Is it better to stay at home or in the hospital when the rural elderly are dying?

Whether the elderly die at home or in hospital is very different between urban and rural areas. After all, the living space in the city is small, and the death of the old man is a big event. As a rural person, I'm not sure which is better.

But in our countryside, it is the most taboo for the elderly to die in the hospital. Because once he died in the hospital, his body was blocked in the village and could not enter his yard. In other words, as long as the old man has a breath and enters his home, the villagers will basically come to see him for the last time. Otherwise, you have to set up a funeral tent to stop outside the courtyard, set up a mourning hall to worship and set up a tent to do things. Despite this, the children still have regrets and guilt, and they will also fall into the reputation of unfilial in the village.

Therefore, the condition of the hospitalized elderly has not improved. The family made old clothes at home early, cleaned up the house and yard, and deliberately burned the heatable adobe sleeping platform where the elderly lived. When the doctor is diagnosed as "in one or two days", he will take the old man home; Some old people encounter an emergency, the doctor will give them a "shot in the arm" and the ambulance will send them back. In this way, my father-in-law gave a shot in the arm, was carried into the house, and died the next morning.

Before the old man died, there were old people in the village or people who knew the "rules" in this regard. They shaved their heads, combed their hair and got dressed. After the old man died, they could still complete some "old rules", unlike in the hospital, where a mourning hall was set up immediately. Let the old man "drive the crane west".

It depends. My child's grandfather was ill for more than ten years and stayed in bed for the last three months. He had never been to the hospital when he left. At that time, if he went to the hospital, he was full of tubes and waiting in the hospital. So my mother-in-law finally decided not to send him to the hospital, because he was in the countryside, and his home was spacious, and the funeral was held according to the local rural customs. However, my mother was ill for many years. She didn't stay in bed. She was taken to the hospital on the morning of the first day of this year and died in the hospital. Because the house in the city is small and the floor is high, she finally booked a funeral for 22 thousand at the funeral home, which was handled very well. Even if her old man doesn't go back to his hometown, she can understand. After all, the houses in the city can only be like this now, and they all left peacefully! This is very gratifying!

As an experienced person, I can answer this question.

In rural areas, most elderly people want to die at home, not in hospitals.

Old people in rural areas have an unwritten rule. When they are old, they should pay attention to returning to their roots and seeking death. They don't want to be "ghosts" who can't find a home outside.

My mother died at 79. She has always been in good health. She was strong all her life and loved her work. Because of her good health, she has always been silent and never stopped working. Because she is ill, she is very weak. Later, I saw that something was wrong with her and went to the hospital. Three days later, the doctor said there was no therapeutic value, so I'd better go home and deal with the aftermath. At that time, I was too young to accept going home. My mother died that night after we came home with an oxygen bag.

In the old house, my mother walked peacefully and calmly, with a wrinkled face, an instant stretch and delicate eyes. Although I can't accept my mother's death until now, the moment she drove the crane west will always be fixed in my mind. I heard that the old man who died like this is happy.

My father died at 94. When my father was alive, I was most worried that he could not stay at home when he died. So in the last few years, none of our four sisters went, saying they were afraid of rushing to their house. They only took turns living in two brothers' houses for a month. But my second brother's home is in the county, more than ten miles away from home. It is his last wish to go to his home. I took the opportunity to pick him up and live in my eldest brother's house. My father is getting old. He fell down at night and fell into a coma. When we were in the hospital, the doctor said that he was dying and wanted to stay in the ICU. At that time, considering my father's age and actual situation, we refused to enter the ICU and let the doctor treat him conservatively to minimize my father's pain.

On the second day of hospitalization, my father was critically ill. The doctor gave him a critical notice, canceled the treatment, put on all the dead clothes for his father and went home with pain. On the way, I suddenly wanted to touch my father's hand, but it still felt warm and soft. I clearly remember that my mother was stiff for a while. I quickly told my brothers and sisters that I realized that my father was waiting to go home. In recent years, being outside all the time is his taboo. Although he couldn't feel the pulse, he held on to his last breath. But he still insisted.

Ten miles away, after I got home and settled my father, I deliberately touched his father's hand, and his old man rested.

Lenovo: Our village was demolished this year. My brother and sister-in-law said that many people cried, especially the elderly. They say there is no nest when you are old, and there is no place to put the body. I was very sad, and I was very sad. At the same time, I feel a little gratified for my father. If my father was built, I don't know if he would be worried about losing his lair.

Many old people who worked in the city when they were young will return to their hometown and enjoy their old age when they are old. On their deathbed, they will be seen in waves of hometown yards, which may be the best memory of the dying old man.

There is an old saying in the countryside: "A nest of gold and silver is not as good as one's own.". Perhaps it is the most appropriate answer to this question! I fell to the ground and turned into rain. I hope my answer can arouse everyone's * * *.

At the beginning of 20 13, my mother suddenly felt something stuck in her chest, which was very uncomfortable, so I took her to the hospital for a check-up. After examination, it was diagnosed as "heart failure".

After being hospitalized 10 days, my mother felt that she had recovered, so I let her leave the hospital.

But after less than three months, my mother felt uncomfortable in her chest again, and I took her to the hospital again. The doctor said it was the mother's "heart failure" again.

I suddenly felt a little strange, so I asked the doctor privately, "Didn't you get cured in the last hospitalization?" Why did it happen again in less than three months? "

The doctor patiently explained, "Your mother has heart enlargement, which is medically called' heart failure'. This disease is irreversible and terminal. "

I am unwilling to ask: "Will my heart not swell?"

The doctor further explained, "Your mother's heart is like an inflated ball. If it is swollen, like a deflated ball, the whole heart will lose its function of pumping blood. " If swelling continues, it will cause respiratory failure and be life-threatening. What we can do now is to delay the progress of the disease as much as possible and prolong the survival time. "

As soon as I heard this, I was anxious and asked the doctor, "How long can my mother continue this situation?"

The doctor said, "Maybe a few years, maybe a few months, maybe, in short, it's dangerous."

Although the doctor's words are very positive, because my mother's body is still very strong, and I never thought my mother would leave me so soon. Therefore, I am dubious about what the doctor said.

This time, after more than 10 days of treatment, my mother's condition eased again and my mother asked to leave the hospital. Seeing my mother like this, I had to ask the doctor for advice.

The doctor said, "This is your mother's illness. She thinks it's okay to leave the hospital, so let her leave the hospital. Living in the hospital, we have no other choice. After returning, if she feels uncomfortable, come to the hospital again! "

After hearing what the doctor said, I had to discharge my mother.

After living at home for just over a month, my mother's heart is uncomfortable again, so I quickly sent her to the hospital. After treatment, the mother's condition was controlled again, so she was discharged again.

Before long, my mother felt sick again, so I had to take her to the hospital again.

Since then, after four or five times of discharge and admission, the frequency of mothers entering and leaving the hospital has become faster and faster. Go in and out of the hospital once in the first two or three months, and then go in and out of the hospital once a month later. And the time has reached 20 13 1 1 month unconsciously, and my mother has been ill for almost a year. At this time, my mother was admitted to the hospital again.

Perhaps I felt that my mother's days were numbered, so my eldest brother called our brothers and said, "My mother's illness is getting worse and worse. I think it is better to take some medicine and go back to eat, and don't let her stay in the hospital all the time. " .

What Big Brother means by this is that according to our local custom, it is unlucky to transport an old (dead) person back outside, but a "cold corpse" (please forgive my disrespect for my mother) to enter the house. And if you die at home, it is a "hot burial". My mother is almost 80 years old, and it is a "white marriage", and others will not gossip.

As soon as I heard this, I couldn't help getting angry. Before the other two brothers could say anything, I said loudly, "This is absolutely impossible! I can't watch my mother die at home! Be sure to let your mother die in the hospital! "

When the other two brothers saw that I was angry, they just kept silent.

I saw my brothers were silent, realized that I was too impulsive, and explained to them.

I said that although my mother's illness was incurable, she didn't know (we kept it from her, and she thought it was an ordinary heart disease), and she always thought it could be cured. Therefore, she has been holding the hope of life and actively cooperating with the treatment. Besides, although my mother is seriously ill, her thinking has always been clear. If we put her at home to take medicine now, she will surely fall into fear and despair at once. On the one hand, she thinks that she is terminally ill, and if she can't be cured, she will fall into the fear of "death"; On the other hand, my mother will think that she has raised so many children and is sick now. She won't let me go to the hospital. Isn't this letting me "wait for death" at home? If that's the case, my mother will be desperate for our children before she dies. She has failed her parenting! How can those superstitious things compare with other people's gossip?

After listening to my explanation, my brothers finally seemed to understand and agreed to let their mother be hospitalized until she died in the hospital.

2013165438+At 0: 00 pm on February 7th, my mother died peacefully in the hospital more than 20 days after her last hospitalization.

That day, I cooked dinner and sent it to my mother's ward at 6 pm. My mother was sitting in the hospital bed talking to my father. Although she looks a little weak, her mental state is not bad.

I feed my mother and greet my father for dinner.

My mother only took a few symbolic bites of this meal, and I couldn't eat any more, so I poured my mother some water to drink. After that, my mother asked me to go back early.

I looked at the time, it was only 7 pm. He said to his mother, I'll sit for a while and then go back.

After about 10 minutes, my mother fell asleep with heavy breathing (maybe my mother was already in a coma, because of this sleep, my mother never woke up, I don't know).

I called "Mom" several times, but my mother didn't respond except for her heavy breathing. I saw my mother breathing heavily, but her breathing frequency seemed normal. I thought she was asleep.

I said to my father, mom is asleep, I'll go back, and I'll bring dinner tomorrow. Remember to call me if you have something to do tonight.

Father said, all right.

When I got home, because I was tired, I slept alone after a little washing (my wife went to visit the children who were studying that day).

Just as I was sleeping in a daze, the phone at the bedside rang. When I picked up the phone, I saw that it was my father, and I felt bad at once.

I picked up the phone and listened to the accompanying family members who lived in the same ward as my mother. I only heard him say on the phone that your mother was dying and was being rescued. Come here quickly. As soon as I heard this, I got up quickly, got dressed and quickly looked at the time. It's 1 1: 50 at night.

Then, I rushed to the hospital as quickly as possible (the hospital is close to my home, less than 10 minutes' walk). At this time, the doctor is giving emergency treatment to my mother in the ward.

However, no matter how hard the doctor tried, mother left after all.

Mother's death was sudden, but she walked peacefully!

Neither I nor my father, including my mother, expected that she would leave that night.

Without pain and fear, my mother walked in her sleep.

Although my mother didn't leave anything before her sudden death, I think it's worth it. Because from beginning to end, my mother thought she was still alive, so she didn't tell us about the aftermath. Although there are some regrets, I don't want my mother to leave after confessing in despair.

Mother's peaceful death should be her blessing!

From my experience, if the old man at home is really seriously ill and hopeless, we can choose to put him (her) in the hospital for maintenance treatment and let him (her) die peacefully in the hospital. This has the following advantages:

First, to prevent the elderly from dying in fear. Most people are born with fear of death, especially the elderly.

Let the old man die in the hospital, he will feel that the doctor has not given up, and he still has hope, which can effectively alleviate or even completely avoid (like my mother) the old man's fear of death before his death.

Second, avoid the misunderstanding of children by the elderly. As the saying goes, raise children to prevent old age. Especially when a person is old and sick, he is particularly dependent on his children. It can be said that there is not an old man who does not want his children to save him after he is sick.

Therefore, when the old man has an incurable disease, if his children choose to let him die at home, the old man is likely to have a feeling of "no more children". Perhaps, the old man won't say it, but his heart will be full of disappointment. It is even possible that his children are telling him to stay at home and "wait for death". And if the old man dies in the hospital, all misunderstandings can be avoided.

Third, you can set your mind at ease. Although life and death are involuntary. However, do your best to let the old man die peacefully. I think this is every child's wish. As a hospice care institution, the hospital is the best place for the elderly to die peacefully. Therefore, choosing to let the elderly die in the hospital can best reassure the children.

Of course, if the old man insists on returning to his roots and doesn't want to "die" in the hospital, we naturally have to follow the wishes of the old man and let him die at home.

In addition, the old man has fallen into a coma, and there is no point in staying in the hospital. Naturally, we can also consider letting him go home and settle down at home.

This is my answer to this question. Do you agree?

The topic should be: Is it better for old people to die at home? Might as well die in the hospital.

I think this question should be decided by each family member or the elderly! If I am terminally ill or have organ failure, it is meaningless to go to the hospital. However, if the children at home are afraid that if they die at home, they will have a shadow in their hearts when they live in this house in the future, then do as they think! However, I think if there is no therapeutic effect, we should give up the so-called rescue and unnecessary treatment. There is no need to delay life as much as possible. That kind of waste of money is not the main thing, and the patient is more painful. Giving up life is also the final liberation. If you are alive, you should be mentally prepared and face life and death correctly. Especially when you are old, don't think too much, let alone leave a will for your children to buy a cemetery! The ashes are fertilizer! You can plant anything, or scatter it to nature!

The old man passed away. Is it better to die at home or in the hospital?

There are regional differences in this issue.

In our small city, old people have a saying that people who die outside, including hospitals, will be ghosts in the future.

It is often heard that the elderly are in hospitals or nursing homes, and they should be taken home as soon as they lose their breath. Some even carry oxygen bags to maintain that breath, and when they get home and unplug them, the old man will be out of breath.

The reason for this is to prevent the old people from dying outside.

This is related to local customs.

Maybe it's the explanation of falling leaves returning to their roots.

After the Spring Festival this year 15, my mother went to the hospital because of severe cough caused by lung cancer and hydronephrosis. She stayed in the hospital for 12 days. After her cough symptoms improved, she kept calling home. My sister and I couldn't beat her, so we had to go home from the hospital.

Stayed at home for more than ten days, and then died. I left it at home.

Looking at my mother's serene appearance, I think my mother is satisfied. She just wants to die in her own house.

At present, the old people around the age of 80 or 90 are all from the old society to the new society, and feudal thoughts and superstitions are still quite serious.

I think with the passage of time, the older generation will gradually leave us, and the post-50s and post-60s in the new society will definitely change this concept.

Everyone has to face life and death. Environmental protection will become more and more standardized in the future. Perhaps our ashes will be scattered in rivers, lakes and seas, or planted under trees. ...

Here's what I think about this question. When the elderly are in serious physical condition, whether to spend their last time at home or in the hospital is an active and passive choice made under different customs and habits, different geographical environment, different cognition and different economic conditions, and there is really little consideration for its benefits.

Choose to let the old man die at home for the following reasons:

1, economic energy difference; The old man's illness can't be cured well. It costs a lot of money to see a doctor in the hospital, which takes up a lot of manpower and material resources. It feels unsafe to toss the old man.

2. The customs and habits of rural family gathering places: it is believed that the old people will die at home and have a safe and stable life, so that the old people can live and walk at home without losing their souls;

3. The hospital is too far away from home, so it is better to go home and take care of the elderly to save money, visit relatives and friends to facilitate reception, and take care of farm work at home;

The courtyard of the bungalow in rural suburbs is very spacious. At the last moment, let the old man put on the shroud, lie on the coffin bed, stop the needle and stop taking the medicine, and use water and rice. Children take turns listening and waiting;

5, the old man left, the community village Committee issued a death certificate, cremation for 3-7 days.

Choose to die in the hospital,

1. Spouses and children strive to prolong their lives and do not give up their last hope;

2, the attending physician's opinion is not clear, and no family members advocate giving up treatment;

3, knowing that the treatment is invalid, the family economy is affluent or the medical insurance reimbursement is conditional;

4, the children are busy with work, there are doctors and nurses at home in the hospital, and they also need a nursing nanny. Many of them involve energy, not to mention that urban housing is small and it is not appropriate to have more children.

5. When someone dies, the room will affect the owner-check in, rent out and sell. The house at home is small, so it is inconvenient to arrange anyone's house. It is quick to store cremation in the funeral home after the death of the hospital.

6. I am also a little worried that my relatives, friends, neighbors and colleagues will gossip and say "I don't try my best to save", and my face is not good.

Old people had better die in their own homes. This is also the last wish of the old man. But now many people are in cities and streets. I always feel a little afraid of dying at home. This is normal and understandable. I wish I had a house in my hometown. My father got lung cancer, which lasted for more than 4 months and has been at my brother's house in the street. There is a house in our hometown. He has been clamoring to go back to his hometown to die. It is inconvenient to take care of my hometown. One night, he told us that he had to go home tomorrow. Because he is really old. The next morning, my brother and his wife asked me to see my father. They bought what they needed and went home to clean up. Send my dad back to his hometown at 6 pm. He died at eight o'clock.

The old man passed away. Might as well die at home or in the hospital. There is no standard answer to this, I think it will work. I can only talk about the customs and habits in western Guangdong. I come from rural areas in western Guangdong and work hard in the Pearl River Delta. My mother followed me, too. We often take my mother to travel around and taste delicious food from all over the country. In the last two years, my mother's health has been getting worse and worse, and my mother asked to go home and live. We all know the saying that fallen leaves return to their roots. I had to send my mother back to my brother's house. I will bear all the living expenses and medical expenses. Visit my mother many times a year. After mom fell, we hurried to the hospital. The doctor did his best. People are old and mechanical. The doctor clearly told us that there was no cure. I asked my mother if she would like to come to the Pearl River Delta. The unconscious mother shook her head and refused. I asked her if she would like to go back to her brother's house. She shook her head and refused. In fact, my brother is against the mother's death in his own home, for fear of affecting the children's feelings. Although my mother was in a coma, she made the right decision for future generations. Finally, under our guardianship, my mother died peacefully. Finally sent to cremation and burial. I saw my mother off in a simple way. This is also the way for mothers to support. I also had a Chinese-style funeral with thick support and thin burial. Finally, I suggest a conditional arrangement to die at home! Unconditional in the hospital is also good. The hospital environment is clean and the service is good.

Where a person dies, in most cases, is not for him to decide. If you have a choice, it doesn't make much difference whether you choose to die at home or in the hospital.

As long as there is dignity and less pain in the process of passing away, it is complete. There is no need to worry about whether it is better to die at home or in the hospital. It doesn't make much sense to dwell on where to die.

Old people die, usually because of disease. Few old people died of illness. When the old man is ill, he will go to the hospital. Treating diseases in hospital is the right choice.

Some old people suffer from incurable diseases. Knowing that it can't be cured in the hospital, I still hope to be treated in the hospital. There are professional doctors and professional equipment in the hospital, which can prolong the life of the elderly to the maximum extent.

There are also some old people who have incurable diseases. I know that I can't cure the disease in the hospital, and I don't want to bear the pain caused by the disease. Choose to give up hospital treatment and go home to die. Sometimes, death is also a relief.

However, Brother Ran believes that whether you choose to die at home or in hospital, you should respect the wishes of the elderly. The old man stays at home if he wants to. Old people are willing to be hospitalized. Respecting the wishes of the elderly is what family members should do.