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Enthusiasm, openness and boldness are the characteristics of young people. It would be sad if they lost their nature. However, in reality, some people do wear a pair of adult masks all day to pursue the effect of juvenile maturity, and pretend to be sophisticated and insensitive to life. They show a distorted personality. In fact, they seem to turn a blind eye to the people and things that really touch their hearts in life, but their hearts are full of contradictions and pains. The psychological pain caused by this self-enclosed psychology is far more uncomfortable than other pains, and even leads to unintentional upward and willingness to fall. Because the inner world of human beings is condensed by feelings, how can you live easily if you have to artificially suppress your feelings and deliberately seal them up? I remember reading a book called me and the urchin. Teacher Ding Youkuan said that a student named Xiaogang is a third-class student in the class. He stuttered a little because he couldn't answer the teacher's questions smoothly in an open Chinese class, which made the students burst into laughter. This class was not successful because of his poor speech, so the teacher asked him not to speak in class. After that, Xiaogang was not interested in anything, worried alone, never talked to others, closed himself up, and sometimes vented his resentment on acts such as smashing public property and writing slogans to attack teachers. A year later, he changed from a good student in his class to a poor student. His transformation shows that self-isolation is not conducive to the physical and mental development of our young people. So, how to overcome self-isolation psychology?

First, respect and trust others. Living in human society, you must communicate with others. If you are indifferent to interpersonal communication, it means that your trust in people and childlike intuition have been destroyed by self-enclosure, so you will not get the happiness you deserve. Therefore, you should learn to relax the tense pace of life and try to find fun in life, such as greeting new acquaintances and entertaining friends, so that you will not walk into the closed abyss.

Second, learn to say "that's interesting". In life, you often find that things that are not worth laughing at all in the eyes of adults are so ridiculous in our eyes. Because of this, children's troubles are always over. If we think everything is "really interesting" like children, then life is often full of laughter and infinite joy.

Third, let nature take its course. We are all used to doing things with a plan and purpose in advance, so that we can do things well. However, in real life, we are not completely rigid. We can't worry about one thing without planning and achieving our goals. If you plan everything carefully to be sure, you will unconsciously close your relationship tightly. We should recall our childhood, pay attention to the occasional inspiration and fun in life, and sometimes just relax ourselves. Don't be busy with a clear purpose or a difficult problem all day, it will be very tiring, and understand that happiness is an important value standard in life.

Don't suppress your true feelings. There will be many intoxicating things in life that deserve our attention. We should truly express our feelings. If you are going to be separated from your best friend soon, you should let the tears that are about to gush out smoothly, instead of choking your eyes or hiding in the bathroom to wash them. It is self-destructive and meaningless to hide your most valuable part for fear of others gossiping. It is better to be kind to your emotions, obey your heart and listen to your heart, so that even if you do something wrong, you will not be too sad.

So I think when you feel depressed and uneasy, you might as well tell your relatives and friends about your depression. You can tell your closest friends something you can't tell your family. There is a song that goes like this: "My friend is very sad and I cried, but my friend is very happy and I am also very happy." If you can have such a friend, then you are a very happy person.

In psychology, there is also a rule that telling others about troubles can reduce half the pain, and telling others about happiness can double the happiness. In Christianity, people repent to the priest for forgiveness to alleviate their guilt.

French playwright Gruna Yi once said something similar: "People can alleviate their misfortunes by telling stories."

To overcome fear and inferiority, you can't just talk, but you must put it into practice and see it in action. The quickest and most effective way to build self-confidence is to do what you are afraid of until you succeed. The specific method is as follows:

1. Stand out and sit in the front row.

In various parties and classes, the back seats are always filled first, and most people who occupy the back seats hope that they will not be "too conspicuous". The reason why they are afraid of being noticed is their lack of self-confidence.

Sitting in the front can build confidence. Because you must have enough courage and courage to be the first person, to be the first person, and to put yourself in the public eye. Over time, this behavior has become a habit, and inferiority has become self-confidence in a subtle way. In addition, sitting in a conspicuous position will enlarge your proportion in the vision of leaders and teachers, increase the frequency of repetition and strengthen yourself. Try to take this as a rule and try to sit forward from now on. Although sitting in the front will be more conspicuous, please remember that everything about success is conspicuous.

2. Open your eyes and face others squarely.

The eyes are the windows to the soul. A person's eyes can reflect personality, reveal emotions and convey subtle information. Afraid to face others means inferiority, timidity and fear; Avoiding others' eyes reflects a dark and open mind. Facing others directly means telling them: "I am honest and aboveboard;" I respect you very much and like you. "Therefore, facing others squarely is the embodiment of positive attitude, the symbol of self-confidence and the display of personal charm.

3. Hold your head high and walk briskly

Many psychologists believe that people's walking posture and pace have a certain relationship with their psychological state. Lazy posture and slow pace are manifestations of depression, which reflect their unhappy feelings towards themselves, their work and others. If you observe carefully, you will find that the movement of the body is the result of mental activity. Those who have been hit and rejected are dragging their feet and lack confidence. On the contrary, by changing the posture and speed of walking, it helps to adjust the mood. In order to show extraordinary confidence, you should walk faster than the average person. Accelerating walking is like telling the world: "I want to go to an important place and do something very important." A brisk and agile pace and high posture will bring people a clear mentality, make people feel inferior and escape, and breed self-confidence.

4. Practice speaking in public

Speaking in public requires great courage, which is an important way to cultivate and exercise self-confidence. There are many people with sharp thinking and high talent around us, but they can't give full play to their strengths to participate in the discussion. It is not that they don't want to participate, but that they lack confidence.

In public, taciturn people think, "My opinion may be worthless. If I say it, others may feel silly. I'd better say nothing. In addition, others may know more than me, and I don't want them to know that I am so ignorant. " These people often make a vague promise to themselves: "wait for another time." But they know very well that they can't keep this promise. Whenever he is silent, he will be poisoned by lack of confidence, and he will lose confidence more and more.

On the positive side, if you talk as much as possible, you will increase your confidence. No matter what kind of meeting you attend, take the initiative to speak every time. Many people who were originally slow or stuttered became confident by practicing speaking in public, such as Bernard Shaw, tanaka kakuei and Demosthenes. Therefore, public speaking is a "vitamin" of self-confidence.

5. Learn to smile

Most people know that laughter can give people confidence, and it is a good medicine to cure the lack of confidence. But there are still many people who don't believe this because they never try to smile when they are afraid.

Real laughter can not only cure one's own bad mood, but also immediately dissolve the hostility of others. If you smile at a Zhan Yan person sincerely, he will have a good impression on you, which is enough to make you confident. As a poem says: "Smile is the rest of the tired, the day of the depressed, the sunshine of the sad, and the best nutrition of nature."

Therefore, I think every young person should fully display your youthful charm and innocent breath, face life with a warm and cheerful attitude, and let a happy life embrace us.