Kong Linghui’s father Kong Xiangzhi: I can’t forget the tearful years of hard work between father and son. My son’s current situation makes me heartache.

Kong Xiangzhi is the father of Olympic table tennis champion Kong Linghui. He was born in Heilongjiang in 1949. He was originally a professional table tennis player. After retiring, he coached the Heilongjiang Provincial Table Tennis Team.

Before Kong Linghui entered the national team, his father had been his head coach. The media hailed them as the "number one father and son in table tennis."

Kong Xiangzhi and his son had tearful years of fighting. However, Kong Linghui left the national team after his glory. His love with the beautiful actress Ma Su also passed away, and his life fell into a trough. Kong Linghui's current situation makes his father Kong Xiangzhi heartbroken...

Kong Xiangzhi is the eldest son of the family, and Kong Linghui is the eldest grandson. They have been loved by the whole family since childhood. After Kong Xiangzhi retired from the Heilongjiang Provincial Table Tennis Team, he was assigned to be a table tennis coach at the Heilongjiang Sports School.

Kong Linghui’s mother, Gu Shuxia, was a primary school teacher and gave birth to Kong Linghui at the age of 25. When Kong Linghui was 3 years old, his father sent him to the kindergarten of Heilongjiang Sports School.

The little guy is restless and lively. He often crawls under the table tennis table to pick up balls for the older children. When his father asked him whether he played table tennis, Kong Linghui shook his head and said, "No."

When Kong Linghui was 4 years old, his father sent him to the middle class of the No. 2 Kindergarten of the Heilongjiang Provincial Government. At that time, Kong Linghui was still watching and picking up balls, but not playing.

After he was promoted to the top class at the age of 5, Kong Linghui took the initiative and said to his father: "Dad, I want to play ball." Kong Xiangzhi was puzzled: "Why didn't you play ball before?"

Kong Linghui admired With a flushed face, he said: "I couldn't beat the older kids before, but now I can beat them."

It turns out that my son has been competitive at a young age, which is a must-have character for athletes. Kong Xiangzhi began to teach his son how to play, and he became his son's first coach.

Kong Xiangzhi loves his son, but he is unselfish on the training ground. On Sunday, he rode his bicycle to take his son to the Children's Palace for training. At noon, Gu Shuxia went to deliver meals to the father and son.

Kong Xiangzhi had to train with his son for a whole day. The training made Kong Linghui unable to stand up. When he came home, his father carried him to the fifth floor.

Sometimes Kong Linghui’s fever reached 38.5 degrees, and Kong Xiangzhi asked his son to train. Kong Linghui cried while practicing. Gu Shuxia complained to her husband: "You are so cruel that you don't care about your son at all?"

Kong Xiangzhi said with red eyes: "Xiaohui's table tennis talent is not outstanding. How can he have a future if he doesn't practice hard?" ?”

When he was 7 years old, Kong Linghui went to primary school. He usually wastes time practicing football, but his academic performance is still very good and he is also good at painting.

In 1983, the school held an art exhibition with Japanese children, and many of Kong Linghui's works were displayed.

In 1985, 10-year-old Kong Linghui faced a life decision: Should he concentrate on playing basketball, or should he concentrate on studying and enter college in the future?

Kong Linghui’s parents, grandparents, uncles and aunts started a fierce debate about this. Because one wrong step may affect Kong Linghui's life.

Everyone had different opinions. Kong Xiangzhi finally asked his son: "Xiaohui, what are your plans?" Kong Linghui said: "Dad, I want to play ball." Kong Xiangzhi asked: "Can you hit it? To what extent? "Kong Linghui said: "I want to join the national team and become the world champion."

Kong Xiangzhi stroked his son's little head: "Well done, you have ambition, dad is optimistic about you!"

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In this year, Kong Xiangzhi was transferred from the provincial sports school to coach the provincial table tennis team, and he took Kong Linghui with him.

At that time, Kong Linghui had no living allowance and had to bear all the expenses himself. Kong Xiangzhi and Gu Shuxia lived frugally and provided their son with better nutrition.

Previously, Kong Linghui played straight fast break, but Kong Xiangzhi was sensitive to the fact that the combination of horizontal board and loop fast break will be the mainstream style of play in the world table tennis in the future. So he decisively asked Kong Linghui to shoot horizontally.

Kong Xiangzhi is Kong Linghui’s coach, sparring partner, and his life consultant. The father and son live and eat together and are inseparable.

On the first day of several consecutive New Years, it snowed heavily in Harbin, and Kong Xiangzhi took his son to practice football. After returning home, the father and son were covered with snowflakes on their bodies and heads, turning into two snowmen.

Once, relevant departments in Heilongjiang held a "Family Cup" table tennis match in Yichun City. Yichun is far away from Harbin, so Kong Xiangzhi took his son to compete at his own expense. To save money, the father and son stayed in cheap hotels.

It was summer, and the ceiling fan in the room was broken. Kong Xiangzhi stayed up all night, sitting on the edge of the bed and fanning his son to drive away mosquitoes so that his son could sleep peacefully.

In 1988, Kong Linghui was selected into the National Table Tennis Youth Team. The following year, he won the men's singles championship in the National Youth Table Tennis Championships and emerged in the domestic table tennis world.

In 1990, Kong Xiangzhi accompanied his son to Jinzhou to participate in the National Table Tennis Association Cup. The 15-year-old Kong Linghui defeated the world champion Chen Longcan and became famous in one fell swoop.

After the game, many media gathered around Kong Xiangzhi and his son for interviews. They learned about the ups and downs of table tennis that Kong Xiangzhi and his son had gone through, and called them the "number one father and son soldiers in the table tennis world."

In 1991, Kong Linghui entered the national team and gave everything to table tennis.

Kong Linghui does not go home during the Spring Festival every year and stays with the team for training. On New Year's Eve, Kong Xiangzhi and Gu Shuxia rushed to Beijing to spend the New Year with their son. Kong Linghui lives in the athletes' dormitory building, while Kong Xiangzhi and his wife live in a hotel outside, and the family celebrates the New Year in the hotel.

On the first day of the Lunar New Year, Kong Linghui got up early and went to the playground to run 10,000 meters. In the cold wind, Kong Xiangzhi and his wife went to accompany their son. It was not until his son finished running 10,000 meters that the family returned to the hotel for breakfast.

Kong Xiangzhi and his wife only stayed with their son until the third day of the first lunar month, then returned to Harbin. Throughout the 14th Spring Festival, they accompanied their son to Beijing to celebrate the New Year.

In the 2000 Sydney Olympics, Kong Linghui participated in the men's singles and men's doubles competitions. More than 20 local media wanted to accompany Kong Xiangzhi and his wife to watch the games. Many friends and relatives also wanted to come to the house, but Kong Xiangzhi and his wife declined them one by one.

Because Kong Linghui failed in the men's singles competition at the Atlanta Olympics in 1996, he vowed to make a comeback at the Sydney Olympics. However, Swedish veteran Waldner is determined to win the men's singles gold medal, and Kong Linghui is under tremendous pressure.

During his stay in Sydney, Kong Linghui shaved his hair three times in a row, and finally cut it into a square length. Kong Xiangzhi knew that this was a sign of his son's psychological stress, so he called him every day to relieve his stress.

In the men's doubles competition that ended first, Kong Linghui and Liu Guoliang won the silver medal, losing to their teammates Yan Sen and Wang Liqin.

In the next singles final, Kong Linghui played against Waldner. He led by a big score of 2-0, and then Waldner recovered two games.

Since then, Kong Linghui has become the third Grand Slam winner in the world of men's table tennis.

The second is to select 5 poor primary school students from Nangang District and support them until they graduate from middle school.

The third is that he gave the championship reward given to him by the Harbin Children's Palace to the coach who taught him how to play.

Fourth, he gave two famous watches he brought back from Sydney to his former sparring partners of the provincial team.

A month later, Kong Linghui went to Europe to compete and asked his father to help him collect the shoe sizes and clothing sizes of the 10 poor college students from Harbin Institute of Technology. Because a sportswear company wanted to sponsor him, Kong Linghui asked the company to sponsor these 10 poor college students.

Gu Shuxia said to her son on the phone: "Then get one for your cousin.

Kong Linghui declined: "Mom, I help poor college students." "

In 2000, Kong Linghui bought a three-bedroom apartment in Beijing. After that, when his parents came to Beijing to celebrate the New Year, the family no longer had to go out to stay in a hotel.

Since Kong Linghui entered During the national team, his father has always maintained close contact with his head coach. Kong Xiangzhi often talks to him on the phone to understand his son's physical, training and living conditions, and to help him design techniques and tactics. It can be said that Kong Xiangzhi is his son's extra staff. Coach.

In 2002, Kong Linghui and Ma Su established a relationship, and Kong Xiangzhi and his wife were very happy.

Ma Su was born in Harbin in 1981 and was 6 years younger than Kong Linghui. He graduated from the Dance Department of the People's Liberation Army Art Institute and was admitted to the higher vocational class in acting at the Beijing Film Academy.

Since his debut, Ma Su has starred in "The North Wind Blows", "Iron Man", "Cheongsam" and "Women Are Like Flowers". "Beijing Youth" and many other film and television dramas have won the China TV "Golden Eagle Award" for the audience's favorite actress, and the Chinese TV series "Feitian Award" for the outstanding actress. She is a popular actress deeply loved by the audience.

Kong Xiangzhi and his wife met Ma Su and felt that the girl was not only beautiful but also well-educated, and they hoped that she could become their daughter-in-law.

In 2006, Kong Linghui retired from the national table tennis team. , served as coach of the national table tennis women's team. Kong Linghui was 31 years old at this time, and Kong Xiangzhi hoped that his son would consider marriage.

Kong Linghui felt that it would take a long time for him to successfully transition as a coach, and he had no energy to play. They wanted to take care of their family and wanted to wait a few years before getting married. Besides, Ma Su was only 25 years old and his career was on the rise.

Kong Xiangzhi and Gu Shuxia understood their son and stopped forcing him to get married.

Soon it was time. In 2010, when Kong Linghui was 35 years old, marriage was imminent, and Kong Xiangzhi and his wife began to force marriage.

At this time, Kong Linghui and Ma Su had been in love for 8 years, and they no longer had the urge to get married. I think it's good to be in love.

Kong Linghui knew that his parents would be sad if he told his true thoughts, so he said perfunctorily: "I am still an ordinary coach. I will get married after my work improves." . ”

Kong Xiangzhi and Gu Shuxia have entered their old age and regard their son’s marriage as the biggest priority in the family. They have no other goals and pursuits, and they only have this matter in mind. For them at this time , getting his son married and having a baby is more important than anything else.

After that, Kong Xiangzhi and his wife took the opportunity to rush and force the marriage, which put great pressure on Kong Linghui. My father said, “Dad, if you and mom continue to force you to get married like this, I won’t be able to work anymore. "After that, Kong Xiangzhi and his wife were no longer forced to get married, but the anxiety and entanglement in their hearts increased day by day.

In 2013, Kong Linghui officially served as the head coach of the Chinese Table Tennis Women's Team due to his outstanding work. That is, In this year, Kong Linghui and Ma Su broke up, ending their 11-year relationship. Kong Xiangzhi and his wife were very sad when they found out.

From then on, Kong Linghui's personal problems became Kong Xiangzhi and his wife's. Heart knot. Every Spring Festival, when Kong Xiangzhi sees his son, he always asks him when he will get married.

Kong Linghui said: "I have just become the head coach and I am under so much pressure. How can I be in the mood to think about personal issues? "

Kong Xiangzhi answered his son sadly: "When the work is never finished and the pressure is always there, can't you allocate some of your energy to consider your own affairs? You debuted with Liu Guoliang. He is a few months younger than you. He already has two daughters, but you don’t even have a girlfriend. Can your mother and I not be anxious? "

Kong Linghui didn't want to get entangled with his parents on this issue, so he quickly changed the subject.

In the 2016 Rio Olympics, Kong Linghui led the national table tennis women's team to win two gold medals in women's doubles and women's singles. Kong Xiangzhi was happy for his son's achievements, but he felt a little sad when he thought about his son's health.

In May 2017, Kong Linghui had no choice but to leave the national table tennis women's team because he was implicated in a relative's gambling. This was a huge blow to Kong Linghui. His career and life suffered heavy losses, and his life fell into a trough.

When he was most helpless and vulnerable, Kong Linghui returned to Harbin. Although he appeared calm on the surface, Kong Xiangzhi could see the pain in his son's heart. He and his wife were more heartbroken, entangled, and guilty than their son.

In the next two years, Kong Linghui has been unemployed. Due to his bad mood, he gained more than 10 pounds and became a middle-aged uncle. He has gray hair on his temples and bags under his eyes. He is completely different from the handsome boy back then.

The current situation of their son makes Kong Xiangzhi and his wife heartbroken. His son now has no job, no family, and no stable source of income. Thinking of his son's past glory and looking at his current situation, Kong Xiangzhi suddenly felt like he was dreaming.

In 2019, Kong Linghui went to Chongqing to be the coach of the Chongqing Youth Table Tennis Team. Due to the long journey, it was difficult for Kong Xiangzhi to see his son again. During the two consecutive Spring Festivals in 2020 and 2021, Kong Linghui did not return to Harbin to spend the New Year with his parents due to the impact of the epidemic.

Seeing that the Spring Festival of 2022 is coming again, Kong Linghui cannot go home to celebrate the New Year due to the impact of the epidemic.

Kong Xiangzhi and his wife miss their son very much. Kong Xiangzhi sheds tears when he thinks of his 47-year-old son working alone outside without a family, no one to take care of him and love him.

His biggest wish now is that his son can find a lover of the opposite sex, get married and have children as soon as possible. As long as his son's marriage is not resolved, he and his wife will not have peace of mind!

Comments on "A Closer Look at Celebrities": Kong Linghui was handsome, superb in golf, and a Grand Slam winner. He created the "Kong Linghui Era" and was once a smash hit.

Outsiders thought he had a smooth journey, but in fact there were a lot of hardships and tears behind him. As a witness to his son's growth, his father Kong Xiangzhi is the most heartbroken.

Kong Linghui and Ma Su are a perfect match. If they can get married early, maybe their children will go to middle school. Due to various reasons, the two failed to get married, which brought regrets to themselves and their parents.

After experiencing the trough of life, Kong Linghui finally stood up again, which is gratifying.

What he should do most now is fall in love, get married and have a baby. Parents are getting older day by day, and there are more and more gray hairs on their heads. The most important thing a man should do is to make his life complete and make his parents comfortable in their old age!

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