Slogan of raising children and preventing old age

The pressure of social life is increasing. Many times, people can't even make ends meet and support themselves, so there is no need to raise another child. Besides, raising a child is not a one-off event. For some people with ideals and ambitions, having a child is likely to completely disrupt their life rhythm and life planning, which is the most unacceptable thing for them, so a word called "double income no kids" has appeared accordingly.

The Dink family, roughly explained, is that married couples have no children, they have been living alone, and even put forward the slogan "Dink is cool for a while, Dink has always been cool".

However, the Dinks are also called irresponsible by many people. After all, having children and prolonging life is the most important mission entrusted to mankind by nature. If you only think for yourself, it's selfish, so taking the initiative to choose Mr. and Mrs. double income no kids will often be criticized by others.

Famous Dink families, such as Tony Leung Chiu Wai Carina Lau and Chow Yun Fat Chen Huilian, have achieved great success, but they have no children and have been criticized by the outside world.

However, are the Dinks free or irresponsible?

A while ago, my cousin and my cousin suddenly divorced, which surprised me. After all, their relationship has always been very good. I didn't know until I asked the reason. Before they got married, my cousin even verbally promised my cousin not to have children and lived alone all the time.

Cousin doesn't want to have children, which is related to her family factors. Cousin's mother died in dystocia, and cousin's own sister died in dystocia. This has a lot to do with my cousin's poor medical conditions in the countryside, but it has left a great psychological shadow on her, thinking that her woman is not suitable for having children, so one of the conditions for getting married is not having children. At that time, my cousin agreed as soon as her brain was hot, and she didn't tell her parents.

Up to now, after five years of marriage, my cousin is still unwilling to change. My cousin is in a hurry in his thirties, and so are my cousin's parents. If they can't stand it, they will force my cousin to divorce.

I never thought there would be Mr. and Mrs. Dinks around me before, so I was still very emotional after knowing it.

To tell the truth, I understand my cousin, but I also understand my cousin. The incident itself cannot account for anyone's fault. I can only say that this is a scam, which led to the divorce, which also made me pay more attention to the Dinks.

Through the private letters of netizens, I also met some Dinks and suddenly found different people. Dink's results are really great.

First, CoCo Lee and his wife: and her husband, Dink.

CoCo Lee is an architectural designer with her own design team. She has a high sense of pride in her work, which she will never give up.

My husband used to be the editor-in-chief of a newspaper. After marriage, he left his job voluntarily and chose to take care of his family. He has many hobbies, such as collecting, painting, reading, cooking, pottery, music and so on. These are not familiar to CoCo Lee, but he can find that her husband enjoys them.

In the first few years, I didn't have children because I was busy with work, but when I got used to this life, I didn't want to have children because there were many women around CoCo Lee. After giving birth to the child, she had to leave her job or give up her current job to concentrate on taking care of the child. For CoCo Lee, she cares more about her career.

Her husband also respects her idea. After 30 years, the relationship between husband and wife has not been unfamiliar because they have no children. On the contrary, it has become profound in simplicity, mutual understanding and support, frequent travel and eating, and its quality of life is getting higher and higher.

Second, the peach couple: I can't give birth.

Peaches can't have children. If you want to have children, you must do test tubes, but the family economy does not allow it.

The husband has a mother with mental illness. Before marriage, the husband had taken care of his mother for more than ten years. After marriage, Tao Zi and she have taken care of her husband and mother for seven years.

It's really tiring to take care of others. Sometimes I want to adopt one, but I feel tired if I think too much. Taking care of my husband and mother has exhausted all the energy of the Taozi couple, so I don't want it.

Third, for example, my cousin Xiao Na and his wife, Dink, regretted it halfway for seven years.

Lao Li and his wife Xiao Na agreed not to have children before they got married, but Lao Li, who was in middle age, regretted it more and more, but Xiao Na still didn't want children and finally divorced.

At the time of divorce, Lao Li was 4 1 year old. Now he has remarried and has children of his own. He works hard for the children every day. Xiao Na still chooses Dink, who lives alone in a house of nearly 200 square meters, cooks for himself when he has time, and goes to Xiaozi when he has no time. He has a boyfriend, but the condition of communication is still not to have children.

There are also many girlfriends around, but they are basically mothers who are busy with their children all day. They all say they envy Xiao Na. Although they don't know whether it is true or not, Xiao Na doesn't care. She only knows that life is her own. She has a strong heart and can live better without children.

Old people always say, "It's too early to have a baby, and it's too late to regret it."

In fact, for double income no kids's criticism, double income no kids has to bear the following pressure:

First, parents and traditional pressure.

Whether or not to have children seems to be personal freedom, but in fact, individuals also live in a big circle, in which there are parents, relatives and friends.

Especially for parents, the old saying goes well: there are three kinds of unfilial, and none is the greatest. In the eyes of traditional parents, the Dinks are the biggest unfilial. For example, my cousin's parents forced her cousin to divorce, and many old parents threatened their children with death.

Second, social pressure.

A doctor friend told me that most dinks are infertile, which is also the consensus of society.

Regardless of whether the husband and wife are fertile or not, once Dink is chosen, it will be considered that both husband and wife are infertile. This kind of whispering behind your back can sometimes kill people like a sharp knife, causing great pressure on both husband and wife.

Third, the pain of old age.

Most people still think that they will suffer in their later years without children. After all, the old saying goes well: "Raising children to prevent old age" and "Daughters are parents' intimate little cotton-padded jackets".

However, countless facts have proved that a person's later life has little to do with his children. Children should also have children's lives, and basically will not live with their parents. On the contrary, parents will continue to work hard and continue to pay for their children and grandchildren. To tell the truth, this tiring heart is really suffering.

Having said that, I don't think it's that important to ask Dink whether he is free or irresponsible.

Xi Murong, a writer, once said in Monologue: "It takes half a life for people to suddenly realize that I have been trying to win the praise and smile of others, and I have long been vague and unable to find myself."

People live a lifetime, but only a hundred years. Living your own life is the most important thing. Couples who are fertile and choose Dink have enough courage and psychological endurance. Secondly, they really understand that life is for themselves, not for others.

In fact, if you don't want children, you should have more children. After all, most people want to have children. Nature and society will not change at all because of a small number of Dink families.

Life, how to be happy, everyone has the right to choose, there is no need to control his mouth and criticize Dink.

Dink is just one of many ways in the world. He was born a man, so don't be sorry. Please be kind. In the final analysis, there are many children and grandchildren, and there are many helpless people in their later years. It's not surprising that people watch too much.