Slogan of the poor

No matter how poor you are, you can't be poor in academic qualifications.

This slogan printed on the walls of suburban counties and rural areas 20 years ago, plus "no matter how hard you suffer, you can't suffer the children", has now become the golden rule in the hearts of parents. "Education is an investment", which has been recognized by parents.

Since it is an investment, you have to spend a lot of money in the early stage without seeing the actual effect. Specifically, before the age of three, I will enroll my children in early education classes, choose kindergartens at high prices, and then send my baby to various interest classes. In the eyes of parents, if they attach importance to education, they will be willing to pay for it themselves.

However, many parents may not know that even if you spend a lot of money on education, once you regard education as a "poor person", the money you spend may not be effective, and in many cases it is actually a blow to Shui Piao. However, many parents mistakenly equate "willing to spend money to train children" with "children will succeed with a high probability"

An unacceptable fact is that if you are "poor in thinking" in education, no matter whether you are really rich or ordinary people, the money you spend can only be thrown into the water to listen.

"Poor thinking" is essentially the difference between cognitive thinking mode and "rich thinking". People with "rich thinking", even if they are poor boys at first, will always have a bright future as long as they seize the opportunity. And if a person is "poor thinking", even if he wins tens of millions of lottery tickets one day, these wealth will eventually be squandered.

You will never make more money than you know. "Rich thinking" can create and keep wealth, while "poor thinking" will eventually lose even if it gains unexpected wealth.

The same is true of education. If parents are "thoughtful", they can get big benefits at a small cost. If it is "poor thinking", children who spend more money may not really benefit. Especially for ordinary families, in the case of limited education funds, how to make education investment spend on the cutting edge, even if it is small and wide, requires parents to avoid "poor thinking."

Then, what kind of thinking is the "poor thinking" in education?

I don't believe that the simplest method can be a good medicine.

In Japan, the best-selling parenting book "Children will never be spoiled", the key is to bring it like this! In the book, the author expounds such a core point: if you want a child, you must first reflect on whether you have achieved what the child wants. In other words, loving children means putting your energy and time on them according to their wishes. This view is simple. If parents can understand and implement it attentively, many "problems" in children's eyes, such as biting their nails, crying all the time and sleeping badly, will be solved.

But more often, what are parents doing? If a child is tired of studying and depressed, or can't sit still all the time, remember to see a psychologist, hoping to get a quick solution. When the doctor said that we should pay attention to adjusting the husband-wife model, spend more time with children and love them, most parents didn't believe it. They always have holes to fill, but they don't want to think about what caused them.

Do what others do, for whatever reason.

There are too many parents who follow the trend now. If someone else signs up for an interest class in kindergarten, we have to sign up. Others went to make up lessons in the summer vacation, and we have to make up for it, but we don't want to think about what we want to raise children.

Following the trend is the thinking of the poor. Other people's actions are based on their own actual situation. Everyone's actual situation is different, and the difficulties and requirements they face are different. Naturally, it will not trigger similar actions. But now parents do everything together, and some even bite their teeth and invest money. This is called "education investment". If you blindly follow the trend and invest in education, many will be wasted.

Focus only on the immediate rather than the long term.

"Shortsightedness" is the most typical thinking of the poor.

After investigating the current situation in Africa, the author of The Essence of Poverty wrote that people there work hard every day, but they don't earn much. Originally, they could save money slowly, and over time, they could always do some small business and get rid of the hard work of selling their physical strength. However, after a busy day, workers often spend the money left after removing their daily expenses on buying wine or cigarettes, and there will be no food if they don't continue to work the next day. In this way, day after day, year after year, I always eat today without tomorrow, and I will be hungry if I don't do it for a day.

This is shortsightedness. Because of the shortage of resources or limited vision, the poor only care about the present and don't consider the long term.

On parents, paying too much attention to children's learning words, what pinyin they can learn, and how much addition and subtraction they can learn, while ignoring children's character cultivation, reading habit cultivation and thinking ability guidance, is ignoring the overall situation and the long term.

In order to solve the thinking of educating the poor, parents should take a long-term view and consider what kind of life they want their children to live in this life, instead of just focusing on early childhood, early childhood and even the college entrance examination. After all, after graduating from college, his life has only passed less than a third, and there is still a long way to go.

Topic discussion: What do you expect from your children?