How to learn to speak and deal with people?

Learn to speak flexibly and pay due attention to "calculation", so as to learn how to deal with people.

1. Instead of going straight, it is better to use a roundabout method according to the opportunity, which is very effective.

Sometimes it is honest to go straight, but the effect is not very good, and sometimes it will be counterproductive. What people say, in a roundabout way, is just to make others sound clear and not hurt their feelings. He is happy, so are you.

In fact, the heart is strange, and it sounds like a thorn to say it directly. Therefore, it is better to use indirect complaints to make others more acceptable under the table and not disgusted. Compared with frankly speaking, the effect is better.

2. Hard words and soft words are like sharp language attacks.

The stone is hard, but it may not move. Water is gentle and weak, but it can drip through the stone. In many cases, it is better to strike hard than to be soft. Although the hard one is stronger, the effect is not necessarily comparable to the soft one.

In our life, many people are willing to listen to soft words, but a little reject hard words without feelings. When we want to convince others, we should be observant and say more soft words according to the specific situation, which will be more efficient and effective.

? Maybe you don't understand what I mean by hard words and soft words. Explain that hard words refer to words that are aggressive in tone, leave no room for others to retreat, and suppress others. Soft language refers to the opposite of hard language, pleading and pleasing, tactfully giving in, and having a mild tone.

3. Praise first and then criticize.

Although many people say that "good medicine tastes bitter" and "advice when you are least satisfied", how many people can listen to advice when you are least satisfied in real life? In interpersonal relationships, if you want to learn how to be a man, you must first respect others, even if it is criticism, you must first praise them.

In this world, whoever has not criticized others and who has not been criticized by others should pay attention to their attitude when interacting with others. Nobody wants to hear your blind criticism. Everyone has advantages. You should adopt the right way, let him taste the sweetness first, say a few more good words, and then point out his shortcomings, so that he will like you and listen to your opinions. Do things just right.

Don't say absolutely, learn to leave room for yourself.

Sunday: extremes meet, which makes sense. Have you ever found that there are many similar people around our lives who can't speak and say terrible things, and only after losing them do you know that you have put my foot in my mouth.

I have a friend who works in the company and made a new friend with similar interests. They are colleagues, and something happened to them together. Once, due to work reasons, her friend failed to give her the report in time. My friend was severely scolded by the leader and released malicious words: "You choose to leave next time."

So, in a rage, my friend said to her new friend, "From now on, there is nothing between us." Please hand in the report in time, and the responsibility is not yours or mine. " Later, because of this sentence, the two went further and further. Is such a person really good?

I have nothing to say. These are my suggestions. I hope everyone can learn to speak correctly, and then learn to behave appropriately and be friendly.