It's not easy to be an only child after 80.

The post-80s generation is the first generation of only children in China. The happy generation that used to be regarded as the apple of their eye is now in their thirties. Most of them are parents and have become the backbone of different positions in society. Their parents are no longer young, they are getting older. As only children, they should also play a leading role in the family. This shows that it is not easy to be an only child after 80.

W is an international sailor. He is a post-80s father with two children. About three seasons in a year are spent at sea.

He came back from the sea six months ago. This is the shortest sailing cycle away from home, only about half a year.

When he came home, he was filled with joy. Because I want to see my wife, children and parents missing day and night, and I will get a raise on the next voyage, how can I not be happy?

Going home early also gave my family a big surprise. Of course, the happiest thing is W.

Last time I left home, my second son couldn't speak, but now he is full of nonsense and jumping up and down. The eldest son is five years old. What an ignorant boy, he knows how to share some housework for his mother and be jealous with his brother.

My parents are only in their fifties, and they still look strong. They still love each other as always and live a colorful life.

How can you be unhappy?

In the days at home, except to see my parents every day, diligent and considerate W almost did all the housework. He cooks and washes for his wife and children every day, and is also responsible for picking up and dropping off the children. He wants to make up for the housework he didn't do in the past six months, double the compensation for his wife who worked hard with her two sons for six months, and make up for the time she didn't spend with her sons for six months.

The time when I come back from kindergarten every day is the time when W takes his sons to play. Father and son play with water, mud, ride bicycles and climb mountains, and often come home late for dinner. After returning home, W will bathe and change clothes for each child. After dinner, he will watch TV with the children for a while. Then, he will take care of the children to do laundry, tell stories and sleep.

When W is not at home, these things must be done by his wife alone. Now, his wife can finally have a rest and enjoy what W has done for her and her children happily. All the previous hard work is not hard. Women are easily satisfied. Yes, I even gave her a pedicure. In my wife's opinion, it is worthwhile to make more efforts.

Life could have been so happy. However, after W's mother was suddenly diagnosed with gastric cancer, the original happy and peaceful life was broken. This is undoubtedly a bolt from the blue. W still thinks her mother is very young. How did this happen suddenly?

W is the only child in the family, so he should take the lead at this time. W stayed with her mother from diagnosis to hospitalization. He choked back the sadness and love in his heart, took care of his mother with a smiling face and comforted her. Behind his back, he cried again and again. He thought that he had not fulfilled his filial piety. After graduating from college, he became a sailor, and his life was less and more. Later, I got married and had children. Every time I came back, I spent more time with my children than with my parents, so I was full of self-blame.

However, the nature of seafarers' work determines that the days are less and more.

I can't help it I must start work immediately after the renewal of the contract expires. W's heart is on tenterhooks and his steps are as heavy as lead. I really want to tear up the contract and be with my parents, wife and children. However, the more realistic problem is that the whole family is counting on his income to make a living. So, we have to go.

Sailors' mood when they set sail is quite different from that when they return home. Especially this time. When she left home, the mother who was doing chemotherapy cried and said, "Let her son rest assured. How can such a farewell leave safely and calmly? " ? When I turned around, I looked at a two-year-old and five-year-old son and a thin wife. It's really hard.

We have to go. For living. The only child born in 1980s.