Why did the groom hammer the bride on their wedding night?

(Original title: bloody wedding night case: unbearable pain of exorbitant bride price)

List of wedding parts recorded by Chen Bingtao's (pseudonym) family

Record of 1, yuan bride price paid by Chen Bingtao (pseudonym) to the woman

Posters of new publicity regulations posted in some villages in tangyin county

"The whole family is finished, completely finished." The 67-year-old Chen Laohan has a sad face and can't stop chanting. No one will understand the pain in his heart and that of his wife. The only son got married, and the stone that had been on his mind for a long time fell to the ground. The Spring Festival in the Year of the Rooster was supposed to be the happiest gathering moment for the whole family, but it turned out to be deserted.

All this made Chen Laohan and everyone unexpected. Chen Laohan is a simple and honest plowman. His village is located in the northern plain of Henan Province, about 15 kilometers away from tangyin county City and 6 kilometers away from Fudao Town. Relying on a few acres of thin land and spare time to do odd jobs, he sent three daughters to get married, but the 27-year-old son became a "big problem". Fortunately, the marriage was completed before the Spring Festival.

The county town bought a wedding room with a bride price of 11, yuan. In order to marry his son, Chen Laohan not only exhausted his family wealth, but also took on debts of more than 2, yuan. But who would have thought that, on the night of a couple's wedding, after a fierce quarrel, the groom actually hit the bride's head with a hammer, causing her death, leaving an incurable pain to the family and society.

afterwards, it was learned that the dispute between the two sides was actually the paid bride price of 11, yuan, which made people sigh. In fact, for rural school-age youth in many places, the increasing bride price is becoming their heaviest burden. "When a son marries a daughter-in-law, his parents peel off their skin", and the bride price of hundreds of thousands at every turn casts a heavy shadow over the marriage that should be festive.

Then, why do sky-high bride price appear frequently in many places? What impact does it have on the families of school-age young people? How to break the dilemma of sky-high bride price? These questions deserve everyone's deep thought. What is commendable is that many places such as Puyang Taiqian, Luoyang Luanchuan and Anyang Tangyin have successively issued documents to change customs and promote new styles, giving "guiding prices" for bride price, which is gratifying.

From the tragic bloody case of the wedding night in Anyang, Henan

After beginning of spring, when you look around, the green wheat seedlings are covered with fields, and there is a vibrant scene. At the head of a village in Fudao Town, tangyin county, men, women and children get together, or chat, play chess or cards, and enjoy the wonderful Spring Festival in the Year of the Rooster.

67-year-old Chen Laohan walked past the villagers with his head down and sighed. Some villagers greeted him, and he responded politely and hurried over. "He is a simple and honest man. It is a happy event for his son to get married. We also had a wedding banquet. Who would have thought that such a big thing happened at home?" A villager said.

Chen Laohan and his wife have four children under their knees, and all three daughters are married, leaving the youngest "baby pimple" Chen Bingtao (a pseudonym). A villager said that after graduating from junior high school, Chen Bingtao went out to work. Because of his introverted personality, honesty and inexpressibility, and some difficulties at home, marrying a daughter-in-law became a "long-standing problem".

Seeing that people of the same age are getting older and older, Chen Bingtao's parents are worried. "Bing Tao works in Zhengzhou, engaged in electric welding, and his income is not high. He is rare in recent years. Every time he comes back from work, he often stays behind closed doors and may have a burden in his heart. " The villagers said that there are more older young people in the village, and "there are not three bachelors who can't marry their wives."

A month ago, Chen Bingtao held a wedding with great excitement under the arrangement of relatives and friends, and took his daughter-in-law home. "We are all happy for him. It's almost the Spring Festival, but it's finally a big event." The villagers happily ate the wedding banquet and went back. Who would have thought that an explosive news came out that morning, shocking the neighbors, "The groom killed the bride with a hammer."

what happened that night? The time of the incident was around 1: 3 am on January 11th. "At 9 o'clock in the evening on the wedding day, Bing Tao also had a drink with several friends. After people left, he rested and we went to sleep." Chen Bingtao's relatives said that who would have thought that a tragedy happened in the new house at 1 am, which made everyone unexpected.

"Bing Tao's wedding room has two rooms inside and outside, and the outside room is the living room. Although it was the wedding night, the woman didn't let him into the bedroom, but stayed on the sofa for more than three hours. They had a quarrel and involved the bride price." The relative said that there happened to be a hammer on the ground to hang the picture frame. "Afterwards, he dialed 11 and 12. This happened on the big day, and everyone was very sad. Bing Tao's mother collapsed on the spot. After being taken away, Bing Tao also asked about the woman's injury. "

After the incident, tangyin county police quickly dispatched police to control the groom Chen Bingtao, who confessed that there was a dispute with the bride Li Xiaoxiao (a pseudonym) because of the 11, yuan bride price paid before the incident. As for how the dispute turned into a bloody case, only he knows best.

After spending 18, yuan in just two or three months

, the groom's family learned that Li Xiaoxiao, the bride one year older than the groom, had been married many times. "To tell the truth, we didn't know about her, but we were eager to get married after listening to the introduction of the matchmaker."

This relative said that Chen Bingtao was of medium height and handsome appearance, but due to the difficult conditions at home, "there was no room, no car and no car, and the conditions were not hard", so many times of kissing ended in nothing. "Two years ago, on a blind date, a girl proposed to have a car at home. As soon as we thought it was for our own use, we gritted our teeth and bought a car for Bing Tao. Unfortunately, this marriage still failed."

"After all, the income from farming is limited, so I can only go out to work." Relatives said that when she was older, Chen Bingtao also accumulated some money. With the help of her parents, three sisters and other relatives and friends, she bought a second-hand house in tangyin county last summer, with a down payment of 16, yuan and a loan of nearly 2, yuan. "The money was raised by relatives and friends, and she had to pay back the mortgage every month. Now there are holes everywhere."

With a car and a house, Chen Bingtao has the confidence to find someone, and the matchmaker has come to the door. Last October, after giving a village matchmaker a phone bill, cigarettes and dinner, the matchmaker introduced Chen Bingtao to Li Xiaoxiao, who lives in a village in Tunzi Town, Jun County, Hebi. "Although it is two counties, the distance between the two villages is not too far." So I said it was together.

"At that time, the bride price offered by the woman's family was 11,, which was really too high, but considering that the child is really not young, what should I do if I can't get married all the time? We have to admit it. " Chen Bingtao's relatives said that in the week after their first meeting, they raised 11, yuan everywhere. "When relatives and neighbors heard that their children were married, they didn't say anything, and they were very helpful."

In late October, in front of the matchmaker, Chen Bingtao's family gave the woman Li Xiaoxiao 1, yuan in cash, and the remaining 1, yuan was credited to the woman's card by bank transfer. So the marriage is settled. After that, the two families walked around, distributed red envelopes, bought gifts, clothes, cosmetics, etc., together with weddings, wedding banquets, etc. In just two or three months, a * * * spent 18, yuan.

"Look at this list. Every item is clear. Marrying a daughter-in-law is like peeling off her skin. She is also in debt of 2, to 3, yuan, which is a great burden." Chen Bingtao's relatives said that there was nothing they could do at this point, and it was worthwhile for the couple to live a good life. Unexpectedly, it is empty joy. After Chen Bingtao was controlled, because he failed to repay the mortgage on time, the bank staff rushed to the village to collect money. In desperation, his sister took some money to return it. His car has also been driven away by creditors. "My wife and I are sixty or seventy years old. We are sick and can't do any more. We are counting on our son. As soon as he entered, the whole family was completely finished, and there was nothing to look forward to. " Chen Laohan said tearfully.

"If you don't earn enough bride price, you can only marry a bachelor."

"Some girls' families are very realistic. The man doesn't have a house or a car. He can't earn enough bride price money and can't borrow it, so he can only marry a bachelor." A villager in Fudao Town, tangyin county said that the poorer the rural areas, the more expensive the bride price is. "Many boys' parents feel very headache when they mention it, and they really can't afford to marry. Many families are already poor, and the bride price is even more unbearable for the whole family."

When visiting Linzhou, Neihuang and Anyang counties in the north of Henan Province, Zheng Bao, a media reporter, learned that around the Spring Festival, boys and girls who went out to work all returned home, which became a good time for blind date. Many parents are busy getting engaged and doing things for school-age children. However, it was originally a happy event, but the bride price has become a "roadblock" and an unbearable and unspeakable pain.

Fan Dongqiang (pseudonym), a villager who lives in Longfeng Village, Beiguo Township, Anyang County, said that in nearby villages, the general bride price is about 8, yuan. "Boys in farm families who don't go to school are generally engaged at the age of 16 and married at the age of 18. If you are 2 years old, you will be older. If you don't get married, it will not be easy to find. " He said that the matchmaker is very realistic and will ask if there is a house or a car. "If you are close to the county, you have to buy a house in the county. If you are far away, you must have a house of your own."

He said that not long ago, in Nanlv Village, Lucun Town, Anyang County, a family got married, and the betrothal gift money was given to the woman's family of 6, yuan. More than 3 tables were set for the engagement banquet, which cost 1, yuan. Before getting married, I paid more than 1, yuan to buy a car, and the bride price gave the woman another 1, yuan. "They spent 3, to 4, yuan before and after getting married to their children."

According to Fan Dongqiang, in many villages in the east of Anyang County, there are various items to spend on marriage. "When the woman meets the man's parents, she must have a gift. It used to be very cheap, one in a hundred, one in a thousand at most. I can't do it now. How many times has the gift been turned over? It's one in a million. If you give less, the woman's family won't. " He said that boys are also particular about going to the woman's house, and the gifts must bring "8", "8 pieces of white wine, 8 cartons of cigarettes, 8 boxes of walnut dew, 8 boxes of fruit, etc., and the van will be full".

"In our area, engagement is generally 3, yuan, which can't be counted in the bride price. In addition. " Fan Dongqiang said that it is not a small expense to walk back and forth on holidays after the engagement and before marriage. Before marriage, "three golds" must be available, that is, gold earrings, gold rings, gold necklaces, plus wedding photos, etc., without 2, to 3,.

A villager nearby said that there was a girl under the age of 15 in their village, but the wedding had been held and she was married. "At the time of engagement, the man's family gave the woman's family 3,, and the wedding bride price gave another 16,, and then the young couple did things." They said that if you can't pay the bride price, and you don't have a house or a car, it's hard to find someone. "There are more bachelors in the village in their thirties and forties."

driving without a license went on a blind date to ask for a top package

"Now, in villages and towns such as Lvcun, Wadian, Yonghe and Cuijiaqiao in Anyang County, women will ask for a car before they get married. Parents will also accommodate their children. Before and after their engagement, many young people will choose to drive the new car they bought for their marriage at home. However, because I am under 18 years old, I can't apply for a driver's license, so I have had many problems. " Cheng Tao, squadron leader of No.1 Squadron of Traffic Police Brigade of Anyang County Public Security Bureau, said that once a boy has a traffic accident, it is easy to have an accident because of driving without a license or drinking.

On January 16th, in a village in Beiguo Township, Anyang County, the boy Wang Dongdong (a pseudonym) borrowed a car to go on a blind date. On his way back in the evening, he accidentally collided violently with another car, resulting in the death of an old lady in the other car. Originally, the other party's car was mainly responsible, but because of his driving without a license, he sought his father's support after the accident and was caught by the police. Thus, Wang Dongdong became the main responsibility. "After consultation between the two sides, Wang Dongdong's father gave nearly 2, to the family of the deceased."

Cheng Tao said that the money was originally saved by Wang Dongdong's parents for his son's wedding. "Now all the accidents have been compensated to others, and Wang Dongdong has to be investigated for criminal responsibility. His parents are very depressed and have repeatedly burst into tears in his face."

and another case is similar. Cheng Tao introduced that at 1 o'clock in the morning of January 9 last year, Cai, a 4-year-old male villager, claimed that he was dazzled by the headlights of oncoming vehicles, and accidentally crashed his car into a roadside telephone pole in Jinantou, Xincun. After careful investigation, the car body was seriously damaged and the driver was not injured. After discovering the clues, under the repeated questioning of the police, Cai began to look flustered, but always insisted that he drove into a telephone pole.

In the early morning of that day, Cai's son, Cai Moumou, rushed to admit the fact that he had hit and run without a license and found his father. Cai confessed that he didn't have a driver's license. Because of the engagement the next day, on the evening of January 8, he invited his girlfriend and friends to celebrate at KTV. At about 23 o'clock, Cai Moumou drove his girlfriend and friends home after drinking, and didn't turn well at the south end of Xincun, hitting the roadside pole. Cai Moumou was given administrative punishment by the police for driving without a license.

"In order to marry a daughter-in-law, it is not necessarily a good thing for young people to buy a car at home. Driving without a license, drunk driving, ignored traffic laws and regulations, seriously threatened the safety of life and property. What's more, after the accident, I was lucky enough to let my family and friends come to the top. " Cheng Tao said that they receive more than ten similar accidents every year, which is distressing.

Cheng Tao said that in many rural areas, the "bride price" and vehicles have become a very serious social problem, and many farmers have returned to poverty because of the bride price. "It is not uncommon for some families to buy a car with a loan before marriage, and then sell it because of the heavy burden after marriage. When buying a car, you must do what you can and not become a burden on your family. " He said.

"The wind of comparison has aggravated the crazy rise of bride price"

Last year, the phenomenon of "colorful and green", "motionless" and "three catties and three liang" was circulating in the circle of friends on WeChat, which was jaw-dropping. In many areas, it has become common for families to get married by borrowing money. "Now the bride price of marriage is going up, and there are more than one family, which makes us really want to cry." A villager said.

So, what is the reason behind the sky-high bride price? What should we think about the bride price? On February 12th, Zheng Bao, a media reporter, interviewed Yang Shaowei, a professor at Henan University of Finance and Economics. He said that the increasingly high bride price has hollowed out the savings of many poor families for many years, and there is a doggerel that expresses the dissatisfaction of many families: "It's hard to save some money and marry a daughter-in-law. I spent hundreds of thousands at a time, and it' s hard to say the ups and downs. I don' t know when the foreign debt will be repaid. "

He said that the sky-high bride price is frequent in many places, and one of the major reasons is the imbalance of gender in rural areas. There has been a long-standing preference for boys over girls in rural areas, resulting in more boys than girls. Under the competition, the price of bride price keeps rising. The prevalence of comparison has also aggravated the skyrocketing bride price. The bride price was originally a marriage custom, but now it has changed. The level of bride price has become the standard for comparing girls' Excellence, and even some parents regard it as a tool to collect money. At the same time, the relatively high divorce rate makes many people feel insecure about marriage, and also urges them to ask for a higher bride price. "Even if the marriage breaks down one day and can't go on, it is at least a kind of material compensation."

Yang Shaowei said: "The current sky-high bride price has fallen into a strange circle, alienating rural folk customs and eroding the original simple folk customs. It can be seen that many people are being pushed away by bad habits and customs. They are both victims and perpetrators, and they are trapped in a vicious circle. If you go to rural areas, especially poor rural areas, you will hear many voices, and many farmers want to change this bad custom. "

introduction of "guidance price"