My son is in the fifth grade, and his personality is cold and selfish. Why are children indifferent and don't care about others?

Why are children indifferent and don't care about others? 1, parents are indifferent by nature

Parents never welcome their children who have just come home. If children don't care whether they are happy at school, they don't know what "enthusiasm" is. If parents are indifferent to the people and things around them, then children who live with their parents for a long time will also be influenced by their parents and form an indifferent character.

2. Parents are too strict

The child told his parents excitedly that he had won the first prize in the sports competition. Instead of being praised, the child was reprimanded, "Why didn't this child get the first place in math and Chinese?" Parents are too strict with their children and never care about their true feelings. In the long run, children will naturally not care about others, communicate less and less with their parents, and are not interested in anything.

3. Parents have too little company

Children who have lived with grandparents for a long time are eager to be with their parents, but the reality is that they can't see their parents for a long time, it is difficult to establish emotional ties with their parents, and their personality will become more and more indifferent.

The child is indifferent and doesn't care about others. How should parents educate? 1, know the root of indifference.

We often say that "at the beginning of life, human nature is good". In fact, the child's heart is warm and kind. They often become indifferent because of the bad influence of adults or film and television works. Incorrect educational guidance is the root of children's indifference. Example is more important than words. Parents must be good role models for their children, be enthusiastic, care about others and be compassionate. Watch educational books and TV plays with children on weekdays, and cultivate children's enthusiasm and kindness while harmonious parent-child relationship. Indifference has lost the breeding soil, and naturally it cannot germinate.

2. Learn to put yourself in others' shoes.

If a child wants to really care about and understand others, he must be guided to stand in others' position and put himself in others' shoes. Parents can often play the game "If I were ……" with their children, so that children can feel the inner feelings of the relevant roles and realize that others are also eager for care and help, thus changing their indifferent attitude.

3. Strengthen the act of love.

Children may have some seemingly insignificant love behaviors in their lives, and parents should encourage and praise them in time. When children help their fallen friends, guide the lost old people, send a cup of hot tea to their parents who come home from work, and donate their toys and books to children in poor mountainous areas, parents should enthusiastically affirm them, and at the same time strengthen their loving behavior to curb the breeding of indifference.

4. Social welfare activities for children.

To let children have a warm heart, we must let them participate in social welfare activities. For example, watch a charity performance for disaster relief, participate in donations from all walks of life for Project Hope, go to nursing homes to participate in voluntary labor, donate books or potted flowers to schools and classes, donate pocket money and books to children in poor mountainous areas, participate in posting public service advertisements and slogans, and publicize public welfare knowledge voluntarily ... Parents should create as many conditions as possible, provide children with opportunities to participate in these activities, feel the significance of public welfare activities, and awaken their inner enthusiasm.

5. Parents should take the initiative to learn educational knowledge.

No one is perfect, but parents can learn smarter and communicate more smoothly with their children. When children are older, the way of education should not be the same as that of children, but should be chosen according to the characteristics of their physical and mental development.