How to pick up the bride when you get married? You must know the process of picking up the bride.

Just pay attention to what time it is.

1, knock on the first door

Before the groom marries his wife, he must knock at the door. Only after a process can he enter the bride's house. The significance of this process in our traditional wedding custom in China lies in "stabilizing the groom's temper". The bride's house will not easily open the door for the groom, and it will always go through several tests before opening the door. This custom has been popular ever since. Therefore, the groom should be fully prepared before entering the bride's house. What should he prepare? For example: red envelopes. In the past, the groom's red envelopes were scattered silver coins or dime notes. Times are different now. The groom's red envelopes are on the rise, with 100 yuan and 200 yuan's red envelopes long gone. A single hundred dollars is very common. Before entering the house, the groom should not only give red envelopes, but also answer questions raised by relatives and friends, such as the bride's birthday? Hobbies? How should the groom behave after marriage? Maybe let the groom sing a few songs to get in.

2. Don't rush to see the bride after entering the bride's family.

When the groom enters the bride's house, don't rush to see the bride, because the first thing the groom sees is that the bride is her parents. How can she go straight to the bride without saying hello to her parents? That would be rude. So when the groom meets the bride's parents, he must say hello first. How to greet them is also a science. It's no problem to call them directly, because they are registered and legally married. Some newcomers are going to change their names in the tea house, but now they are faced with how to call their parents, and it is obviously not appropriate to call them uncles and aunts. What should they call them? It can be called "parents", which means two old people. Two old people are neutral words, and there is no problem in how to explain them.

According to the wedding custom, there is a requirement for the number of in-laws to pick up relatives. The number of in-laws receiving relatives should be odd and even, which is the custom of "couples in pairs" in wedding customs. However, this kind of pressure is only directed at the husband's family, and there is no demand for the number of people to send their families off. Because in the past, the wedding custom meant that when a husband married a daughter-in-law, it was equivalent to marrying a bride, and the family basically did not attend her husband's wedding, so it was generally not concerned about how many people attended her husband's wedding. According to this custom, after the groom meets the bride's parents, he should introduce the bride's family composition, including the groom himself, which should be an odd number. After receiving the bride, it becomes an even number. The principle is that odd numbers go in and even numbers go back. However, there are many people accompanying the groom to meet his relatives, some of whom may be dozens, including photographers, photographers, friends of the groom and so on. The groom can master this. No matter how many people go to see his relatives, the groom only needs to introduce a few of them, such as the best man, brother or sister, and others don't need to introduce them one by one.

The bride's family should put some snacks, cigarettes, sugar, fruit and tea on the table. At this time, the bride's parents can be courteous and ask the groom to take care of the bride's family as a gift from the landlord.

Knock on the door and enter the bride's boudoir

The process of knocking on the second door is basically the repetition of knocking on the first door, but there may be new ways of playing, such as asking the groom to sign or read the guarantee, and asking the groom to pay the red envelope again. Grooms must calm down and be patient. Don't worry, who let us marry a wife?

After the groom enters the boudoir, there are three things.

(1) Holding flowers for the bride.

When the groom came in, he saw the bride dressed up and sitting on the bed waiting for the groom without shoes. The groom must first give the flowers in his hand to the bride. As for the posture, whether to bow or kneel, the groom should think ahead and find a relatively open angle for photographers and cameramen to shoot.

(2) Put a corsage on the bride

The corsage should be worn on the left chest. Generally, the brooch has only one pin. If the brooch is fixed with a pin, it is usually not fixed. The wedding dress is loose, and the corsage is easy to "clank" with its head down, which is very unsightly. Therefore, the bride must prepare more pins and use at least two pins to fix the stem of the corsage on the top and bottom of the wedding dress, so that there is generally no problem.

(3) The groom puts on new shoes for the bride.

In the old traditional wedding custom in China, the bride's shoes were not worn by the groom, but before going out. With the progress of society, the improvement of women's status and the great responsibility of men, the responsibility of wearing shoes is gradually handed over to the groom. Before the groom takes the bride out of his home, he should put on new shoes for the bride, which symbolizes that the bride and groom will spend the rest of their lives together.

Before putting on shoes, the bride's girlfriends often hide the bride's shoes before the groom knocks on the door, in order to keep her playmate for a while, and also to "sharpen the groom's temper." At this time, the groom must be patient and look for shoes. If he can't find it, he must ask the bride, because she must know where the shoes are hidden. If the bride doesn't know, no one else will remind her, and it's hard for the groom to find them. The schedule for picking up relatives is very tight. The time to find shoes should not exceed 3 minutes, otherwise it will take a long time to find shoes and the bride's departure will be delayed. All subsequent processes will be delayed. After putting on new shoes, the bride can take some photos in the boudoir and go out with the groom to meet her parents.

The groom must say a few words before going out.

For the groom, your parents took the eldest daughter away from you. Daughter is the darling of others. Can parents rest assured if they don't say a few words to make their father feel practical before going out? Therefore, before leaving the bride's house, the groom must say something like: Mom and Dad, please rest assured! I will be kind to her, responsible for her, we will be happy, and so on. We should give our parents a sense of security through words, otherwise they will be disappointed.

Generally speaking, parents will give the bride 1 two apples before her daughter goes out. She gave it to 1 and the bride took it. If she gives two apples, the bride and groom will have one, which means wishing her daughter or daughter and son-in-law a safe life. Newcomers should always hold this apple and make sure they get it to the groom's house.

The bride's aunt didn't attend the farewell.

According to the traditional custom, the bride's aunt can't attend seeing the bride off, and her pronunciation is the same as guessing "doubt", so we should avoid suspicion. The bride's aunt doesn't have to go to the hotel with the flower convoy. If she takes the float to the hotel, it is equivalent to seeing her off. Generally speaking, on the wedding day, the bride's aunt simply doesn't go to the bride's house and goes directly to the hotel. The bride's parents don't go with the flower convoy either. After the bride leaves, they will take a special bus to the wedding venue.

6. The problem of holding the bride

If the relatives and friends of the bride's family boo and let the groom carry the bride downstairs, the groom must consider the following questions:

(1) You can't leave the bride halfway.

Because once the groom picks up the bride, it symbolizes a kind of responsibility and can't give up halfway. This requires that the parking position of the float downstairs should not be too far away from the bride's house, otherwise the groom may have to walk hundreds of meters with the bride in his arms, and his physical strength will definitely be too much.

(2) The groom should consider the length of the bride's wedding dress.

If the wedding dress mops the floor in the process of going downstairs, the groom may accidentally step on the wedding dress, and the result of stepping on the wedding dress may cause two people to trip down the stairs at the same time.

(3) When going downstairs, there may be a problem that the bride is not there.

Some grooms, regardless, picked up the bride and went downstairs. At this time, photographers and cameramen who go downstairs before couples will take pictures from the downstairs according to the needs of the lens, and the lens will definitely take a glance, especially in summer. Therefore, the groom should also consider the exposure when holding the bride.

(4) It is best to hold the bride with her head, right foot and left foot.

The groom should hold the bride with his head, right foot and left foot. That is, the bride's head is in the groom's right hand and the bride's feet are in the groom's left hand. Why? Because the groom's corsage is worn on his left chest. If the bride's head is on her left breast, it will touch the corsage on the groom's left breast invisibly, and it will be broken accidentally when holding the bride. At the wedding scene, we often meet the groom walking around with a "flower pole". I asked the groom, "Did you hug the bride again today?" The grooms were surprised and asked me how I knew. I smiled and said to them, "I know it from your corsage." Where are the flowers on your corsage? " Only then did I realize that I was wandering around with a flower pole They panicked and asked me what to do. I can only make them another corsage or give them mine.

7. Assign a special person to arrange for relatives and friends to get on the bus.

The groom's family or the bride's family must arrange someone to manage relatives and friends to get on the bus. If there is no personnel management, there will be the following situations: relatives and friends go to the motorcade to pick up relatives, instead of rushing to get on the bus, they discuss who will get on which bus. Some advocate arranging vehicles according to the distance between relatives and friends, some arrange vehicles according to the standard of one car per family, some are willing to be with people who can talk to themselves, some have already got on the bus, and when they see familiar people getting on another car, they quickly get off to find their companions. The scene is hectic. If this phenomenon is not managed, it may take 7-8 minutes. The time to pick up relatives is precious. Don't waste time getting on the bus. So be sure to send someone to manage the boarding order. The best manager is the dispatcher of the groom's family who is in charge of the team. At this time, his task is to arrange for her family to get on the bus. No matter who gets on the bus, as long as it is full, we must tell the people on the bus not to get off again, and all our relatives and friends.