What happened after 90?

Why do they get involved in violence and sex prematurely?

Tu, vice president of Guangzhou Youth League School and an expert from Guangzhou, Hong Kong and Macao Youth Research Institute, believes that various health risk behaviors of post-90s teenagers, such as school violence, sex, addiction and unhealthy diet, can all be regarded as negative ways for them to release psychological pressure. This is often related to factors such as family education and family environment.

Reason 1: The post-90s pressure is unprecedented.

The Guangzhou-Hong Kong-Macao Youth Research Institute has done a special study on the ways of psychological stress release of teenagers. The survey results show that most people will choose active ways such as exercise and talking, but many negative ways and deviant behaviors such as overeating, alcohol and tobacco addiction, internet addiction and even violent self-harm are also chosen by many respondents.

Tu Xiamin believes that with the increasingly fierce social competition, the pressure faced by this generation of teenagers is unprecedented. Indulging in alcohol, tobacco and the internet is often an escape from reality, and so is overeating. Puppy love, premature sex, violence, etc. It is often more common in children from families with abnormal structures or families with deviated educational methods.

Reason 2: Parents' expectations are too high.

Sun Yunxiao, deputy director and researcher of China Youth Research Center, also told reporters that the social competition is becoming increasingly fierce, and the parents living in it have also passed on the pressure of survival to their children prematurely. Compared with the families in the 1980s, today's families put great pressure on their children, and many parents' demands are beyond their power.

A survey conducted in Sun Yunxiao found that 83.6% parents of middle school students require their children to reach the top 65,438+05 in the exam. High expectations bring despair to children that can never be realized. Sun Yunxiao believes that the family was originally a warm and harmonious place for emotional communication, but it has become a classroom in children's hearts, which is putting the cart before the horse and a phenomenon of alienation in modern families.

I'm in senior three. Most children in Grade Three were born in 1989 and 1990, while most students in Grade Three were born in 1990 and19/year, and so on. My school is a comprehensive school of primary school, junior high school and senior high school. My daughter was born in 1998, in the fourth grade of primary school. Neighbor has a daughter, born in 1999, in the third grade of primary school. It stands to reason that I am in contact with the post-90s every day, and my understanding of the post-90s generation should be the most profound. Moreover, I am in the middle and late 1960s, and I am not confused, so I can see clearly and think deeply, which means that the "darkness before dawn" after 1970s and the "who do I love after 1980s" are less confused. However, it's really hard for me to say that the post-90s generation is just a superficial impression, just like a blind man touching an elephant. Don't take it seriously.

Most fathers born after 90 are born after 60. According to China's custom, quite a few of their mothers are born after 70, or their uncles and aunts are born after 70. Therefore, children born after 90 inevitably bear the shadow of the generation after 60 and 70. However, since the post-80s generation are their brothers and sisters, and these brothers and sisters are now "red and purple" on the land of China, it is natural to learn "rich nutrition" from the post-80s generation. Because the post-60s have a strong sense of responsibility but boring life, the post-70s have a firm belief in pursuing wealth but are too materialistic, and the post-80s have a realistic outlook on life but no ambition. These three generations all have obvious characteristics of the times. There is no doubt that the post-90 s have been integrated into it, and now they are showing their personality more and more.

After 90, they have a clear pursuit of life and attach importance to reality, but they are too selfish and lack the ideal of serving the public. They know what they live for-of course, for a wonderful life, such as getting ahead and having a good job in the future, such as marrying a beautiful wife or a rich husband in the future. The purpose of their study is practical. For example, a senior two student wrote a note to the class teacher: "We are studying now to go to college, going to college to have a good job in the future, and having a good job is to marry a good wife. It's better to talk now and fall in love later. " This embarrassed both teachers and parents. The reality is true, but the belief in life can't be so simple. Under the guidance of this idea, the post-90s generation will inevitably face more life troubles prematurely. Their competitive environment is extremely fierce, mainly reflected in school scores, so they are much more wary of their peers and much less helpful to their peers. The post-90s generation's trust in people is very low, mainly because they are basically only children and the pearl in the hands of their parents. Parents have taught them since childhood that there are many bad people in life, and they should hang high when things happen, so they are indifferent to the suffering around them. Because the post-90s students were immersed in the score competition as soon as they entered the school, the ideal education in the school collapsed, and they rarely heard the truth that "every man is responsible for the rise and fall of the world", and even didn't see the propaganda slogan of "Learn from Lei Feng". So they mistakenly believe that people should be self-interested when they are alive. As for social countries, they are far away from themselves.

After 90, I like to make public my personality and deliberately be unconventional, but I am often too conceited and even blindly optimistic. The post-80s think they can become "stars" as long as they dare to be "new", so they are not as stupid as some post-80s, and are willing to be groupies. They are more keen to dress themselves up as "stars", such as patchwork clothes and fancy hairstyles forever. They don't wear famous brands as enthusiastically as the post-80s generation, but they must pay attention to being different. In life, they haven't suffered much, and they have been taken care of by their elders since childhood. They belong to a family that grew up in a greenhouse, so they always think that they are "the best in the world" or that they will be the best in the world in the future, so they always accept the teachings of their elders at a discount-what you said may not be all right. They often can't guarantee the quality and quantity of learning. Steal jobs if you can, and reduce materials if you can. They are very dissatisfied with the teacher's procrastination and think that it is crowding out their precious play time. Sometimes no one can believe their conceit: a girl in senior one never practiced her voice, watched several super girl competitions, and even said that she had to sign up for the competition, but she didn't even pass the first interview.

After 90, they are fresh and curious, quick-thinking and more creative, but they lack perseverance and are easy to change their ways. The post-90 s vision is broad. They live in the most advanced era of science and technology. At the age of 60 s and 70 s, they didn't know that trains could turn, but they knew the information superhighway and that they could see the situation on the earth tens of thousands of light-years ago in space. Their creativity is unprecedented, which benefits from the country's popularization and attention to science and technology. In various competitions related to science and technology, their imagination has touched all the horizons of the adult world, although it can't be called wonderful. However, they all have the same shortcomings, that is, they lack perseverance and are easily discouraged. Not the kind of tolerance that wins without arrogance and loses with grace. This is because they are utilitarian, eager for success, and easy to fail with an attitude of doing everything. They often don't get up from where they fell, but change their minds and continue to play in another way.

After 90, the consciousness of public morality gradually developed, attaching importance to personal image, but it was too open and the traditional cultural background was insufficient. Born in the era of rapid economic development in China, the post-90s generation grew up in a transition period from simply pursuing economic growth to the synchronization of economic growth and social harmony. They have received relatively more scientific education about human survival and development, they know the importance of environmental protection, and they also know that they should pay attention to their personal image in society, not littering, not destroying public property, not swearing, and rarely swearing. However, they don't have any traditional culture. They hardly read extracurricular books since childhood. They will be regarded as idle by their parents and teachers, and even dare not read classic works in class. Therefore, many of them don't know what is Park Sumei, what is self-cultivation and what is an honest and clean life. Of course, this situation may be much better in the late 1990s, because our education has now begun to notice this defect. After 90, I like to follow my temperament. Although they don't know much about adolescent desires, they don't have much fear and deal with them casually. This can be proved by the data of teenage abortion obtained by doctors. This situation is caused by the influx of western mixed culture into China after the opening up, and China people themselves have enlarged it. For example, many movie stars dare to "take off more openly than westerners" and even become famous by "taking off" completely. This has created a very bad impression on the post-90s generation, making them think that as long as they dare to expose and challenge the tradition, they can become famous overnight. The children in the late 1990s, although they have not yet reached puberty, when boys and girls play a joke together and the girls are unhappy, they deliberately scream-rape, help! This kind of joke gives the teacher a headache and he doesn't know how to preach.

In addition, the post-90s generation may get more affection and bear more. However, the parents of post-90s children are currently in the seven-year itch period. The divorced families of the post-90 s generation are quite large and have special personalities, and the society has not yet developed to give more care to these children. This is unfair to them in the adult world. After 90 may be tall, nutrition is not a problem. However, they are confined in classrooms and study rooms all day, with too much study burden and little outdoor exercise, and their physical fitness may actually be very poor, which should be worrying.

There are so few impressions after 90. At present, they are in the early stage of youth and below, their temperament has not been fully manifested, and their thoughts are being formed and shaped. We just speculate from the perspective of another generation, like watching a fire from a distance or scratching their boots. Whether they are right or not, everyone will discuss it.