Parents' effective parenting experience

Parents' effective parenting experience

What parenting knowledge and skills should parents master? The following is my carefully prepared parents' effective parenting experience. You can refer to the following!

First, lead by example.

Example is better than words. Children's simulation ability is very strong, and at the same time, their ability to distinguish between good and bad things is very small. Every move, word and deed of parents affect children. So you have to ask your child what to do. Parents should first give it to their children in their own way.

Law to do it. For example, the baby always looks for something to eat first when he comes home, so he is very reluctant to wash his hands.

In order to make him develop good habits, we went to the bathroom to wash our hands after we got home and showed them to him specially.

After doing this several times, now he goes home and washes his hands by himself.

Second, the cultivation of independent living ability.

For the sake of children, he will leave his parents' arms and live independently sooner or later. If you can't do anything, the child will appear mentally retarded and will also hurt his self-confidence. So everything is arranged, which is definitely harmful to children. Realizing this, I feel at ease to be a lazy father. As long as the child can do it himself, try to let him do it himself. Since kindergarten, when I take him alone on weekends, I give him a spoon and sit at the table by myself. Every time I eat, it's 1/3 on the table, 1/3 on the ground and 1/3 by myself. I let him do it. If he was always skilled, he wouldn't fall on the table and on the ground. If I helped him, I should get 10, but that 10 will never be his own. Now try to make even two points and three points his own. I believe that time will increase him to 10.

To believe that children can do it, two or three-year-old children already have their own opinions, and more often they are willing to do things themselves. At this time, parents should encourage their children and let them do it themselves.

Third, fully understand and communicate effectively.

Children's ideology is not perfect, and some behaviors may be naive to us, so parents must really put their children in the background of this age to recognize his behavior. On the night of Christmas Eve, we told him to put his socks by the bed and Santa Claus would give you a present at night. But he told me: "There is no Santa Claus in this world. You are lying to me." Hearing this, I thought, "The little guy is very sophisticated, as you know." But in order to cooperate with the teacher's education, I advised him to put a pair of socks at the bedside before going to bed. I woke up the next day and saw chocolate in my socks. I smiled. "It turns out that there really is Santa Claus in this world. I will put on my socks when I sleep tonight and ask him to give me a toy tomorrow. " Laugh, can not help but sigh the child's jump thinking. But this is a matter of course for them, because there is really a Santa Claus, which was sent to me today and will definitely be sent tomorrow. This is also reflected in other aspects. When I first saw other children go to kindergarten, I nagged myself to go to school, but it was time for me to go to school, and I hesitated to go in at the kindergarten gate. At this time, we should fully understand his thoughts. In fact, she just depends on her parents and doesn't want to be separated from them. Criticism is useless, it will only make her cry more. This requires effective communication. Parents should pay attention to the purpose of communication with their children when communicating with them. The purpose is not to force children to obey their parents' arrangements, but to understand their behavior, clarify their thoughts, find out their purpose, and then try their best to persuade them to go to school and learn knowledge.

Fourth, cultivate good moral quality.

1. Sometimes when you take your children out, you will let them say "uncle and aunt" when you meet friends. Some children listen to their parents' requirements, parents are very happy, and the other party also praises their children for being really sensible; If children don't want to, parents will feel humiliated, and they will call them rude children and scold them in front of their friends. In fact, this is the normal reaction of children. 2, 3 years old is the initial stage of self-awareness, is the most primitive conditioned reflex to strangers, is the performance of normal development. Parents often think their children are rude and embarrassed. My son coughed and took him to see a doctor at Christmas. When the doctor examines him, my son always goes home to eat chocolate from Santa Claus. The doctor told him not to eat chocolate when coughing. Children are more resistant to seeing a doctor. He opened his mouth and said to the doctor, "Santa Claus gave it to me." If you don't let me eat, I will call 1 10 and let the police arrest you. " I was really speechless after listening to it, but I told him it would be ready soon. I'll go home and get it for you. On the way to get the medicine, I whispered to him, "You were rude just now. You have to listen to the doctor in the hospital. If you are sick, you will be fine, just like listening to your parents at home. " He said, "I know, just like listening to a teacher at school." When I went to ask the doctor about the dosage, I apologized to the doctor because the child was not focused, saying that I didn't educate well. I know it's the so-called "impoliteness" that makes me embarrassed, but I can't blame him in front of the child. I still admit his little heart.

2. Cultivate children "can't afford to lose"

A proper sense of competition is good for children, but today's children "can only win" and "can't afford to lose", and their ability to resist setbacks is particularly poor and they can't bear any grievances. In fact, it is natural to lose and win in the competition. We should accept frankly that "success" means doing one thing wholeheartedly, not defeating others! My baby has a "competitive" mentality, striving for the first place in everything, otherwise it will be noisy. On the school open day, I participated in a parent-child game with him, and I didn't get the ranking. I didn't cry at that time, but my expression looked more painful than crying. I know he is unhappy. My mother and I advised him that it didn't matter if he didn't win the prize this time. We will try our best to win the prize next time.

Losing is not terrible. The terrible thing is to lose confidence. Cultivate children to be broad-minded, optimistic and open-minded, stand up with a smile, see the positive side, have a strong heart and be full of hope. Only in this way can we live in harmony with others and have team spirit, instead of being above and looking down on others; If you can't compare with others, you will be depressed, lose confidence and give up on yourself.

Parenting is a long process, which is easier said than done. Although I have read a lot of books and learned some parenting principles, for various reasons, it has not been implemented to 100%. I want to use this article to encourage all parents. I hope all babies are really happy and charming on the road of life! Try to help your baby grow up healthily and happily. Finally, thank the teacher for his education and support for the baby!

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