What should a married woman pay attention to when she goes back to her mother's house to attend her funeral?

There are four points to pay attention to: dressing elements, preparing wax paper money and firecrackers according to local customs before going back to your mother's house, wearing filial piety cloth before entering the door, crying and burning incense and worshipping after entering the door, and then obeying family arrangements. In fact, the customs of each place are different, so the places to pay attention to are different, but in China, red and white affairs are paid more attention to no matter where, so there are many places to pay attention to, and for married women, there are even more places to pay attention to. Let me give an example according to the customs of our hometown. The most noteworthy thing is that there are certain elements in going to one's parents' home to attend the funeral. Before going to one's parents' home to attend the funeral, we should be vegetarian, and the clothes should be black, white and gray, which means that we should be cool. Remember not to wear warm clothes, especially red clothes, and never wear them. What's more, we should dress solemnly, and we should not wear low-cut, backless and short pants. In addition to dressing up, dressing up is also essential, that is to say, you can't wear heavy makeup, you can't exaggerate wearing gold and silver, and try to be as plain as possible. You can't go to the mourning hall when you have a period

The most taboo is red, especially when you have a period, which is not only red, but also filthy according to superstition. Therefore, when you have a period, you'd better not go back to your mother's house to mourn. If you have to go back, you can't go to the mourning hall. Prepare sacrificial offerings according to local customs

The so-called sacrificial offerings refer to firecrackers, red wax, incense and paper money. These things are not prepared casually, but according to local customs. Take our hometown as an example, married women should prepare according to local rules before going home to attend the funeral, such as several rows of firecrackers, several pairs of wax, several sticks of incense and several kilograms of paper money, which are all in a fixed quantity, so we should not buy more. So before going back to the door, be sure to ask the elders at home how much these things should be prepared. Ask your family for mourning cloth before getting started

Maybe in some places, you go back to your mother's house, put down your things, and go directly to the mourning hall to visit the dead, but the rule in our hometown is that married women can't go directly to the mourning hall to mourn when they go home, and they can only go to the mourning hall after wearing mourning cloth. If you don't wear it, it is disrespectful to the dead, and at the same time it is suspected of hypocrisy, so we also have to ask this before going back to your mother's house. When you first enter the mourning hall, you should cry and burn incense

Actually, this is not a special point to pay attention to, because it goes without saying that when you go to the mourning hall, you will cry and burn incense, but when you go to the mourning hall, you must cry from your heart, and you must cry aloud, and you can't perfunctory. Then, when you burn incense, you can borrow paper money to light incense wax, or you can light incense wax with the help of red wax. Of course, you can also light it yourself, but you can't blow out the open flame with your mouth, you can only extinguish it by shaking.

In fact, every place has its own funeral customs, so it is more accurate to ask the local elders what to pay attention to. Moreover, there are many places to pay attention to when married women go home to attend the funeral, and some details can't be remembered at all for a while, so when going back to their parents' home to attend the funeral, it is best to ask their families in one link, so as to ensure no mistakes.