Daughter-in-law does not have a second child. The old man asked: You don't resign at that salary, and we don't take care of the baby for free. what do you think?

I have seen this sentence before:

"Parents accompany you in the senior high school entrance examination, accompany you in the college entrance examination, and accompany you in the ups and downs of the cram school for twenty years. Their wish is that you can have your own career and ideals and live a dignified life in the future, instead of making you a qualified housewife. "

I remembered a colleague of mine, Miss L, who told me a story about a girl in the village next door to her hometown. This girl has a high degree and a postgraduate diploma. Because she is the only precious daughter in the family, her parents love her very much.

Parents are reluctant to let their daughters marry far away, and it takes a long time to find a satisfactory son-in-law by letting the matchmaker introduce the blind date near their home. But when she got married, her mother-in-law was disgusted with all kinds of things, saying that the girl was not worthy of her son. Less than two years after marriage, the girl took the initiative to divorce because she couldn't stand the "cynicism" of her husband's family.

After the divorce, she did not rush to get married, but chose to start a business with her savings and borrowed money. Now that she has succeeded in starting a business, her parents are very happy with their grandchildren.

I heard someone mention the girl's ex-husband: she still worked all the time, remarried not long after the divorce, and married a powerful daughter-in-law to take charge. The whole family was weak and regretted it.

Many times, parents always think that girls don't need to read too many books. Marrying a good man and finding a good husband's family is their primary task. Actually, it's not. Parents' values are incorrect. They read knowledge, vision and patterns. They know what they need at this stage and what marriage means to them, instead of losing their marriage and their direction in life.

In fact, you can choose to work first to earn money and cultivate your ability, and then decide whether you need to get married and have children after you have a foundation, instead of focusing on marriage from the beginning in an attempt to make marriage a "poverty-alleviation marriage." As everyone knows, the person you can really rely on in this world will always be yourself.

So, what do you think of the role of housewives in your heart? Let's listen to the opinions of these ten married women. Some of them took the initiative to choose this role, and some chose to refuse.

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@ 丫丫丫丫丫丫丫:

"Before giving birth to a child, my husband also said that it was too hard and resigned, and I was shaken. However, after giving birth to my daughter, I have no such idea at all. My father-in-law, who has an outdated patriarchal concept, forced me to give birth to my son, and my husband worked in other places. Although my mother-in-law helps to look after the children, everyone else is me. The most exaggerated thing is that the child doesn't know his father. I disagree.

The reason given by my father-in-law is that his son has made money. How lucky I am to have a job at this time. How can you argue that there is no job at this time? Because I never told the old man my real income, my father-in-law attacked me on the grounds that you don't quit your job on that salary, we don't take care of the baby for free, you just quit your job and have children.

Then I went crazy: we paid off the loan of the small house you bought in three years, paid off the decoration money and bought our own car. Now you live in a big house. Is it because of you? Did you pay? Do you think your son earned it himself? If you don't want to live, you can go.

I wonder if he complained to his son later. Nobody came to get even with me anyway. My mother-in-law is on my side because he is too hard on her. Later, I also thought about working, which really brought too many benefits. I hope you don't give up. "

@ 丫丫丫丫丫:

"Refuse to be a housewife, I just want economic freedom! Except for the two years of pregnancy and breastfeeding, I insisted on not being a full-time housewife. I take care of my children myself, rent a counter for safekeeping, do business when I have business, and play with my children when I have no business. I dress up as Lissoso to take my children to work every day and take them home to buy food after work.

My parents raised me for more than 20 years. Although I don't read much, I was taught from an early age that I should never be palm-top and have no dignity. Although my husband says I don't go to work to take care of my children, I still prefer to earn money by myself. I have confidence! "

@ 丫丫丫丫丫:

"/kloc-When I was a housewife in 0/9 years, I was very grateful to my husband. He made me carefree and happy to be myself and live the life I wanted.

19 housewife's life, only happy, not tired. I can have morning tea, go shopping, exercise, eat, have afternoon tea, watch movies, buy in buy, travel with my classmates, and I can be very free in many things.

My son has been very independent since he was a child, and now even he always dotes on me. As long as I want to eat and drink, he takes the trouble to queue up to buy it for me. Nothing in the world is absolute. No matter what kind of day, follow your heart and don't embarrass yourself. The same is true of housewives. "

@ Xiao Ni:

"Women struggle is useless. After the pain has passed, similar things will not happen. Even if it happens, it is not easy to be sad. On the contrary, those women who say that their families are happy, their husbands are rich, and their in-laws are particularly kind to themselves. The word is that she can't confirm anyone, so most of them have false ingredients.

Even if you are happy before the age of 40, it doesn't mean that you will be happy in the next few decades. Reincarnation is inherently painful. How can a woman have everything? Not the pain of the first 40 years, nor the pain of the last 40 years. This is heaven. Women know heaven, there will be sunshine in front of pain, happiness in front, and pain behind. Personally, I prefer bitter before sweet. "

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@ Dear grapefruit:

"However, the real reality is that women have no choice. On the premise that both parents can't rely on it or can't bear to rely on it, they can only sacrifice the one with a lower income to take care of the family and the one with a higher income to support the family. When the children are older, the reality doesn't care if you can step into this long-lost society.

For women, there is often no choice but to go on step by step. When you meet a good person, everything is worth it. It's even worse when you meet someone who has no humanity!

Women are not studying mainly to get a decent job in society, are they? I think women are sensible in reading and know life, so they won't be confused in this chaotic world and leave a whole body of pain! As for parents, parents don't ask much, but you can be happy!

Therefore, whether it is a housewife or an elite in the workplace, it is no different from comparison, just seeking peace of mind! "

@ Long time:

"I have been working, and I don't feel anything else. Sometimes I envy a stay-at-home wife for enjoying herself at home, but at the age of forty, I suddenly feel glad that I am a professional woman. Whether for men or women, the midlife crisis is really terrible. I'm glad I don't have to worry. "

@ 丫丫丫丫丫丫丫:

"I have been a full-time housewife for five years. Every day, the topic is what I bought today, which supermarket is engaged in activities, what I want to buy, and so on. Fortunately, my family kept up with the rhythm, otherwise there would really be no topic. When I was in kindergarten, I had to go to work. I am really out of touch with society and have no social circle. "

@ Sunshine will come in:

"I am the mother of two children, but I never stop working. I take care of my children during maternity leave. Resignation is impossible. I tried to quit my job and take care of the children at home for two months. It's too painful, too tired and sloppy all day.

I'm in a hurry, because my husband's income is not enough to support us, and he has to scrimp and save. He has no savings at all, so he goes to work quickly, leaves the children with his parents-in-law, and I take them on weekends and give them some living expenses every month. Parents-in-law don't go to work, and they have full salary with their children. Everyone is very happy. "

@ Snow Lemon:

"My classmates and sisters put their time and energy on their work after graduation. After her career was stable, she bought a house and a car herself. She got married and had children at the age of 30. After giving birth to the child, her mother-in-law took care of her. She returned to her post and is now a company executive. But the neighbor's daughter got married after graduation, gave birth to a child after marriage, and then held the child to play. She said that she can't squeeze into society and there is no enterprise. "

@ Cool:

"Look at yourself, some have no money, their husbands are not good, and their in-laws don't like it. Stay at home, you must look at people's faces, be at the mercy of others, reach for money, have no dignity, but have a husband who loves you and will make money. In-laws are kind to you and don't get bored when they are idle. They are inferior, so they are idle and comfortable. "

04

I like what Yang Lan said before. She said:

"Some people may ask, girls read so many books for so long, and eventually they will return to an ordinary city, do an ordinary job, marry a wife, do laundry and cook, and teach children. Why bother?

I think, our persistence is to: even if we end up in triviality, we have the same job, different mood and the same family, but the mood is different, and the same offspring have different qualities. "

In my opinion, we have been studying and reading so many books for so long because of our vision and pattern. No matter whether we are housewives or elites in the workplace in the future, as long as we have a positive attitude towards life, any role can be done well.

I often hear colleagues around me complain that it is really difficult to be a woman. I really hope all men can understand and accept everything about women. Actually, it is not. Since everyone is an independent individual, a woman's life should not revolve around men all day, but should have her own life. You know, always relying on other people's lives is the most insecure.

Therefore, as women, no matter what our attitude towards the role of housewives is, as long as we have a good attitude towards life in our hearts, whatever we do is good.

I hope that every girl can read more books, study more, and get in touch with new things, so that she can have the confidence to choose what kind of life, whether she is a professional woman or a housewife, as long as she likes it.