Mom and dad and balloons

On the first day after the summer vacation, my brother was playing games on the tablet. Dad suddenly shouted to his brother, "Turn it off. Holidays are not for you to play games, but for you to overtake in corners. "

The younger brother was so excited that he put down his mobile phone, walked into the bedroom with his head down, picked up his summer homework and did it.

Half an hour later, my mother asked my father to come out to help her. She first asked my father to blow up three balloons with a pump, and then arranged them neatly on the ground.

Mom pointed to one of the balloons and said to Dad, "Honey, what do you think this is?"

Before my father could answer, my mother slammed off the balloon.

"What are you doing? You scared me. "

"You just in the eyes of children is the balloon, suddenly burst. The child didn't have time to react and didn't know where he was wrong, so he was inexplicably scolded. " Mother said, "when the balloon exploded, we adults were all startled." Think about how the child just felt. "

Seeing that Dad was silent, Mom then pointed to another balloon and asked Dad, "What is this?"

Dad quickly grabbed his mother: "Don't let the balloon burst again. What do the neighbors think we are doing? "

But just as the voice fell, my mother stepped on the balloon again: "You know it's not good to keep stepping on the balloon, but have you ever thought that you are always like this?" The first time you yell at your child, the child is already scared, but as long as the child has a little delay, you will always yell at the child. Have you ever thought that when the child hears your incessant roar, is it the same as when you hear the second balloon explode? "

After that, my mother pointed to the third balloon and asked my father, "Should this balloon be blown up?"

Dad dodged a little, took his mother's hand and said, "Stop stepping on it. My children and I are scared."

"Children think so, too. You are busy working all day, regardless of the children. You come out to have a rest once in a while. When you see a child playing, fire it once. Whether the child is just starting to play, with or without his mother's permission, or learning by computer? If something happens, just blow it up. What do you think will happen if this situation lasts for a long time? Do you want to know what your child really thinks? " As she spoke, she motioned for her younger brother who was peeking at the door.

"Son, can you tell me how you felt when dad yelled at you?" Mother took her brother's hand and said to him very gently.

"Every time my father yelled at me, I felt that my father didn't like me, and I was scared. I feel that I am not as good as other children, and I don't like talking to my father more and more, and I don't like what my father said. " The younger brother whispered with his head down.

Mother held her brother in her arms and said to her father, "If you go on like this, the child will become more and more timid, less confident and secure, and have a bad personality." They may even be afraid to say what they think, and they are afraid to communicate with you when they encounter any problems or setbacks. They will only deal with it willfully according to their own ideas, and gradually develop the characters of "please" and "rebel". Is this the result you want? Besides, do children know what "overtaking in a corner" means? If you really want to educate your children, first of all, you should control your emotions. Don't yell at the children to vent. Instead, we should tell them the significance of "overtaking in corners" and guide them to cherish their study time during the holidays, so that their growth will be better and healthier. Don't you think so, husband? "

Dad was ashamed, walked up to his brother, knelt down and said to him, "I'm sorry, son, dad will never yell at you again." If dad does anything wrong in the future, just tell him, okay? "

"good!" Dad and brother pulled up the hook, smiled at each other and smiled happily.