Why do rural blind dates have to be "long queues"?

Although the marriage relationship originated from the words of ancient parents' matchmakers has disappeared, blind date is still the mainstream choice in the marriage and love market, especially in rural areas. This year, a new wave of "blind date" has come again. As time goes into 65438+February, the twelfth lunar month is not far away, and the army of migrant workers from all over the country is ready to return home. Because of the epidemic, many people began to return home early, especially rural men and women with blind date needs. In order to have more choices, they must be fully prepared in time. In fact, every year around the Spring Festival is the golden age of rural blind date. Usually there are few people in the countryside, and most of them go to work and do business in the city. Therefore, all parts of the country have to return home for the New Year only during the Spring Festival. In recent years, many people have fallen into the dilemma of returning home. The epidemic has surrounded our lives, and policies such as celebrating the New Year on the spot have prevented migrant workers from returning home. Therefore, in order to postpone the blind date, many young people began to return home early, so from 65438+February, the blind date tide in rural areas will begin. However, in recent years, there have been many strange blind date phenomena in rural areas, one of which is "queuing blind date". In other words, when dating, a dozen or even dozens of boys are waiting in line for girls to date. Dating is like a big interview website. Spectacular as it is, it doesn't seem so. Not to mention that men's self-esteem has lost, girls are also very picky and don't know how to choose. So, why is this strange phenomenon formed? In fact, many parties are very helpless about this. According to cable protection media, there are probably three reasons. First, it is difficult to get married behind the queue of rural boys with more men and fewer women. The reason for the difficulty in getting married is that there are more men and fewer women. According to the population data, the number of men in China is nearly 40 million higher than that of women. That is to say, according to the absolute value of monogamy, there will always be a large number of men who cannot get married. So why are these people rural men? This stems from the good living conditions, employment, high-quality education and various public welfare in the city. In addition, the gap between the rich and the poor in urban and rural areas is too large, and any apartment in the city needs more than one million, and the wealth is much higher than that of rural families. Therefore, rural women rarely return to the countryside after entering the city, which also causes rural men to be at a disadvantage in marriage and love. Therefore, in order to get rid of singles as soon as possible, as long as the girl returns to the village, that is, "a family of hundreds of women", the queuing phenomenon naturally appears. Second, the date is too concentrated in the rural blind date. Actually, it's only a few days. Usually there are few people in the village. Even if a matchmaking agency is opened in the countryside, it will be closed for half a year, and there are basically no men and women of school age. There is nothing the matchmaker can do. With the acceleration of urbanization, rural population is constantly migrating to cities and towns, and houses in cities are built for farmers. However, a large number of farmers entering the city promoted the development of cities and towns, showed the prosperity of cities, but caused the depression of rural areas. Few people go back to the village all the year round. Only the Spring Festival can remind people of homesickness, and only then can someone go back to the village for the New Year. Therefore, the blind date schedule of these young men and women is full every day, in order to achieve it as efficiently as possible without wasting the work of the matchmaker. Even some matchmakers take people on blind dates in batches. If one fails, there will be two, and if two fails, there will be three, so the transaction rate is naturally high. Third, it is actually very beneficial for women to queue up for blind date. Facing so many competitors is a test of boys' psychological quality and demeanor. After all, many people will show their true colors under pressure. Women, on the other hand, can compare with each other, observe in many ways, and have more opportunities to choose people who have a good impression, so as to choose a good match by themselves. It's hard to get married, but it's hard to date. This generation of young men is miserable enough. Of course, in fact, there are many people who can't get married in every era. Otherwise, how could there be so many five-guarantee households in the village? Only in this era, women have more choices. In the past, rural women only married rural people, but now they all go to cities, so it is even harder to get married on blind date in rural areas.