Polite prose about gossip

As for gossiping and polite prose, many people have come into contact with it in people's lives. There are many types of prose, such as emotional prose, essay prose, narrative prose, landscape prose and so on. Let's share some polite prose about gossip!

Polite Prose on Gossip 1 Nowadays, when chatting after dinner, it is often heard that someone comments on someone's polite or impolite pastime, and then praises polite people for how to live leisurely and despise rude people. How can they even live happily in the world? Hehe, um, what is "knowing manners"? What is "rudeness"? Is there a standard?

Yes But after careful investigation, it is found that the so-called standards are not all the same, and people have followed suit. In fact, people confuse education, self-cultivation, self-discipline and so-called moral standards, and then evaluate the so-called "ritual" behavior standards with the inherent ideology of "a certain".

So under such a "standard", I can't help asking: "Does the evaluator know what politeness is?" That's ridiculous.

Why is it ridiculous? Want to "understand the ceremony", the prophet "ceremony".

If you want to say anything, you have to take the word "courtesy" apart. A "gift" and an "appearance" contain too much information, and I am too lazy to delve into it, otherwise I can write a big book. I am still self-aware and incompetent. But you can still be a gossip.

Mainly talking about "etiquette", our Chinese nation is known as a country of etiquette. Why? Because we implemented the code of conduct of "courtesy" earlier than any western country, the Zhou Dynasty had the idea of "ruling the country by courtesy" three thousand years ago.

So what's the use of "ceremony"?

From Monday to the historical evolution of Qin and Six Kingdoms, the function of "ceremony" has always been the political tool of rulers. It can make civilians more obedient, make all classes more harmonious, and give people, tribes and countries a norm to maintain basic communication behavior. In short, "courtesy" was a tool for governing the country at that time.

But can it be cured? There is no cure.

During the Spring and Autumn Period, people have received the education of "courtesy" beyond measure. Everyone knows etiquette, everyone knows etiquette, and everyone keeps etiquette. This is a scene of a harmonious society full of love in the world.

Be polite even if you fight. For example, at this time, there will be a war between Qin and Wei. Before the war, the attacker needs to give the attacker an afternoon to say that he wants to hit you because of what he wants to do, just to make himself famous.

There will be a reply saying, "Wrong, misunderstanding ... but well, since you have come all the way, we will call it ...". Then, here, the State of Qin rode a thousand times ("riding" refers to the chariot at that time, and the evaluation of national strength in the Spring and Autumn Period depends on the number of riding), and there were hundreds of riding to defend the country.

Line up on the plain. Ten times as a group, take turns to send one to fight in turn, and a defeated chariot will return to the team, and no more fighting is allowed. Then count dozens of cars and see how many cars are left to judge whether to win or lose.

After the first battle, we should go back to camp and make an appointment to fight again ... At that time, there were several important indicators of "courtesy", such as older or younger soldiers, who were not killed after being defeated and captured and had to be put back. The purpose is to support the elderly and grow up.

The winner can't pursue, but the distance can't exceed 50 steps, and so can the runner (as the idiom pot calling the kettle black said at that time). Why can't you pursue it with your life?

Because it is rude. Can't "play hard". The pursuit of Qin at that time was like this. For example, after chasing the camp of Weiguo, you find that all the enemy soldiers have run away and only one car is parked there.

So the soldiers of Qin got off the bus and asked, "Why don't you run?" The soldier defending the country over there replied, "The car is broken and I won't go."

So the soldiers of Qin went to help repair the car. After it was repaired, they asked the soldiers of Weiguo how many steps it was away from us when it broke down. Wei Bing said, "How many levels?" ... then Qin's soldiers got on the bus, retreated a few steps, and then shouted, and both sides started running at the same time, chasing again ... After walking a certain distance, they stopped again.

I went to ask, but it broke down again, so I repaired it, returned it, and chased it again. ...

When we look at such events that happened at that time with modern eyes, we will certainly smile. Were our ancients stupid? Not stupid. Because this is the educational function of "Li".

Unfortunately, this "harmonious society" didn't last long, and only in the Warring States period did it cease to exist. Why?

Because the country has developed greatly, productivity has improved, and the surplus value of goods has increased, and the benefits are much greater than in the past ... At this time, your "gift" tells us that we can't use intrigue and sneak attack.

That's impolite behavior, not a gentleman's style ... Hehe, when you are a prisoner and are beheaded by cold and hunger, try to see if you can still say "courtesy".

So a grandson generously stood up and said, "Soldiers are treacherous." So there was the ideological prosperity of a hundred schools of thought contending in the pre-Qin period.

Soon, someone said contemptuously, "Isn't' ceremony' just' love'? Governing the country with love? Bullshit! " So someone lamented: "The etiquette is not good, and the music is not good! Sadly, alas ... ". But obviously, the development of human history needs the former, the former is a legalist and the latter is a Confucian.

Therefore, there is an unshakable knowledge of human civilization-"Governing the country according to law is fundamental. Human beings rely on love and etiquette to maintain social development in the face of interests-it will not work. "

However, as descendants of the Chinese nation who are not stupid, we have also passed down the latter's "ceremony" as a kind of culture.

In the final analysis, all leaders hope that the people in their country can use "law" to regulate their behavior and "ceremony" to educate their thoughts, so as to achieve "stability, harmony and long-term stability."

So since "ceremony" is a kind of culture, do we have to learn textbooks? Yes-the so-called Chinese studies. Is there a school? There is a school-the so-called family education. Do you have a certificate to take after graduation? And-that's the eyes of the masses.

So now that you have a certificate, it is more complicated. Diplomas can be divided into Tsinghua and technical schools, but look, are they divided into China people and foreigners? Or men, women, old people, children?

Speaking of "courtesy", we might as well tell two stories about China people and foreigners:

The story takes place in America. A China man attended a party at the home of a leader who worked for him. During this period, his children had a dispute with the children of the American leader. Americans don't care, and the children's affairs are solved by themselves.

However, the China employee couldn't sit still. According to China's traditional idea, beating a dog depends on its owner, so he indiscriminately asked his children to apologize to each other. The child said aggrieved, "He hit me first." The China employee said, "I don't care!

You must apologize! "What happened next was that when the child refused to admit his mistake, the father slapped the child, thinking that the child was impolite and didn't give face to adults ... As a result, American leaders and other guests condemned the China father very severely.

China's father was very wronged and defended the leader: "I hit my child because I respect you ..." The American leader was puzzled: "What is the connection between you hitting my child and respecting me? What logic is this? "

Yes, this is the "logic" of cultural differences between East and West.

Because according to the traditional concept of China people, if you eat snacks, your mouth will be short, if you get paid, your hands will be short, and when you get home, everything will be short, not to mention that you are a leader.

Respect the leader and treat the elders unconditionally ... If there is a problem, of course, we must educate the children first. Do you want to teach your children?

Justice? That's not giving you face, that's impolite, that's not modest ... so it's natural to hit the child.

The second story happened in China, just the opposite.

American leaders come to China employees' homes as guests. After the meal was served, China people enthusiastically picked up the best "big dish" on the table and put it on the plate in front of American guests. The American guest watched awkwardly, pushed the plate aside and said, "Sorry, I don't like hairy crabs."

..... so everyone was embarrassed ... China people thought this American was rude, so they refused his host's kindness and said it, which was embarrassing.

What Americans think is: "What's wrong with this family? It's rude of you to give food without even asking. Do I like eating? Am I disabled? Do I need your charity? Is your plate clean? ……"。 So the banquet broke up in discord.

Yes, this is another manifestation of the cultural differences between East and West. What China people think of as a "gift" at the dinner table is to "give alms" to each other what they think is the best, just like the food given by the ancient emperor to his lieutenants.

This is the greatest gift, whether you are hungry or not, whether you love it or not, whether you are allergic or not ... Anyway, it's called my "gift" ... You swallow something in front of me and pretend to be grateful. It's a "gift" for me, which reflects your understanding of "politeness".

Our "ceremony" always changes with "need" in the historical evolution, and changes with the times, which is incredible ... So we can often see such a scene in society: you invite a foreign leader to dinner and ask him: "What to eat? What to drink? " He said, "Whatever, don't drink."

That's really casual. Don't drink. When you invite the leader of China to dinner, he can say anything and he doesn't drink.

Why don't you try a bottle of Erguotou? Try to drink as little as possible ... so while holding high the slogan of freedom and equality for all, we severely criticize that it is a great violation for children to call their elders by their first names.

While calling for sincerity and frankness, I am angry that the other party has not kept smiling at you at any time. ...

"Rite" is the code of conduct for treating each other sincerely. Those who angrily accuse "Rite" might as well think about it: Do you want sincerity or hypocrisy? Or angry, harmful to health ...

In fact, most of us have turned "politeness" into a "prop" to support others to do evil. Such a "gift" is really unnecessary!

So how to treat people? Montesquieu, the founder of western country theory and legal theory from France, said: "The first principle of social people is freedom, equality and fraternity, not politeness. Let's embrace sincerity and abandon hypocrisy. "

Polite Prose on Gossip 2 China is known as "the country of etiquette", and paying attention to social etiquette is a major feature of the Chinese nation.

Etiquette, as an important part of China's traditional culture, has experienced ups and downs and is still integrated into the daily life of China people and the moral category of China people. With the deepening of reform and opening up, the construction of socialist spiritual civilization is in full swing, and the integration of traditional etiquette and foreign etiquette has become a fashion.

Have you noticed that the academic circles are constantly digging up and sorting out traditional etiquette, and etiquette monographs emerge one after another; In real life, there are countless forms of etiquette, such as miss etiquette in social activities, paying attention to etiquette services in business operations, setting up special schools to train etiquette talents, and being polite and modest in interpersonal communication, and so on.

Of course, Linda has all kinds of birds when she grows up. Some people in China don't know enough about etiquette, and their manners and speeches often violate etiquette. Will be sneered at, despised, scoffed at and even severely reprimanded by civilized people.

Isn't it? Spitting and smoking in public places; Talking loudly, guessing fists and frolicking in restaurants; Buses and subways forcibly seize seats and refuse to be polite to the elderly, the weak and the sick;

Open your chest and arms, pull up your slippers and enter the theater carefully; Can't smile, don't know how to shake hands, and are not good at honorifics in communication; Slightly upset, exports hurt people, and even use force; Some families are "filial piety upside down" ... these behaviors are contrary to traditional etiquette and incompatible with socialist spiritual civilization.

Confucius said, "It's a shame to be polite to everyone" and said, "If you don't learn manners, you can't stand". The founder of Confucianism regards etiquette as not only the basic accomplishment of individual "standing", but also the fundamental essence of social morality "harmony".

From this point of view, how to strengthen etiquette education, guide people to know and salute, and revive the "state of etiquette" is the meaning of continuing China's traditional culture and deepening the construction of socialist spiritual civilization.

Recently, I read the book Reading China, in which Zhu Guangqian, a famous aesthete, wrote a paper entitled "The Spirit of Music and the Spirit of Ritual". He thought:

Rites have three meanings, one is "festival", controlling one's own lust and advocating etiquette ("self-denial");

The second is "nurturing nature", which cultivates the goodness of character and mental health through continuous cultivation ("nurturing nature and making rituals");

The third is "Wen", which includes "preface", "reason" and "righteousness", so that the ceremony and the truth, goodness and beauty are integrated.

Proper appearance, natural appearance, polite manners, humble attitude and beautiful words can really create a kind of social beauty, natural beauty and artistic beauty, and then produce good social effects, which is proved by countless facts in real life.

Because ceremony is external, morality is sincere in China, and ceremony and morality are integrated, and morality and etiquette are integrated, conveying precious moral values.

Xunzi said: "Rude people are not born, rude things are not successful, and rude countries are not peaceful." It can be seen that etiquette is no small matter!