How to reject people with high emotional intelligence

How to refuse with high emotional intelligence? What kind of person won't refuse?

1. An overly kind person. Put other people's needs before your own.

2. Please enter your personality. I'm afraid that after refusing, the other party will hate themselves.

3. People who lack courage. Timid, afraid of offending people.

4. People with low self-worth. Only through sacrifice and dedication can we prove our worth.

5. Soft people. Fear of conflict.

6. People with insufficient strength. I'm afraid I'll lose others' help if I refuse.

7 good old man. No sense of boundaries, being bullied.

1. Sandwich formula: refusal reason+euphemistic refusal+understanding.

Example 1:: Bags are in short supply recently. Can you lend me some extra money? Xiao B: I spent all my money on financial management (the reason for refusing), but I can't spare it at the moment (politely refusing). It's almost the end of the month, and everyone's life is really hard.

Example 2: Small: Please help me sort out the information of the last meeting. Xiao B: I'm still writing the materials to be published later (reasons for refusal). I really don't have time to sort out the materials. It's really not easy for you to organize the materials this time.

2. Alternative method: Formula: directly refuse+offer other solutions.

Example 1:: Bags are in short supply recently. Can you lend me some extra money? Xiao B: I don't have spare money (direct refusal), but I know a bank account manager, and it is more reliable to apply for a loan. Do I need to recommend it to you? (Provide other solutions).

Example 2: Small: Please help me sort out the information of the last meeting. Xiao B: I'm really too busy now. The information is all on disk. (Provide other solutions).

3. Borrow other people's words: use things beyond the control of the other party or people who have no right to interfere as reasons for refusal.

Example 1:: Bags are in short supply recently. Can you lend me some extra money? Xiao B: It's not that you don't know that all our money is managed by my wife. Can I borrow it if I can? The other person can't control your partner's thoughts.

Example 2: Small: Please help me sort out the information of the last meeting. Xiao B: Sorry, our leader told us yesterday that we can't borrow materials at will. The other party has no right to direct the leaders involved in your insurance.

4. The formula of hard words and soft words: add some modal particles (oh yeah) or polite words, politely refuse, be soft, and make the other person feel unreasonable even if he wants to be angry and complain, and feel like a punch on cotton.

Example 1:: Bags are in short supply recently. Can you lend me some extra money? Xiao B: Sorry, I really don't have time!

Example 2: Small: Please help me sort out the information of the last meeting. Little B: No way. Oh, I'm really at a loss.

5. procrastination formula: OK (promise)+but. (Procrastination) Description: Suitable for people who habitually please but can't really say "no".

Example 1:: Bags are in short supply recently. Can you lend me some extra money? Xiao b: ok (promise), but I have to discuss it with my wife first (delay time)

Example 2: Small: Please help me sort out the information of the last meeting. Xiao B: OK (promise), but I have to sort out the materials for the afternoon report first (delay time).

"You have the upbringing of not hurting others, but you lack the aura of not being hurt by others. If there is no one to protect you, please bring some edge to your kindness in the future and escort yourself. You know, if you are good in this world without reservation, the other party will be unscrupulous. "