Say what you want to say or what others want to hear.

Say what you want to say or what others want to hear? Nowadays, with the rapid development of media network, QQ, WeChat, Zhihu, Douban ... communication with people has become an indispensable part of our daily life. First of all, we believe that in interpersonal communication, to say what I want to say, that is, what the speaker wants to hear, it is important to consider the listener's emotional attitude. The difference is that the decision on the direction of the conversation is in your own hands or in the hands of others. I believe that the two sides will reach an understanding in one respect, that is, in dealing with people and things, we can't find a perfect solution to deal with this complex and ever-changing society because of different events and differences in our three views. No matter what I want to say or what he wants to hear, it is not a black-and-white opposition, but a universal opposition. But let's start with interpersonal communication, whether with parents, friends, lovers or leaders; We live together and get along for the same purpose: one is emotional demand, and the other is interest demand. And we all agree-saying what I want to say is more conducive to getting along with people.

Below I will demonstrate from the above two aspects.

Saying what I want to say is more conducive to my emotional needs. In today's society, more and more people choose to be more refined and more rounded. On the surface, they are like-minded, but they are not. This kind of knowledge, which is not established through sincere communication and collision of ideas, is not firm and lasting. Saying "I want to say" is not only the most effective and quickest expression of self-thought, but also the attitude of frank communication, which is the need of being a man and making friends. The purpose of communication is not only to improve oneself, but also to win. A person who always says that others should listen and do what he likes can neither bring objective opinions to his friends nor improve himself. It is our emotional need to say what we want to say. Each of us is eager for recognition and spiritual communication. If each of us says she wants to hear it, then there will be more and more falsehood and deception. How can feelings based on this relationship experience greater challenges for a long time? Lenin said that false friendship is a painful wound, and false sympathy is a sharp poison arrow. It is true that saying what you want to say may bring contradictions, but isn't a small contradiction the touchstone of our friendship? Life is so bitter, why say what you don't want to say against your will and form those false * * * sounds. As Fadev asked: Friendship! How many people in the world say this word refers to a pleasant conversation after drinking tea and mutual tolerance for weaknesses! But what does this have to do with friendship?

Speaking what I want to say is conducive to ideological prosperity and the progress of the times. In ancient times, people always thought that everything was learned, and the cultivation of human feelings was an article. In today's society, everyone is as tolerant as possible, which allows us to fully express our ideas. Dare to challenge authority and question, we need to have an attitude of believing in ourselves and dare to say what we want to say. Seiji Ozawa is a world-famous music conductor. Once, he went to Europe to take part in a command competition. In the top three finals, he was placed in the last competition, and the judges scored him. In the process of playing, Seiji Ozawa suddenly found that there was some disharmony in the music. He thought that the performer had made a mistake, so he directed the band to perform again, but he still felt unnatural. At this time, the composers present and the authorities of the jury solemnly declared that there was nothing wrong with the score, but Seiji Ozawa's illusion. Facing hundreds of international music masters and authorities, he firmly believes that his judgment is correct: "No! The score is definitely wrong! " The judges immediately stood up and congratulated him on winning the competition. It turns out that this is a trap carefully designed by the judges. Although the previous players also found the problem, they also gave up their opinions. Seiji Ozawa's success is precisely because he dares to question and is not afraid of authority, which shows that he is confident to say what I want to say. Dare to say, I want to say, is the courage to question. Every leap in human history is driven by the spirit of doubt. It was Darwin who boldly questioned creationism and revealed the mystery of human origin. It was Einstein who bravely questioned classical mechanics and created a new world of relativity.