What are the effects after divorce (the disadvantages and effects of divorce)

As I told you the other day, a correct divorce will bring some benefits to the parties and some family members. On the contrary, a wrong divorce will not achieve the expected relief or benefits, but will bring many disadvantages.

Therefore, for a marriage, when you are confused and upset, even if you are thinking about ending the marriage immediately, you must make a professional and correct evaluation and diagnosis to see if you have reached the standard of divorce. If not, what we should do is to find out the cause to save the marriage, instead of giving up directly, not letting it go or doing nothing, because we don't marry anyone to compete with ourselves or get angry with our spouses, but to.

The correct divorce is because the relationship is completely broken, or the marriage is wrong from the beginning, such as domestic violence, gambling, drug abuse and other bad behaviors. The wrong divorce is that the contradictions and conflicts between you are not directly solved, but solved through avoidance and divorce. A large number of marital conflicts can be solved, including the conflict crisis of extramarital love and having children outside marriage. We can all find solutions and properly handle and arrange them.

Come back and talk about the disadvantages of divorce. There are many disadvantages:

The first shortcoming: the marital conflict you want to avoid cannot be solved. If the root cause is not solved, it will appear in your next marriage, even if you don't enter the next marriage, it will still appear in your daily life. Because your pattern is still there!

The trauma of your intimate relationship is still there, the defense mechanism is still there, and the cognition in your heart is still there. Divorce did not solve these contradictions, but only allowed them to be avoided and integrated. Then it will appear next time.

The second disadvantage: divorce hurts ourselves, hurts each other, hurts our views on marriage, and is also a trauma to our own life. Regarding the trauma of marriage, I think marriage is so troublesome, and there are so many contradictions in it. Finally, I still want to divorce, afraid of love and marriage.

Divorce will make you feel like a failure, and many of us will feel that "my marriage is a failure". Marriage has not failed, but only good or bad, comfortable and uncomfortable.

The third disadvantage: harm to children. The child is obviously harmful when his parents are divorced, but the size of this harm depends entirely on how to raise him after his parents are divorced. Some of our couples have led a frenzied life in their marriage, which has hurt their children. After the divorce, the husband and wife did not raise their children together, but they were hostile to their father and mother. Some elderly people even have to stop their grandchildren from keeping in touch with their fathers or mothers and prevent their fathers or mothers from visiting their children. Such support will only make children more injured.

At the time of divorce, the core thing is to have a tripartite meeting with the husband and wife who will take care of the children in the future. Divorce is conducive to the growth of children and reduces the harm to children. Talk it over before divorce, and talk it over before divorce.

Of course, it is obvious that a child will be under pressure, because this society still has negative comments on divorce. In school, classmates and teachers, there may be negative comments on this child, so he will have this psychological pressure and he will feel that his parents don't want him. Children's cognition is still unknown. Parents' divorce is the role of husband and wife. If they don't want husband and wife relationship, the parent-child relationship will always exist.

The fourth shortcoming: the destructiveness of property. From two angles, one is substantial property damage. For example, if a listed company divorces at home, half of its property is taken away, or half of its equity is taken away, its right to speak on the board of directors may be seriously affected, which is very destructive.

Ordinary people, after divorce, property will be divided. Some people only have one house. If there is no way, they will divorce and stay at home. In fact, they will divorce, stay at home, and then struggle.

For some stay-at-home mothers, she has no stable income. She used to earn money from this man. The man didn't earn much money, and he didn't have any property when he divorced. Very painful.

The other is from the perspective of wealth, which is actually very lethal. Of course, this is a superstition. Women are the fate of water, and water is the main wealth. These things will have psychological implications and influence. We do see that after many people get divorced, their property is slowly losing and their wealth is going down.

Fifth disadvantage: reputation will be affected. A divorced person will have an impact on business and social life. Of course, he will influence the second marriage. Others will have some negative comments on divorced people, especially those who betray, divorce, break up their wives, abandon their wives, and later marry a young woman, then everyone will have negative comments on him.

In addition to the above five disadvantages, divorce also has psychological effects, which are negative, because the separation of attachment will lead to a strong sense of loneliness and frustration, and divorce will also deny yourself, your past choices and your efforts over the years. These things will have an impact and cause trauma.

It will also have an impact on life expectancy. Generally speaking, the average man will affect his life span of three to five years, and divorce often has so many effects. Of course, for those who regard marriage as a child's play, there will be no such influence, because he did not divorce at all, nor did he regard marriage with a woman as an important form of marriage. He just plays with it, just in the name of love and marriage. Generally normal people, people who care about marriage and divorce, usually, he will pay three to five years of life.

Divorce also has a negative impact on future generations. Future generations may also divorce, and their marriage will be affected to some extent. These are small influences, but they are also very important. Therefore, you will get married in a muddle, but you must be careful about divorce. # Zhu Marriage Management College #