When meeting someone for the first time, how do you deal with them politely without making people think you are showing off? Is there any better language?

The smartest way to date is to tell the other person that they are "under the 9th telephone pole by the West River". Carefully counting the telephone poles along the way is impressive in itself. Even if you accidentally quarrel after falling in love, as long as one party reminds you: "Do you remember the oath under the ninth telephone pole?" The anger will immediately rise. Back off.

There are also tips on how to open up topics when meeting. Asking for someone's resume on a first date is like checking someone's household registration. That's rude and downright stupid. Therefore, the word "respect" must always appear in your mind so that you can be cautious when speaking and not speak carelessly.

When going on a date, it is best to dress naturally. The woman does not need to dress too revealingly to prevent the man from having unnecessary distractions. There is no need for a man to wear a new piece of clothing that he just bought three hours ago. This can easily cause tension and make him care about his clothes all the time, which can lead to unnecessary distraction.

When leaving, sincerely leave your contact information to the other person, also take the opportunity to ask for the other person's communication number, and make a preliminary appointment where to meet next time. If the other party also intends to meet again, you can go further and say: "I will pick you up then." Or say: "I can arrive early, and you can be late.

Let's start with the details of the date:

Talk:

Talk is an art, and it is very important for a person to speak.

Talk volume: Girls like boys who are good at talking, but Boys who are prepared must remember to maintain a certain balance. You are more talkative than girls. A few is enough. If you talk too much, she will feel that you talk too much, and you don’t have time to think about whether girls like to listen to you. .

Topic: The topic is mainly what girls are interested in. What girls say, you need to expand around this topic. If you understand the girl's heart, you can start a topic that interests her. Generally, Choose topics related to fashion, learning, sports, work, career, etc. There are some things that she knows very well and you also know. You can pretend to be ignorant and give her a sense of accomplishment in teaching you.

Volume: Don’t make the volume loud, as long as she hears it. When you speak, speak naturally. Look at her for a while, then look at the ground. Slowly, increase the time and number of times you look at her... The effect is good, she You will feel that you are listening carefully.

Heart-to-heart talk: After chatting for so long, every girl has a lot of things on her mind. They usually lack someone who understands her, and they also hope to have someone who can take care of her. To understand her, as a friend or BF, a boy needs to be extra attentive in a heart-to-heart talk. In addition to being a good listener, you must fully understand the normality of all her thoughts and actions. You must show your mature side and appropriately Teach her some truth and tell her that she is right and she is a good girl.

Show yourself: This is a way to let the other party understand you. Before doing this, you must do the above N steps. , you must be sure that people are interested in your things. Well, tell me all your advantages, from childhood to adulthood, things that are fun, things that show you are smart, things that show you are brave and manly, etc.

Holding Hands:

Don’t think too much about the first date. Cultivating her to like you with snacks is the first priority. As long as she likes you, all future improvements will be smooth. It’s just a matter of time, and holding hands is the criterion for success. Boys should take the initiative to hold girls’ hands. There are two suitable places for holding hands:

First, in public occasions, the appropriate places to hold hands are Timing: Hold an umbrella for her on a crowded street, when crossing the road, or when it rains.

The right time to hold hands is during the conversation when she is amused by you. At that moment she obviously feels happy being with you and generally won't refuse.

Although this action is simple, it is also risky. If she does not throw away your hand, congratulations, it is half the success. Don't hug or kiss her right away...Student girls are also more reserved...If you are What to do if you dump him? It's usually not possible. I have used this method and it has never failed. Because if someone agrees to go on a date with you and walk the streets together, it means that they no longer have a bad impression of you. Ordinary friends will not be inexplicable. Take a walk on the trails.

Someone asked me what to say while holding hands. It is best to continue the topic just now. This is a more hypocritical way, but it is good for mediating the tense atmosphere of the other party being caught by a sudden action. , and also gives you time to think about how to open your mouth. If you have any love words, you can say them after you have walked hand in hand for a while.

Hugging

Hugging can be care, touching, celebration, or separation....

Time to hug: during a walk The pause moment and location are generally chosen in uninhabited, dark places, under traffic lights at crossroads, such as between Fu Da Dicos and Phoenix Restaurant, halfway across the road, when it is impossible to continue crossing, and when it rains

Actions before hugging: The boy turns to face the girl. He can straighten her messy hair first, and then hug her naturally.

Hugging movements: mainly divided into three types

1. Let the girl lean on the boy’s chest and cuddle up. It is suitable for new lovers with a height difference of more than 10CM. Recommended index ★★★ ★, Romance Index ★★★★★

Note (1) Don’t use the boy’s hands for other purposes. Hold her little finger gently with both hands and count the fingers slowly

(2) Boys don’t lean on girls’ chests. Recommendation index☆☆☆

2. Fanatical hugging is suitable for people who have known each other for a long time, are very familiar with each other, love each other but find it difficult to express their feelings. Kind of lovers, recommendation index ★★★★

3. The kind of hug that looks wrong, this kind of hug lacks personality and can easily cause tension and unnaturalness. It is suitable for ordinary hugs of couples. Recommendation index ★★

Hugging on the first date is obviously a sign of a confirmed relationship. It is equivalent to telling her "I love you". Hugging is warm and exciting. Most people will feel uncomfortable because their heartbeat speeds up. Sometimes she needs your gentle love words to accompany her to make her feel happy. Hug words: I love you, you are beautiful tonight, can you tell me what your zodiac sign is? , Some naughty words include "Can we fall in love?", "Your hair is my favorite smell" and so on.

Kissing

Kissing is a way for men and women in love to convey their unspeakable feelings. It is a physical language that is expressed verbally but embodies a strong erotic message. . A long, soothing, deep, passionate kiss, no matter which one, can give people a feeling of soul shock and romance. According to surveys, men and women in love are eager to kiss without exception. For most men, they not only remember the details of the first time they kissed their lover or wife, but they also hope that the sweet kiss will always accompany them in their emotional life. Kissing is a way of expressing love. It is actually suitable for people in love to express love, but there must be a first kiss between two people. Here I will not introduce how to kiss, nor will I go into too much about the meaning of kissing. The main thing is I want to tell you how to kiss her for the first time!

Kissing environment: uninhabited places, dark places, there are many such places in Fuzhou University, because the street lights in Fuzhou University flicker on and off. In this noisy city, Fuzhou University has many places like this. It is simply a paradise for lovers.

Kissing prerequisite: Kissing must be done on the basis of hugging, otherwise it is harassment, and it is wrong to step away. The so-called impression comes first, feeling comes first, all you are pursuing her You must take your time and maintain your own principles and character during the process.

Kissing test: Kissing is a relatively intimate way of expressing, and it is the beginning of a negative distance between men and women. Not all girls are willing to have their love come so suddenly and so quickly. If the other person Show sensitivity and stop your original thoughts, so boys should show their gentlemanly demeanor. Boys can first test whether the girl is willing to kiss you. The method is as follows:

1. Hug slowly Slowly change your posture so that your face is close to the other person's face

2. Slowly approach the other person's forehead, nose or ears with your lips. If the other person is not sensitive, you can kiss his forehead or nose. Or ears

You have done the second step, congratulations, she is willing.. The detection is over

If she does not refuse obviously, then you can kiss. If the other person’s eyes are With her eyes open, you can cover her eyes with your hands. Regardless of whether you have experience or not, a romantic atmosphere is the best way to express love. The progress should be from simple to complex, from light to heavy, from gentle to passionate, and generally You can take the following methods

1. Gently touch the other person’s lips with your lips

2. Gently hold the other person’s upper lip or lower lip with your lips

3. Open your mouth slightly and tease the other person’s upper or lower lip with your tongue

4. Gently bite the other person’s upper or lower lip with your teeth

5. Use your tongue to tease the other person's tongue. If the other person's lips are closed, you can gently open them.

6. At this time, both parties have already felt it and can kiss freely

I won’t write more about other developments. I think you are still students. There are many things for you to experience and explore for yourself. Before I end, I want to say that the best way to pursue a girl is to love sincerely. Let her be deeply moved from the depths of her heart. Let her clearly feel your sense of security, responsibility, and ambition. Let her know your meticulous care and love from beginning to end.