Cut your daughter's long hair.

Before taking a bath last night, I said to my daughter without warning, "Your hair is too long. Cut it short, so you don't have to blow it for a long time after washing. "

Hearing this, she nodded in agreement and said that all she had to do was cut a small piece.

I asked my dad to bring scissors, and when he was a little bit more, my daughter immediately changed from long hair to waist to senior. My daughter looked in the mirror, looked at the long braid cut, and cried in an instant, which made my husband and I dumbfounded and looked at each other at a side, at a loss.

The daughter cried and said, "I can't braid my hair." Too short and ugly. "

My father and I quickly comforted her and told her that it looked good and that her hair would grow back in a few days. No matter how to enlighten her, she still cried very sadly.

Objectively speaking, it's a little short. She has kept it for almost two years and has never been willing to cut it. Moreover, she is at the age of loving beauty and wants to go to kindergarten with a beautiful hairstyle every day. All the little girls in the class have pigtails without exception. She is very practical. At home on weekends, she has learned to tie all kinds of braids by herself.

Thinking of this, I held her tighter and told her that her mother could understand his feelings. I am also very wronged. In fact, at that moment, I had a feeling of * * *, and the scene of cutting my hair as a child was vivid.

I think it was when I first went to primary school. My mother combs my braids every day, and my braids dance with me when I run. The most carefree and naive age, like my daughter now, feels like a princess in a fairy tale as long as she has long hair. How beautiful!

Similarly, my mother had a whim one day and cut my hair behind my ears like a tomboy. At that time, like my daughter, I cried very sadly. I feel that without my hair, I lose everything. No matter how my mother comforted me, it didn't help, and she cried into tears.

I forgot why I didn't cry at the beginning. I only remember crying after I cut my hair. So watching my daughter cry, I totally understand her. It's not unreasonable, it's normal venting. It's as if we can't find what we love so much, which makes us extremely sad and sad.

After that, my mother never dared to cut my hair again. Once again, when I was sad about cutting my long hair, it was already junior high school. I listen to Liang Yongqi's short hair every day, and I want to cut my hair impulsively. On that occasion, my cousin accompanied me to the barber shop. I don't know if it's my poor communication or Mr. Tony's unkindness. My long hair was cut into a boy's head again.

That is a teenage girl, and this wound really hurts my heart. This time, I didn't cry. On the way home, I was depressed all the way, so that I was in a bad mood and stuck in my heart. My cousin also saw my mind and always comforted me. I don't know how long it took, but I still cried when I got home.

These two haircuts left a deep impression on me. Recalling this, I stopped comforting my daughter and told her the experience of these two haircuts. Somehow, she stopped crying and began to smile through tears.

It turns out that everyone's experience can only be understood by others, but can't really feel the same. If I hadn't experienced the same thing, I wouldn't have felt my daughter's mood at that moment. She was really sad when I saw that moment.

I put a big braid cut by my daughter in my bag and told her that we had put her away. This is also a memory, and I know my daughter will be more sad to see it. She still agreed to let me put away the cut braids, and she wanted to see them again.

I also began to reflect on whether my behavior last night was too reckless. I didn't discuss with my daughter beforehand. Although children are young, they also have their own choices. Every time she grows up, she has her own growth trajectory, which is not controlled by adults and is not forced by adults.

I suddenly found that raising children is also a process of self-awareness and self-cultivation, and I will see my own shadow in children at a certain moment. And tell myself that I was like this in those days, so I want to get along with my children with an empathy.