded together.

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Isabella Chow said: My daughter is not a child prodigy, and I am not an educator myself. I'm just a father who woke up at the right time. The person he admires most is his daughter Tingting.

He didn't ask the flowers to bloom, but watered them carefully. However, Zhou Tingting grew up to be the most beautiful self because of her natural weakness, and became Helen Keller of China.

In the process of accompanying and educating her daughter, Isabella Chow summed up, discovered and understood a whole set of children's education thoughts, and founded Tingting School for the Deaf.

What the school pursues is an entertaining teaching method. The school slogan is only: "Teacher, are you happy? Are you happy, son? I wish you a happy day and a happy mood. "

There are no classes in school, and mobile courses are completely determined by students' moods and interests. Playing math, Chinese and ducks is a kind of chaotic spiritual education of "chasing butterflies".

This kind of "chasing butterflies" education has made the deaf children who are born worthless create miracles one after another, and the school has trained a batch of Zhou Tingting-style precocious children, which is called "Zhou Tingting phenomenon" by the media. Isabella Chow summed up his educational method as "appreciation education".

In order to benefit more families, Isabella Chow has written many books about parenting education and family harmony, such as Life is like water, which part is not beautiful, Parenting in a Different Way, Lighting a lamp for life in the dark and so on.

Isabella Chow not only founded the Appreciation Education Society, but also established a special school for deaf children and a happy parent-child camp. Won the 6th World Love Life Award and was awarded the title of "Appreciating Dad". He is also called "the first awakened father in China". He was specially appointed as a family education expert by the Central Education Institute.

Appreciation education is no longer a simple parenting education, but is widely used in getting along with lovers, colleagues and team harmony, and has become a set of thoughts that enlighten family happiness and life growth.

With his wisdom and actions, Isabella Chow has influenced and changed tens of millions of families with this problem.

In recent years, Isabella Chow has traveled all over the country and many countries in Southeast Asia. He has given thousands of large-scale educational lectures.

Looking at the eager eyes of the parents in the audience, I thought that I might not share it in the same city in the future. As long as time permits, he always increases the interaction time with people in need and helps as many people as possible.

Whether standing on the podium or sharing his life with others, Mr. Isabella Chow, who is over 60 years old, is always in high spirits. He likes talking with Kan Kan because he is humorous, philosophical and easy to understand.

He said: "Appreciation is not only what children yearn for, but also the most essential need in human nature, so we propose appreciation education.

What is appreciation? Appreciation is by no means blind praise and encouragement. The essential meaning of appreciation is to look up. Only by looking at each other can we recognize the bright spots in each other's lives. And when we teach our children to learn to walk and talk, we should also use the mentality of not being afraid of falling and losing, so that life can shine more. Not afraid of losing, you can win! "

He shared: "Life is a river, the upstream is self, the middle is husband-wife relationship, and the downstream is parent-child relationship. Everyone must learn to make peace with himself. Only when the upstream is harmonious, the middle reaches will be harmonious, the middle reaches will be harmonious, and the downstream will be harmonious. "

Teacher Isabella Chow herself has experienced the pain and failure of marriage. It is because he learned to reconcile with himself that he regained the ability to love and be loved. In the eyes of mutual appreciation with his family, he regained a happy, harmonious and happy family.

Now appreciation education has been included in one of the six major education laws in the world, and it is also the only children's education law from China, which is regarded as the treasure of parenting education.

However, Isabella Chow said frankly: "Appreciation education is a concept and mentality, and it has no specific operation steps and methods. There are thousands of people, and no one method is suitable for all children. Ideas and attitudes are the essence of appreciation education. Attitude has changed and methods are infinite; As soon as the attitude changes, the problem disappears. "

He laughed at himself and said, "Fate made me fall, but I found a treasure in this fall."

Nowadays, in too many children's education and couples' relationship, everyone is always used to blaming with the second thumb, rather than the acceptance, tolerance and appreciation of the thumb.

What Mr. Isabella Chow wants to do is to share the treasures he has excavated with everyone, so that appreciation education can benefit more people who are lost in education, and those who are lost in the secluded pool can also find the rope leading to light and hope.

Author: Yue Ling, a stone obsessed with mountains and rivers, interprets the complicated world with his own heart.