My best friend advised me to make up. What should I do?

In fact, I personally think this sentence is not correct. It's not that all girlfriends advise against making peace. It all depends on the specific situation. Besides, we often say that it is better to ruin the marriage than to tear down the temple. If two people can really go on, but there are some contradictions and misunderstandings, I think no one will deliberately persuade them to break up!

I don't know where I heard such a saying, that is, after two lovers quarrel, their girlfriends are persuading each other, while their brothers are persuading each other. Seeing this sentence, I feel a little too arbitrary. You know, the reason why girls persuade each other is not that they want their girlfriends to have a bad life, but only because they know that their girlfriends are unhappy with this man, and they really think that separation is a good thing for their girlfriends. On the other hand, boys always try to make peace. It is because they may not know anything, but they think it is a pity that two people are separated, so they will persuade their brothers to save it.

So I think there is some misunderstanding about women. You know, girls are more cautious than boys. Many times, the girl has been disappointed in this boy, but the boy doesn't understand at all, and even thinks that the girl is puzzling. Of course, besides these, there are many details that boys don't know, so many times they may not know why girls break up with them. Therefore, I will be particularly angry when I know that a girl's best friend still advises her to break up with herself. Next, I will talk about my opinion. First, girlfriends don't try to break up for no reason.

You know, true friends want each other to have a good life, so there must be a reason why girlfriends don't persuade them to break up for no reason. So, don't always criticize this girlfriend's behavior. I don't think it's wrong to persuade them to break up like this.

Second, men should find problems from themselves.

I think men should find their own problems, and don't blame the breakup on the other half's best friend. She won't want to break up with you if there is no problem between you or you haven't done anything to upset her. I don't think we should make up or break up, because this is his marriage, his own business, not yours. Maybe you think you two have a good relationship. You are his best friend and you should give her a hand. But have you ever thought that this is between him and her husband, and he may want to communicate with you, see what you think and listen to what you say. To tell the truth, anything you say at this time may be particularly bad, because you can't influence his opinion.

Even if you have a good relationship, if he doesn't listen to your advice too much, then he will eventually blame you. If you persuade them to make up, then he and her husband may blame you for thinking that we had quarreled. Why did you persuade us to break up? Why not persuade us to make up? If the two of them are really reconciled, but they are very unhappy, then they may come to ask you, do you think you asked us to be together, and now we are not doing well? These things are possible, so really don't give any advice.

I think as her best friend, you should help him ease his emotions and don't let him be cornered. Then let him know clearly what he thinks, see what he wants to do and what kind of results he wants to get. Only when he thinks clearly can he make a real decision. To tell the truth, I think divorce, whether you ignore it or not, may regret it, and may feel that you did something wrong at the beginning, so there is no accurate right or wrong. As outsiders, we really can't interfere in other people's marriages casually, which will have a very bad influence.