How did the relationship between Shen Yingming's family in Liu Jiahe break down step by step in Forever?

Strictly speaking, it is not the breakdown of the relationship between the two families. The rupture could not be repaired, but in the end, the two families made up their differences and left again. So I think their relationship is more like a tacit alienation between adults. For these two families, there is only one reason: children.

Liu and Shen Yingming were educated youths who went to the countryside together. Later, they returned to the city together and almost got married and had children. They are not brothers, but brothers. Their children are about the same age. One is Xing Xing, and the other is Haohao. They call each other's parents godmothers and have regarded each other's home as their own since childhood, so the two children are like brothers. Originally, the two families went hand in hand in the wave of reform and opening up, making life better and better. Until:

First, Xingma's second child became the initial bad blood between the two families.

The saddest scene for me in the whole movie is the scene where the home star is forcibly dragged into the car to have an abortion in the hospital. Liu subconsciously resisted, tried to stop it after being subdued, and sat on the ground crying helplessly. That scene really moved me.

When Xing Xing was less than one year old, Xing Xing's mother was pregnant again. At that time, the family planning policy was very strict and it was forbidden to have a second child. Even if she sneaks out, she will be arrested and aborted, and her job will be lost. But the couple still managed to hide, and they were lucky, in case, in case this little life could stay.

Hao is the production director of this factory. One of her tasks is to supervise whether the female workers in the factory violate the national family planning policy, and report it to the organization for disposal as soon as it is found. So as soon as she found out that Xingma was pregnant, she immediately contacted the hospital and began to do her ideological work. So there was a sad scene.

In fact, it's okay that Liu and his wife are here, and there is no resentment. After all, in those days, Xingma was not the only one who suffered such cruel treatment. But what is even sadder is that mother Xing suffered from massive bleeding in this abortion operation, which seriously damaged the uterus and prevented her from giving birth again. At this time, ill feelings began to arise. It's bad news for a woman with the traditional concept of a star mother that she can't have another child. Although she can understand Li Haiyan's responsibility and be angry at the harsh policy, when she knows that she can't have another child, she will also complain a little from the bottom of her heart, why Li Haiyan can't be lenient for the sake of the two families. And Li Haiyan, although she also felt sorry for Star Mom's surgical accident, she didn't feel wrong at this time. She was doing her own job, but she blamed Star Mom for not keeping it from her for so long. If she had left earlier, it might not have been an accident. So the lost child began to become the fuse of losing the mutual affection between the two families.

This incident is not enough to make the friendship between the two families become strangers for many years. Because this couple has at least child stars. It's sad to be infertile, but I'm not afraid of this hope.

Second, the truth of the drowning of the stars has separated the two families for twenty years.

The story began in this year. Two children watched a group of classmates playing by the water in the distance. One is envy, and the other is indifference. So the jealous one continued to encourage the other, first into the water, and then a child drowned. Later we learned that the child was a star.

The departure of the stars is like a sharp axe. With a loud noise, two originally friendly families cut out a huge ravine.

Mr. and Mrs. Liu once again lost their beloved son and their only son, and the grief of losing their son in middle age can be imagined. Finally, from Hao Hao's self-report, we know that the star's drowning accident really has something to do with him. One is his own son and the other is an adopted son who watched him grow up. Although the couple are extremely sad, they never have the heart to hurt another child. But just because they don't pursue it doesn't mean they don't care. It turned out that two lively children suddenly lost their own, and even after that, they would think of the stars when they saw the vastness! Therefore, they chose to leave, and they have never had contact with Hao Hao's family for 20 years. They are afraid to see a happy and touching scene of a family of three, and they are also afraid that Hao Hao's parents have a psychological burden.

As for Shen Yingming's family, although they have lived an increasingly affluent life in the past 20 years, they are actually bitter in their hearts. Although Hao Hao was a child when the accident happened, he can already remember it. He knew that his willfulness led to the death of his good brother, but his parents and godparents tried their best to protect him, but he pretended not to know, so he hid his great guilt for twenty years. In fact, this kind of emotion is really tormenting.

Hao Hao's mother, Li Haiyan, felt guilty not only because she learned the truth from Hao Hao when she had a high fever, but also because she forced her mother to have an abortion and could not have another child. Although she is needed in her work, it is also harmful to others. Li Haiyan, who was so strong, became crazy, delirious and full of guilt for Yao Jun and his wife. In order to protect their children, they have no face to face Yao anymore, and they have never contacted him actively for 20 years.

Two children, an accident, and two families who used to be very close have become strangers in these 20 years. Fortunately, however, the film finally gave Yao Jun and his wife a son, and Li Haiyan's death also gave the two families a chance to get back together.