The helplessness of brother-sister love in today's society has played a role in killing two birds with one stone. Why?

Usually in China's traditional concept of marriage and family, the man must be older than the woman, which is a normal combination, otherwise he will be criticized or even accused by others. So is sister-in-law love good? What are the pros and cons to pay attention to?

Premise understanding:

Most of the reasons for the beginning of sibling love are that one or both of them can't find their favorite lover among their peers, but they see some characteristics they like in this sister or brother.

So since you love, listen to your heart and choose the person you love. This kind of cognition must be deeply buried in the hearts of both brothers and sisters, otherwise it will be difficult to last long.

One advantage of sister-in-law's love is that she can experience a different love experience from her peers.

The man's experience is less than that of the woman, so naturally there will be a little man's emotion, which will stimulate the woman's natural maternal feelings and take care of the man more and more. The woman's maturity and intellectuality also make the man realize that the girl of the same age is not his favorite, and he appreciates her more.

The second advantage of sister-in-law's love is that the enthusiasm for finding each other is much greater than that of couples of the same age.

Because of the age difference, two people are likely to have different growth experiences, so both sides are actually very happy to listen to the other half from different ages telling their childhood experiences. Finding each other's enthusiasm is like being exposed to new things and being curious to explore.

The third advantage of sibling love is that it is easier to learn from each other and get along more harmoniously.

Because the woman is older than the man, she will have more social experience than the man, and what the man needs most is experience, so at this time, what the man has learned will have great significance and function. Women also need to learn more new technologies and ideas from men. If two people can learn from each other and appreciate each other, then they will get along more harmoniously.

One of the disadvantages of sibling love is that the generation gap is too big to be bridged.

If the age gap between two people is too large, it is likely that there are differences in values, world outlook and outlook on life. This profound ideological difference may lead to a great generation gap between them and eventually separate them.

The second disadvantage of sister-in-law's love is that the man's financial pressure will be greater and the woman will be more anxious.

Every relationship can become a relative without considering the result, and the practical problems need to be deeply thought by both sides. When both brothers and sisters need to face marriage, they will encounter problems such as unsuccessful career and poor financial resources for young men, while the woman is anxious because she is too old to leave enough time for her husband. This may be one of the reasons why brother-sister love can't go to the marriage hall.

With the development of economy and society, sibling love is becoming more and more common now. However, in reality, it seems that everyone still has some scruples about brother-sister love. In fact, both physically and psychologically, sibling love has its advantages. Perhaps, the relationship between brother and sister can really go further.

For a long time, men's and women's concepts of mate selection have matched each other. For example, men always look down on them, and when looking for a wife, they look for a young and beautiful one, preferably eighteen. Women, on the other hand, look forward to it all day, hoping to find a mature man older than themselves as a husband. It would be best if he were rich and gentle.

With the development of economy and society, unconsciously, the traditional concept of love between men and women has been broken, and many men find older women as wives! This is what we usually call "brother-sister love". This has greatly subverted the traditional concept of mate selection. However, since the love between brother and sister exists, there must be a reason for its existence and its unique benefits.

One: Sister needs a younger brother to love.

Women's maternity is innate, in fact, maternity can not be narrowly understood as mother's maternity to children. Motherhood is an innate instinct. Treating younger brothers and sisters will also have the shadow of "maternal love". Some women will be happy to find a younger man as a partner, because they will find that when they treat their younger husbands, they will be more addicted to love. This is not that they are mixed with other feelings in love, but that they are born with genes. They are always willing to take care of and pay for what they love. As my brother's lover, I also want to have someone to lean on when I am weak.

In addition, men in China have been criticized by women for being too dependent on their mothers, and the love between brothers and sisters can just solve this thorny problem. The younger brother's lover feels the mother's breath in the older partner, which can make them get along smoothly. A woman can kill two birds with one stone by caring for her brother and lover with maternal love and satisfying her hobby of caring for others.

Finding a younger brother and lover does not mean that a woman is the pillar, but a man is still the pillar between two people. So, find a young husband. Although young, it is still a sky at home. All the frustrations and grievances of the wife outside can be confided to the "younger brother". My wife is old, and when she encounters difficulties, she can be more tolerant of her husband!

Two: I just need a little rationality.

Men always like cute girls, but they don't like to coax you all the time. They always take care of your emotions and put their own aside. It is ok to do this for a while, but no one can do it for a long time. Sometimes, after work, men also want to be spoiled with women, and it is also a pleasure for everyone to switch occasionally.

Although entering the new era, the traditional marriage mode of "the man is the master and the woman is the master" is still quite popular, and it is natural for men to support their families. On the other hand, it also puts a lot of pressure on men objectively. No one wants to go home to face his wife's small temper after a hard day's work. When they drag their tired bodies and minds into the house, all they need is a little rationality from their wives. They can take good care of their families, and they don't want him to be a judge who decides cases. When you are physically and mentally exhausted, your wife can take care of her feelings more and don't let her lose her temper blindly.

So, find an older, rational but lovely wife. When he needs a warm hug most, it won't be a little temper and incomprehension. Men are always good at dealing with big and small things, plus a sensible "eldest daughter-in-law", they will not rely too much on their husbands, so family and social affairs will definitely get twice the result with half the effort.

Three: Brothers and lovers can make women younger.

What a surprise. Having a younger brother and a lover can make a woman become young unconsciously. One is in sex. Sister-in-law's love life is generally harmonious. Because women are relatively mature, they will tolerate men's youth. It is rare for a man to have a mature partner when he is young.

The second is in maintenance and dressing. You have a younger brother and lover by your side. As a woman, dare you be casual with yourself? Maintenance is therefore put on the agenda. A woman who knows how to maintain will enjoy the beauty of life, invisibly have a good attitude towards life, and the whole person looks younger. In terms of dressing up, watching each other's youth and liveliness will make me younger with dressing up. In this respect, women can benefit a lot from the love of their sister-in-law.

Four: My brother's lover makes feelings sweeter.

Because I am young, expressing my feelings boldly is conducive to my emotional development. Because there are few real incongruities between people, most of them are bad emotions caused by various friction misunderstandings in life, and they feel that they are not suitable for each other, which eventually leads to emotional breakdown. Brother and lover go straight, virtually breaking the barrier. Even if a mature woman is used to formality and reserve, she will become enthusiastic, and it is natural that their feelings will heat up. You know, not only people need vitality, but also feelings need vitality, which determines how long it can burn.

Every morning, from the moment he opens his eyes, he will say "Dear, I love you", "Dear, you are the most beautiful in the world", "Oh, how lovely" and so on. Can you not be hypnotized?

Five: the interdependence of life.

Sister-in-law love is just an objective love phenomenon, and we can't attach moral shackles at will. Everyone needs true love. Does this have anything to do with age? Even if you encounter something you can't understand, you can't turn against each other at once. Just as we couldn't understand that the earth was round before, now we think it's not natural?

Just as a woman's coquetry does not depend on her age, a man's master will not change because she is young. As long as there is true love, age is not a problem. What matters is how we treat them rationally. If you hesitate because of your age and miss a good man who suits you, it's really not worth the candle.

Although the love combination of "brother and sister love" is not mainstream, its existence is reasonable, and this kind of love does have many advantages.

The love between brother and sister has broken through the secular barriers, and both cherish this hard-won affection, so the emotional foundation between them is solid.

Under the influence of young boyfriends, women in "sister-in-law love" will be younger, more active in thinking and more energetic than their peers. Men, on the other hand, will expand their horizons and ideas and mature rapidly under the influence of mature girlfriends. When two people establish a virtuous circle, they will get more fresh nourishment in their relationship.

Sister loves her brother because he has maturity and unique charm that other men don't have, and brother loves her because she has elegance and gentleness that other women don't have. Without excellent men and excellent women, there would be no wonderful brother-sister relationship in the world.