What are the skills of making friends in universities!

1, full of enthusiasm and hope for life, and actively create and release the passion of youth. Take the initiative to participate in life and integrate into the crowd. Emerson said, "The only way to get friends is to be their friends." Make full use of time and opportunities to feel more about life. Increase opportunities for contact with the outside world. At the same time, break thinking habits and adjust living habits. Try to look at people around you with new eyes. You will truly understand that "life is not a lack of beauty, but a lack of discovery"

2. Honesty is not only the virtue of being a man, but also the guarantee for the continuation and deepening of interpersonal communication. Only when we have a sincere and positive attitude in communication can we understand, accept and trust each other. Only sincerity can influence and impress people, others will be willing to cooperate and gain respect and trust from others. Only emotionally aroused * * *, consolidated and developed the communication relationship. The communication principle of "only saying three words to everyone, but not everything in my heart" erodes healthy communication relations. In interpersonal communication, people all over the world regard credit as very important. Interpersonal communication is based on mutual trust. "Without trust, a country will perish." . Only when a person keeps his word can others associate with him.

3. mutual benefit. Making friends should not be for profit and benefit. However, ordinary people eat human fireworks, and in daily communication, there will inevitably be an exchange of interests and interests. In this regard, we should adopt a normal mind, hold a philosophical and open attitude, and at the same time pay attention to equivalence, not seeking material equivalence, but seeking psychological balance.

4. Compatibility principle. Inclusive, broad-minded, tolerant and open-minded, regardless of the small gap, tolerant of dissidents, not haggling over unprincipled issues, can repay evil with good. In interpersonal communication, due to the existence of individual differences such as personality, experience, culture and accomplishment, it is inevitable that contradictions will arise due to misunderstanding and incomprehension. This should follow the principle of compatibility, be lenient with others and seek common ground while reserving differences. Having compatible moral character is a manifestation of one's self-confidence and determination. It is by no means cowardice, fear, fear and collusion, but a manifestation of high self-restraint. In real life, only by adhering to the principle of compatibility can we understand people, unite people and establish and develop harmonious interpersonal relationships. The performance of mentally healthy people in interpersonal communication is that they are willing to communicate with others and have stable and extensive interpersonal communication and intimate friends; Always maintain independence and integrity in communication.

5. Learn to swap roles. Everyone has different social roles, and always appears in a specific role when interacting with a specific object. If you are used to seeing yourself and others' behavior from your own role, you may be one-sided. Learn to exchange roles, that is, put yourself in the other person's position and examine and evaluate the self as the subject, so as to understand others' ideas fairly and treat their own behavior gains and losses objectively. It is easier to understand and tolerate others, which is conducive to the development of good interpersonal relationships. Role exchange in communication includes two aspects: (1) Put yourself in the other person's shoes, let yourself reasonably understand the other person's behavior and attitude, and do "forgive others with your own heart and blame yourself with your own heart". Avoid all kinds of friction caused by incomprehension. (2) By exchanging roles and treating others in an "objective self" way, we can adopt more appropriate behavior, which is the so-called "don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you". For example, if you don't want others to talk about yourself behind your back, then don't gossip behind your back. Role exchange can make you feel the feelings of the other person in a certain situation, so you can provide people with the most needed help.

Making friends is a complicated art, if you want to make intimate friends with similar interests. It is not enough to talk about the art and skills of communication. It is important to improve personal quality, cultivate a healthy attitude towards making friends and raise awareness of making friends. We should also practice boldly and be good at summing up the experience and lessons of making friends. Every college student has an innate need to communicate with others, and everyone has such potential. I hope the above suggestions can help to become a reality.