Don’t believe the saying that “middle-aged couples should sleep in separate beds”. Why?

I read an emotional chicken soup article, which said that "middle-aged couples should sleep in separate beds properly". The reason is that firstly, "a little separation is better than a newlywed". The two separated for a while and then got back together. Hug to sleep. The second is "Away from her husband's snoring, the wife's sleep quality will improve, her physical and mental state will be better, and the husband will also regain the freedom and comfort of his youth." To be honest, these theories and reasons may At first glance, it seems reasonable. Therefore, this chicken soup article has indeed received praise and recognition from many readers. However, in fact, at this stage of middle age, couples should not sleep separately. These opinions are more suitable for older couples.

Why do you say that? When people reach middle age, the couple has generally been together for more than ten or twenty years. The novelty is gone, and the children almost no longer need the couple to worry about, so it is even more necessary to look for "shadows of the past." Sleeping in separate beds at this time will inevitably aggravate differences and make the couple drift further apart.

In the Chicken Soup article, the relationship between middle-aged couples is described as entering a "stable period". In fact, it is not so much a "stable period" as a "bland period", with dull relationships and dull life, and at this age , whether it is a man or a woman, the body is still very energetic, and modern people take good care of themselves, and their appearance is still "young". Just because we know that youth is gone, most people in middle age have not enjoyed life when they were young, so they will cherish this last "young tail". In addition, now that life is getting better and their pockets are bulging, "people "The young heart is more alive", so "second spring" is particularly easy to breed.

Would sleeping in separate beds at this time give outsiders an opportunity? As the saying goes, "If the fence is tight, wild dogs can't get through." To be honest, if the husband and wife sleep in separate beds at this time, they will no longer be together physically and mentally for a long time. Even if we have different dreams in the same bed, let alone sleeping in separate beds.

Furthermore, I wonder if you have ever thought about the issue of "habit". When we were children, we were used to sleeping in our mother’s warm arms. When we grew older, we could sleep on our own. It's a little uncomfortable at first, but after you are a teenager, you will feel very awkward if your parents want to sleep with you again. "How old am I, how can I sleep with you again!" Then he hugged the quilt and went to his room. But when you reach adulthood, you will mature physically and mentally, and you will long for a lovely person of the opposite sex to sleep with you. The days of sleeping alone with a pillow make you unable to sleep alone.

After getting married, this wish comes true, which will make people feel comfortable, stable and happy. In middle age, even if the passion is gone, after sleeping together in the same bed for so many years, there is family affection even if there is no love. People are very familiar with the bed, and the emotional warmth is still there. If you sleep in separate beds, you will not get used to it after a long time, but once the habit becomes natural, it will be troublesome.

Also, middle-aged people are the backbone of the family. Outside, they either hold important positions and work hard, or they do some very hard work and work hard. At home, there are parents and children. When we get home, the opportunity to be alone and talk to each other is probably when we go to bed at night. There are not always women who complain, "Except for the children, I have nothing to talk to my husband." Before going to bed, talking about what is on the heart and giving each other a chance to communicate is actually very important for middle-aged couples to consolidate their relationship. If two people get "accustomed" to sleeping in separate beds, then there will be no opportunity for such communication, and there will definitely be nothing to talk about in the future.

Emotional summary: Middle-aged couples, whose relationship has entered a dull period, need to create romance with each other, create communication opportunities, find shining points in each other, and work together to deal with various problems in life and work. Let the relationship reach a new level and lay a good foundation for a lifetime of companionship. Sleeping in separate beds is not a good idea. Maybe it is too early to sleep in separate beds.