Don’t make decisions for others if you don’t know their sufferings. Don’t persuade others to be kind if you don’t know their grievances.

If you don’t know the suffering of others, don’t make decisions for them. If you don’t know the complaints of others, don’t persuade others to be kind.

Whenever my husband muttered to me, this sentence appeared in front of my eyes.

The reason is this:

I like to use a gas water heater to take a bath, because it is not limited by time and I can wash slowly. My husband likes to use an electric water heater for washing. He said that the water temperature is more constant and the water volume is larger.

In fact, everyone knows that men take baths quickly, while women take baths slowly, so it is better for men to use electric water heaters, which have large and sufficient water volumes, fast bathing and short time. When a woman takes a shower with an electric water heater, she has to plan the time so that the water does not get colder and colder over time, making her wash in a hurry, just like a devil shooting with a gun. This is the most annoying thing, because taking a bath itself is relaxing. If you are in a hurry and being chased by a wolf, the feeling will be too boring and unsentimental.

Every time I take a shower with an electric water heater, my feeling is that you need to make precise plans, careful arrangements, and careful calculations down to minutes or even seconds, so that you can complete all the steps with a limited amount of water. program. If you are not careful, the water may become colder and colder, and people will become colder and colder. Summer is fine, but in winter, you will be asking for trouble. This is the biggest reason why I have refused to use an electric water heater to take a bath for a long time, because I think my head is enough to use up a box of water from the electric water heater.

So I like to use a gas water heater to take a bath. It can meet all my requirements. The water temperature, water volume, and time are sufficient, which are all in line with my personal requirements. I can take my time slowly. Washing is not limited by time. You can easily flush hot water and feel comfortable.

So whenever my husband complains that I use the gas water heater in cold weather, how can the water temperature be so cold and then heated up? The water volume is so small, and washing is so uncomfortable. Every time at this time, I I really want to slap him, but you are not me, how do you know how I feel? You're not me, and you can't take a bath for me. How do you know if I feel uncomfortable using it?

So don’t go through other people’s sufferings and don’t make decisions for others. I really want to throw this sentence at him, but seeing that others also have good intentions, forget it, listen with one ear and listen with the other ear. That’s it.

My former neighbor Sister Liu is a real miserable person, and her two marriages did not end. But she left behind two miserable children. Fortunately, if you have a mother, you have a family. With Sister Liu's unremitting efforts, the two children finally grew up and got married and had children.

Sister Liu’s hard days have finally come to an end. As she grows older, her parents have also reached the end of their lives. Under Sister Liu’s patient and attentive care, her parents have always been happy. Less than a year later, they also passed away one after another.

Sister Liu was finally liberated. Her children were adults and had children, and her parents had passed away peacefully. My responsibilities and obligations in this world have been completed, and the remaining time will be my own, and I can enjoy it.

Sister Liu herself is not in good health and has been having some heart problems. Therefore, she plans to take good care of her body and not cause trouble to her children.

Sister Liu’s ex-husband has also been unmarried since the divorce. However, more than 20 years have passed and the two of them have become strangers because the divorce was very tense. What this man did is highly regarded by everyone. He was criticized, so no one said good things about him.

Some time ago, I met Sister Liu’s ex-husband on the road. He took the initiative to greet me and said a few words. He said, can you go and talk to your sister Liu about the remarriage of the two of us?

I asked why we should remarry. After so many years, is it necessary to remarry now that the children have grown up?

He said: You see, the children have grown up and the grandchildren are in kindergarten. Your Sister Liu’s parents are gone too, and nothing will happen to your Sister Liu.

I said, yes, Sister Liu can finally enjoy the blessings, be free for once, and truly live for herself.

He said: Yes, she is fine.

You see, I still have a mother who needs someone to take care of her now. The two of us have remarried, and you, Sister Liu, can help me take care of her...

I stared at Sister Liu with my eyes wide open. My ex-husband, this is the reason why he remarried, he deserves a beating!

I asked: Have you helped take care of Sister Liu’s parents?

He replied: No, why should I take care of her parents? Besides, we didn’t remarry?

I said, I understand, goodbye.

He said, don’t forget to talk to your sister Liu.

Forget it, let’s just dream about remarrying for a person like this.

At the beginning, I thought it would be nice to have someone around to take care of Sister Liu because she was in poor health. What do these two people say? They have an identical son who lived together for a while. At this age, remarriage is also a good choice. However, to remarry for such a reason, this man is a bit too selfish and too arrogant! Why? Is the charm index too high?

I have not forgotten that when two people divorced, what this man did was disgusting. He moved all the movable things in the house, even the small bench where his son did his homework. He was such a man. He wanted to remarry while others had not thought about it carefully, but he came up with such a reason. Alas, I I really want to scold him.

Forget it, I can’t explain such a shameful reason. It’s better to let Sister Liu live a good life by herself. It’s better to live alone for the rest of her life.

Don’t know the suffering of others, and don’t encourage others to do good. Sister Liu's life is already miserable, so don't add any more chips to her hardship. The world needs kindness, but it also depends on who is being treated. There is no need to give kindness to such a person.

You have not personally experienced other people's lives, so don't point fingers. You don't understand other people's pain, and you don't even know other people's suffering. Don't know that others are suffering, and don't encourage others to do good. Live your own life well, live your own life well, smile to the world, and your habits vary widely.