Do you regret having only one child?

I only have one child, who is currently in the second grade of junior high school. I have never regretted having only her.

I gave birth to a child when I was 30 years old. Before that, I didn’t really want to have a child, but I didn’t want to be a DINK. I just wanted to escape for a few years, because the birth of a child means endless things. After giving birth to her, you will be responsible for her, so you need to be fully mentally prepared.

I have a child whose parents are from the same work unit and live in the same community. Her sister did not go to college. She entered a public institution in our hometown through her parents’ relationship. She got married very early and gave birth to a child. When she gave birth to a child, it was as if the child was born to her parents. She was always taken care of by her parents, and she didn't have to worry about eating, drinking or urinating. There are many people like her in our hometown. In the community where my parents live, there were two little girls who played very well with my children when they were young. They were both raised by their grandparents. One of the little girls did not drink milk powder since she was a child. Her mother did not breastfeed in order to maintain her figure. Her grandparents worked hard to raise her well. Her parents, on the other hand, live their own lives, each has a car, the boy is handsome and the girl is beautiful. The clothes the child wears are bought by her grandma, and she looks like a village girl. But luckily, her father is an only child, and her grandfather Grandma has a retirement salary, so she is still doing well.

Another little girl's parents also work, but they eat and drink at their grandparents' house. They eat and drink for free, not to mention giving money to the old couple, and they don't even buy a vegetable. . The girl's mother once met my mother and said that her mother-in-law was stingy and the milk powder she prepared for her daughter was very watery. My mother said, if you buy the milk powder, her grandma will definitely not make it so dilute. The old couple's retirement salary is just that much, and they still have to support their younger son's education, while the older son and his wife live on nothing. The money for the child's milk powder is a big expense every month, so the grandma can only use it sparingly [covering her face].

Although I am not an all-round nanny like the ones mentioned above, my parents also helped me raise my child until he was three years old, and because my parents insisted on raising the child in my hometown, my child still I have been a left-behind child for more than two years. I go back to see her every weekend, but this cannot make up for the lack of companionship during her early childhood. Before the two-child policy was fully liberalized, my teammates tricked me into having a second child, saying that one child would be too lonely and the other child would be a companion. I would just give birth and he would take care of me after birth. I believe him! I told him that I absolutely didn't want it, and that if he wanted it, he would find a way. Tell me, how many fathers have you seen asking for leave when their children are sick? In the middle of a meeting, because it was time to pick up the children, you had to ask for leave and leave first, and your boss looked down upon you? You haven’t been on a business trip since you had your children? Only a mother will put her children first in everything. To be honest, my unit is not bad. If I change my unit, people like me won't be able to stay there.

Children are veritable gold-eating beasts and money-shredders. Without a certain financial foundation, I will not have children. At present, the income of the two of us is more than enough to raise one child, but it will be difficult to raise two. The public elementary school my child attended was coordinated by his employer at the time, and he paid several thousand yuan in sponsorship fees to attend one of the top three elementary schools here. There are no tuition fees in public elementary schools. The main expenses during elementary school are various interest classes and tutoring classes, which cost tens of thousands of yuan a year. Since the year before last year, due to the need to eliminate large class quotas, enrollment quotas have been very tight, and the employer no longer cares about children's enrollment. In recent years, my colleagues' children have basically gone to private schools, with tuition fees of tens of thousands a year. If you add interest classes and the like, raising a child now costs almost 100,000 a year. If you have two children, you can do the math yourself. Last year, the company was also in a recession. Two-thirds of the year-end awards were cancelled, and all personal performance awards were cancelled. Yesterday I met a colleague who sighed deeply when he saw me. He used to get tens of thousands in performance awards every year and suffered heavy losses. He has two sons [face covering].

In the current education environment, the most troublesome thing for parents is to help their children with their homework, right? I'm lucky enough that I don't have to worry about my children's studies. I'm mainly responsible for the logistics. My colleagues always say that our children are here to repay a favor and it is too easy to worry about. How to say something? You have to work your ass off to look effortless. To outsiders, my children seem to be quite worry-free, but I know how much effort I have put in. If nothing else, let me give you an example. I have insisted on reading to my child every day since she was very young, and I basically did not finish reading to her until she was in the second grade of elementary school.

Sometimes I’m very tired from work during the day and really sleepy at night, so I can’t even ask for leave for my child, because she’s used to hearing me read at that time every day, and I often fall asleep while I’m reading. I don’t know what I’m reading. My child will wake me up. Mom, you read it wrong! I don’t know how many times I have read some books, and even my children can memorize them. If I cut corners, she will find out [face covering].

The main thing I want to say is that with my ability, I can take care of one child, which is good. If there is another one, I really can’t handle it, so I don’t regret having only one child at all.

Of course I regret it, very much! The policy does not allow for more children, but now I can't have any more children. I feel so lonely with one child, and the child also wants to have a companion. Nowadays, with so many policies, it would be great to have more children. Don't compare, don't compare. Children will be capable when they grow up. Give birth early and be effective early, so as not to regret it when you are old! This one is unfilial and the other one is filial until old age. How lively are you! [laughing] [laughing] [laughing] [laughing] [laughing] [laughing] [laughing] [cover face] [cover face] [cover face] [cover face] [cover face] [cover face Face][Prayer][Prayer][Prayer][Rose][Rose][Rose][Rose][Prayer]

I was born in the 1980s and regretted that I only had a baby daughter in the first ten years. I always wanted to I want another child, but now I am lucky to have only one. I listened to my husband and did not have another child. I am an ordinary person with no great skills. I live hand to mouth and use the efforts of the whole family to raise a child. If I give birth to a second child, two treasures will be born. The quality of life and education level will definitely be affected to some extent, and the energy will not be able to keep up. Especially now, children are under a lot of pressure to go to school. It’s really overwhelming when you think about it, and adults have to worry about it every day. Now that I see a few videos of children posting to their WeChat Moments every day to check in and learn content, I feel inexplicably anxious for them. Fortunately, my girl is relatively good and doesn’t have to worry about her studies and life. She will take the college entrance examination in a year and a half. I hope she can realize her dream of taking the college entrance examination!

I definitely regret it! I asked my peers around me, and nine out of ten of them regretted not having one more child! According to the national policy at that time, a couple could only have one child. As citizens, we must abide by it!

The two children are so perfect. They can help each other with anything and take care of each other. Even if their parents are gone in the future, they still have brothers and sisters, so they will not be lonely.

At that time, we caught up with the family planning policy, and a couple could only have one child. From the family planning slogans all over the streets at that time, we can see the seriousness of the family planning policy at that time, and also saw that many people , in order to escape family planning and go to a foreign country, the sketch "Superborn Guerrilla" is a true representation of the illegal birth at that time. The policy at that time was that if you gave birth to a second child, you would definitely be fired from the public office.

In 2000, I got pregnant unexpectedly. I really wanted to give birth secretly, but my husband and I were both working. If I gave birth, I would definitely be fired from our jobs. My husband did some ideological work for me. If I were fired from our jobs, we would not Specialties, let alone business, and no land in the countryside, so what are you going to do? How do you feed your two kids? Moreover, in my family’s situation, there was really no one to take care of the birth, and my mother-in-law would not help. Although my mother-in-law was supportive, it was inconvenient to live far away, so in the end the fetus had to endure the pain and be induced!

The two-child policy is now being liberalized, which is really satisfying. It’s a pity that I am past childbearing age. If it had been relaxed five years earlier, I would have definitely given birth to a second child, but I couldn’t have one. I often encourage those around me who are still hesitating. Friends of Yu, you have caught up with the good policies and have as many children as you can. Don’t get to my age. If you can’t have children, it will be too late to regret! In recent years, the women of childbearing age around me have all given birth to their second child. Looking at their happy faces, I have also been infected! My cousin also gave birth to her second child last year, which is a good word! The family of four was having a great time, and the elderly on both sides were beaming with joy!

I can’t help but regret it. I look forward to having more sons in the future to make up for my regret! @ future daughter-in-law!

Why do developed countries look down on the issue of having children? Many people torture their souls and think as follows:

1. We are all descendants of Emperor Yan and Emperor Huang. What are we doing now? Aren't they ostracizing and fighting each other for profit?

2. So what if you have a hundred children? Hundreds of years later, don’t descendants still not know each other? Even marry each other and have children?

3. In real life, it is common for brothers to fight for real estate, land, and inheritance. The three generations do not know each other, and they live their own lives. Many of them do not provide for themselves in old age.

4. After decades of life and decades of raising children, at the last wink, is the child yours?

5. It takes millions to raise a child.

Wouldn't it be great to use this million for retirement when you get old?

Therefore, many people do not regret having children.

I regret it, I regret it so much [covers face]. I think back then, ethnic minorities didn’t enjoy the benefits of having two children!

It would be great for the two children to have a companion, discuss things together and take care of each other. It is strongly recommended that young mothers hurry up and have more babies while they are still young.

At the end of February 2019, my mother was diagnosed with terminal ovarian cancer. I am an only child. My father is extremely selfish and does not care. My husband did not dare to make any decisions. The whole family came to comfort me and brought some money. , I was the only one who had the courage to talk to the doctor, even though I was scared to death and didn’t dare to retreat. My first reaction at that time was, it's over. When I get old and sick, my daughter will also go through what I went through. I feel sorry for my daughter. But my mother was suffering from cancer, and my child was in the first grade at the time. I still had to go to work, and my mother-in-law had a back injury, so she was completely unqualified to have a second child. Now I am almost forty, and the child is nine years old. If I have another child, it will take at least two years. At that time, The two children are ten years apart. To put it bluntly, they are born to the eldest child. What’s the point? It's too late to regret,

It's not that I regret it, I really wanted to live at that time.

My mother gave birth to four. Not all talents are cultivated.

But I am a human physiology teacher, and I am confident that I can cultivate talents. Moreover, giving birth to my first child was basically effortless and went smoothly. Regeneration feels even more effortless. It's a pity that we caught up with the 1980s and were not allowed to live. I don’t dare to have more babies!

I really don’t regret it! I don’t have much ability, so I managed to buy a fully paid three-bedroom apartment for my son. If I give birth to a second child and a son, I still have to pay for it. Thanks to Planned Parenthood.

Do you ever regret having only one child? Oh my God! If you don’t have enough fun every day, how can you regret it?

Let me talk about my own family situation. I am born in the 1970s and have four siblings. I am the third oldest, with two older sisters and one younger brother. Since childhood, I have experienced the pain of the village custom of favoring sons over daughters. The delicious and fun things belong to my younger brother, and the clothes I wear are picked up by my sister’s leftovers. Sometimes my neighbors tease me and say that my home is not my home, but my brother’s home. When I was a child, I was very envious of girls whose parents could smile and talk to them. I thought that if I have a daughter in the future, I must make her the happiest little princess in the world.

After getting married, I got pregnant before I was ready. I found out I was pregnant for more than three months, and the test said it was a boy, very healthy. However, my husband and I were in a naked marriage, renting a house, and our parents were not around, so we decided to induce labor. After we have worked hard for a few years, got our own house, and saved some savings, we are already over 30, and we can't wait any longer. I plan to have a child.

I gave birth to a daughter as I wished. Then my career as a stay-at-home mom began. The confinement sister-in-law took care of my daughter for twenty-six days, and I took care of my daughter alone. Not to mention the hard work, because you can gain as much as you put in. My child has been excellent since he was a child, has first-class expressive skills, and has excellent physical fitness. The teacher said that the children raised by his mother are of high quality. Because I only have one child, my companionship is efficient, patient, and considerate of all aspects.

My daughter’s friends are all very envious of her. Her mother plays games with her, braiding her hair in fancy ways every day, wearing the most fashionable and fitting clothes, chatting about cartoons together, singing children’s songs, and treating every child who comes home Being amiable and approachable means that my daughter and I have grown up together again. My daughter has been respected, valued, and cherished since she was a child. She has plenty of sunshine and rain, and she grows up with red flowers and green leaves.

The child’s sunny mentality is always discovered and appreciated by the teacher. He has always served as a class cadre and is very active in school. While other parents are troubled by the inability to communicate because their children are rebellious, disobedient to discipline, my daughter and I have become best friends, chatting about life, the future, love, and society.

Any relationship requires giving everything, but the strongest feeling is that each other is the only one for each other. Love leaves no spare tire. Don’t have a second child, either. If I have another child, I will definitely not be able to put as much effort into it as I did with my first child. If I care about this, I will not care about that. The strongest one is the triangle, and the happiest one is the family of three. I insist that having only one child is the beginning of happiness and the source of happiness.