A thought-provoking fable

A fable worth pondering: a crow is flying to the south. On the way, he met a pigeon and stopped in a tree to rest. The dove asked the crow, "You are working so hard, where are you going to fly?" Why did you leave here? "The crow sighed and said indignantly," In fact, I don't want to leave, but the residents here don't like my cry. When they saw me, they kicked me out. Some people even hit me with stones, so I want to fly somewhere else. The dove said kindly, "Don't waste your energy. If you don't change your voice, you will be unpopular wherever you fly. "

Many people always like to blame others, blame the bad environment, blame others for not liking him and not welcoming him, but he never reflects on whether his behavior deserves respect and welcome from others. If a person doesn't often reflect on himself and only complains about others, he will be as annoying as this crow.

From this perspective, a teacher who is not hated by students is a good teacher. When we meet students, will they come to you with a smile?

Story 2: On the same mountain, there are two identical stones. Three years later, there was a completely different change. Sculpture with one stone is admired and worshipped by many people. A stone has become a roadside stone, being moved around, often trampled and defiled. The stones on the roadside are extremely unbalanced and say, "Dude, three years ago, we were still the same stone on a mountain. Today, the gap is so big that my heart is particularly painful." The sculpture stone replied, "Dude, do you remember? Three years ago, a sculptor came. You don't want to change, but you are more afraid of the pain of cutting yourself. You tell him that you just need to simply carve yourself. At that time, I imagined the future, was willing to change, and was not afraid of the pain of cutting myself. So, the sculptor simply dealt with you. What about me? Hammering, hacksaw sawing, knife carving, gauze grinding ... I have experienced several times more changes than you and endured much more pain than you, which makes me different today! " Hearing this, the stones on the roadside felt ashamed and regretted.

After reading this story, don't think I want to be a student's "sculptor". In fact, every student is a "work of art" worthy of appreciation. What kind of person students want to be depends entirely on their own choices. We can't change them, only students can change themselves. What we have to do is to enlarge their beautiful side and make positive progress. When they are polluted, remove the decontamination juice for them. Encourage them to face life positively, be responsible for themselves and be sculptors of their own destiny.

Story 3: A king always felt unhappy, so he sent people everywhere to find a happy man and then brought his shirt back.

People looking for happiness meet people and ask, "Are you happy?" The answer is always: unhappy, I have no money; Unhappy, I have no relatives; If I am unhappy, I can't get love ... just when they no longer have any hope, melodious songs came from the hills opposite the sun, and the songs were full of happiness. They found the "happy man" with songs and saw him lying on the hillside, bathed in warm golden sunshine.

"Do you feel happy?"

"Yes, I feel very happy."

"All your wishes can come true? Do you never worry about tomorrow? "

"yes. You see, the sun is extremely warm, the wind is extremely warm, I am not hungry, my mouth is not thirsty, the sky is so blue and the ground is so wide. I'm lying here, and nobody bothers me except you. What am I unhappy about? "

"You are a happy man. Please give your shirt to our king, who will reward you. "

"What is a shirt? I have never seen it. " ……

Everyone is pursuing happiness, and everyone has a different interpretation of happiness. This story tells us that happiness is a symbol and a kind of self-awareness. The key is how to grasp this symbol and feeling.

Teachers' educational goal should be to pursue the symbol and feeling of students' happiness. Students' happiness is written on their faces.

Story 4: The frog in the well yearns for the sea and asks chinemys reevesii to take him to see it. Chinemys reevesii was glad to be a guide for the first time in his life, so he readily agreed. A turtle and a frog left the well and walked slowly to the seaside. The frog was surprised when he saw the endless sea. It croaked, eager to plunge into the embrace of the sea, but was hit back to the beach by a wave, took a few mouthfuls of salt water off guard and lost its way.

Chinemys reevesii saw it and told the frog to lie on his back and swim with it. A frog and a turtle are floating on the sea, which is very interesting. Frogs have gradually adapted to the sea and can swim by themselves for a while. In this way, they had a good time. After a while, the frog was a little thirsty, but he couldn't drink the bitter and salty sea water. It's a little hungry, too, but it can't find any edible bugs. The frog thought for a moment and said to the tortoise, "The sea is really good, but in my physical condition, I can't adapt to life in the sea." Most importantly, there is no food I can eat here. It seems that I will go back to my well, which is my paradise. "

So the frog bid farewell to chinemys reevesii and returned to his well, living a safe and happy life.

What suits you is the best, and education that suits you is the best education.

Mabcock said: "The most common and costly mistake is to think that success depends on some kind of genius, some kind of magic, something we don't have." In fact, the elements of success are in our own hands.

Successful educational methods are difficult to learn. If we are studious, I think the leader will let us go out to study at all costs and specialize in "golden touch". Then education will be simple. This story gives us a good inspiration. Education that suits you is a good education, and you don't have to care too much about the difference with famous teachers. Maybe you will say, "A frog in a well is a frog with little knowledge." Maybe you're right. The world we live in is really interesting. Everything has two sides, "good and evil", "positive and negative" and so on, depending on which side you look at. I think we should try our best to internalize other people's educational methods into our own, constantly improve our educational ability, and make our educational behavior have a distinct personality. Education that suits you is the best education.

Story 5: Selma accompanied her husband at a military base in the desert. Her husband was ordered to go to the desert to exercise, and she stayed alone in the small tin house of the army. The weather is unbearable-in the shadow of cactus, the temperature is as high as Fahrenheit 125 degrees. She has no one to talk to-there are only Mexicans and Indians around, and they can't speak English. She was very sad, so she wrote to her parents and said that she would leave everything behind and go back to the country. Her father's reply was only two lines, but these two lines remained in her heart forever, completely changing her life:

Two men looked out through the prison fence.

One saw the mud, but the other saw the stars.

When Selma read this letter again, she felt very ashamed. She decided to look for stars in the desert.

Celma began to make friends with local people, and their reaction surprised her very much. She expressed interest in their textiles and pottery, so they gave her their favorite textiles and pottery, and they were reluctant to sell them to tourists. Selma studied the fascinating cactus, various desert plants and physical conditions, and also learned about the groundhog. She watched the sunset in the desert, looking for conch shells. These conch shells were left tens of thousands of years ago, whether they were desert or ocean ... The unbearable environment became an exciting and unforgettable spectacle.

What made this lady's heart change so much?

The desert hasn't changed, nor have the Indians, but the lady's thoughts and mentality have changed. The difference in thoughts made her turn what she thought was a bad situation into the most meaningful adventure in her life. She was so excited about discovering the new continent that she wrote a book and published it under the name of Happy Castle.

In the same school, there should be no obvious difference in the knowledge level of teachers, and the difference is very small. However, this small difference often leads to great differences in educational effects. Positive educational mentality is easy to make education successful, while negative educational mentality will inevitably lead to educational failure. Before educational behavior begins, we must put ourselves in others' shoes.

Story 6: A mother likes to take her 5-year-old daughter shopping, but her daughter is always reluctant to leave. Mother felt very strange. There are so many colorful things in the shop, why don't children like them? Until one time, the child's shoes took off, and the mother squatted down to tie the child's shoelaces. Suddenly she found a terrible sight she had never seen before: all her legs and arms were shaking in front of her eyes. So she picked up the child and walked out of the shop quickly. From then on, even if she had to take the children to the store, she carried them on her shoulders.

What a careful mother.

It's really terrible to "squat down and look at the children's world", put yourself in the other's shoes with students and reflect on our education. When students make mistakes, they usually take some measures, such as asking questions, reprimanding and punishing. In this way, students will not feel safe at all. Imagine how effective unsafe education is. Many teachers, after educating their students, often feel wronged when they don't expect the expected results, and "good intentions are not rewarded." In fact, such a big temper is not as good as the emotional influence of tolerance, understanding and consideration.

Education should consider students' acceptance. Educate students with a caring attitude, so that education will have a sense of security, education with a sense of security will be effective, and students will have confidence, pursuit and action. The teacher gives the students a little care and makes them feel confident.

Remember, before the educational behavior begins, you must put yourself in the other's shoes.

Story 7: There are three such children:

A child can only talk at the age of 4 and write at the age of 7. The teacher's evaluation of him is: "slow response, illogical thinking, full of unrealistic fantasies." He once suffered the fate of dropping out of school.

A child was once complained by his father that he was an idiot. In everyone's eyes, he is a hopeless student. He failed to enter the art school after three exams. His uncle said in despair, "You can't teach an obedient child!" " "

A child is often scolded by his father: "What will you do after doing nothing but hunting and catching mice all day?" All teachers and elders think that his qualification is mediocre and has nothing to do with intelligence.

These three children are Einstein, Rodin and Darwin.

In fact, every student has a dream and a paradise of his own. We can't find it because we still lack a pair of wise eyes.

Story 8: A child couldn't figure out why his deskmate got the first place in the exam and got the first place at once. And you want to be the first in the exam, but you only got the second1in the class? ; When he got home, he asked, "Mom, am I more stupid than others?" I think I listen to my teacher and do my homework as seriously as he does, but why do I always lag behind him? "The mother listened to her son's words and felt that her son began to have self-esteem, which was hurt by the ranking of the school. She looked at her son and didn't answer because she didn't know how to answer.

Another exam, the child got the seventeenth place, and his deskmate was the first. After returning home, my son asked the same question again. She really wants to say that people's intelligence is really 369, and the person who comes first in the exam has a better brain than the average person. However, is this answer what the child really wants to know? She was glad she didn't say it.

How should I answer my son's question? On several occasions, she really wanted to repeat those words repeated by tens of thousands of parents-you are too playful; You don't study hard enough; Not working hard enough compared with others ... to prevaricate my son. However, is it hard enough for her son, who is not smart enough and has not made outstanding achievements in class? So she didn't do that. She wants to find a perfect answer to her son's question.

My son graduated from primary school. Although he worked harder than before, he still didn't catch up with his deskmate, but compared with the past, his grades have been improving. In order to express her appreciation for her son's progress, she took him to see the sea once. It was during this trip that the mother answered her son's questions.

Later, the child no longer worried about his ranking, and no one asked him where his primary school ranked, because he was admitted to Tsinghua with the first place in the whole school.

The story didn't mention what mother's answer was, which left us room for imagination. I think my mother's answer must be perfect!

The story does not give us a clear educational idea, but it can also give us some enlightenment: the head teacher should have the spirit of seeking "perfect answers" no matter what educational problems he faces. As long as this is done, the educational effect may not be good, at least it will not hurt students. As long as we do this, maybe we will not be good teachers, at least we will not be mediocre.

Story 9: There is a lake called Swan Lake. There is an island in the lake where an old fisherman and his wife live. Fishermen rock the boat to fish, and their wives raise chickens and feed ducks. They seldom communicate with the outside world except buying some oil and salt. One autumn, a flock of swans came to the island. They flew in from the far north to go to the south for the winter. The old couple are very happy to see this group of tourists from afar, because they have lived here for so many years and no one has visited them yet. The fisherman and his wife took out the chicken and fish feed they brought to entertain the swan, and gradually the swan and the fisherman became friends with his wife. They not only dare to walk around the island, but also dare to play with the boat when the old fisherman is fishing. When winter comes, the swans no longer fly south. They feed on the lake during the day and inhabit the island at night. When the lake froze and they couldn't eat, the old couple opened their hut to keep them warm and gave them food. This love lasted until spring came and the lake thawed. Day after day, year after year, every winter, the old couple pay their love in this way. One year, they got old and left the island, and the swans disappeared, but they didn't fly to the south, but froze to death when the lake froze the next year. Sometimes loving too much is also a kind of injury and fatal.

Does "love" hurt students in our work?

Always worried that students can't establish class order, the class rules we set up;

We are always worried about students' poor hygiene, so we set an example.

We are always worried about students breaking the rules, and we are very bitter;

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Students living in society must accept the beating of society. I hope that education is close to society and life, and that they can become fresh social people.

Story 10: The child is two years old and sees ants for the first time. Maybe other mothers will encourage her children to step on ants and exercise his courage. But the child's mother gently said to him, "Look, son!" " Mother ant must love her little ant very much! "So the child lay on the side and looked at the little ant in surprise. When it hit an obstacle, the child bridged it with a small hand and let it climb over. Mother looks very happy.

Later, the child went to kindergarten. Once, after eating bananas, he threw banana peels everywhere. She didn't turn a blind eye like some mothers, but asked him to pick it up and throw it into the trash can with him. Then I told him a story: a little girl, under the influence of her mother, always threw the garbage into the trash can. Once there was a trash can across the street, and she threw ice cream paper across the street. Mother watched her pass by. However, a car flew by and the little girl flew away like a butterfly. Her mother is crazy. She picks up other people's rubbish in that place every day. The local people were moved and stopped littering. They cleaned the green trash cans spotlessly, and put the little girl's name and beautiful photos on each trash can. Since then, that city has always been a beautiful city. After the story is finished, the child's eyes are moist. He said, mom, I'll never throw things around again.

The child is in primary school. But he is always late recently. The teacher looked for his mother. She didn't scold him or hit him. Before going to bed, she said to him, "son, will you tell mom?" Why are you still late when you go out so early? "The child said that he found it so beautiful to watch the sunrise by the river, so he went every day and forgot the time when he watched it. The next day, my mother went to the river with him early in the morning to watch the sunrise. She said, "It's beautiful, son, you are great!" " "On this day, he was not late. In the evening, when he comes home from school, there is a beautiful little watch on his desk. There is a note below: Because the sunrise is so beautiful, we should cherish time and study more, don't you think? Love, mom.

Later, the child went to junior high school. One day, the head teacher called and said that there was a serious incident that asked her to go to school. It turns out that my son peeked at an album in class, and there were several figure paintings in it! Her head is buzzing. After exchanging views with the teacher, she casually asked for an album for her son. The next morning, my son found a photo album on his pillow. A letter was posted on the photo album: Son, life is like a flower, and everything is beautiful. So a flower withered, and many years later, we can still remember it; So when a woman dies, thousands of years later, we can still miss her beauty, such as Li Qingzhao and Qiu Jin. Children, from the perspective of beauty, remember the details that move us, such as a fallen leaf, a sweater knitted by my mother, a girl who once bent down to tie your shoelaces ... One day, you will appeal to the world with your fragrance full of color and life, just like the little girl I told you when I was a child. People like her because she is an angel. ...

This extremely clever and great mother knows how to find that little advantage in her child's shortcomings and protect that little light in her life with meticulous holy maternal love! And that little bit of light that has not been extinguished will one day be sprinkled into stars, the moon and the sun all over the sky, illuminating the world we love deeply.

Let's keep the story in mind, think hard and feel hard. Let the educational wisdom sublimate, refine a pair of discerning eyes, and find the child "that little light." There will always be a moment when a meteor and a firefly are all beautiful scenery in the vast night sky, which makes us feel the uniqueness and uniqueness of every fresh life.

Let's work together! Let "caring for that little light" stay in our hearts forever and become the norm of our educational behavior.